Emva komtshato, ngamnye umtshato, enye indlela okanye enye, uzisa into entsha kwintsapho esanda kuyenza, kwezinye iimeko nokuba yimfihlo evela kwixesha lakhe elidlulileyo. Njengomthetho, ixesha elithile "linganiki imiqondiso yobomi", nangona kunjalo, njengoko kwaziwa, imfihlo iyacaca ...
Oku kusebenza nakwizonxibelelwano ezithandwayo zanoluntu, apho abantu abatsha banqwenela ukuthetha ngaphezu kwehlabathi lenene. Ngokuqhelekileyo abafazi bayayibona umfanekiso othe rhoqo umyeni uhambelana nabantu abancinci, kwaye unokuba, kwaye kungekhona mncinci kakhulu, kodwa ongekhohlisi kakhulu!
Ingakanani le nto isongela umtshato? Ngaba ubuhlobo obunjalo bukhokelela ekuqhawuleni umtshato? Uninzi lweemvakalelo ezikugqithiseleyo: ukuxhalaba, ukwethuka, ukungaqiniseki kwixesha elizayo ... entlokweni kukho imibuzo emininzi kunye nezimpendulo ezikhawulezayo kubo "kubalulekile ukuba ummeli wakhe angavumelani" kunye "kwaye ukuba ndiyenze kakhulu?".
Sisiphi isizathu salo mkhuba womntu? Amanye amantombazana, atshate, "ukukhetha" umntu, ukuguqula ubomi bomntu okhethiweyo ukuba abe ngumntu obomvu, ulungiselele i-hyperopeak, ngelixa unelungelo lobomi bomntu kunye nembono yakhe, ezivaliwe kumanye amazwe, kuquka nomlingani womfazi. Oku kuyinyani ngokukodwa kwindoda, ngokuba inkululeko iyona nto iphambili yomtshato ovuyayo nofezekileyo.
Nangona emva kokuba abathandekayo bangene ekusebenzisaneni, umntu kufuneka abe nomuvo wokuba unomdla kwaye unyanzeliswa ngabafazi - oku luhlobo lokuqinisekiswa kobulili bakhe. Ngaloo ndlela, unxibelelwano olubonakalayo lunceda ukujamelana nomsebenzi obelwe wona. Kwimeko apho umyeni unezihlobo kunye ne-soc. amanethiwekhi amaninzi amantombazana - oku kubonisa ukuba akaqinisekanga kuye.
Ukungabaza ngobomi bendalo, ngoncedo lwaloo "lolonwabo" luphakamisa ukuzithemba, luziva "lukhuphiswano" kunye neentombi zakhe ezinomdla kakhulu. Ngoko ke, kungcono ukuzixhasa kwaye ubonise ukunyaniseka kumntu oyintanda kunokuba kuya kwenziwa kuwe nayiphi na i-vertigo ye-Intanethi.
Ngendlela, phawula - kukho umehluko omkhulu kumntu wakho othetha naye - kunye namantombazana angaqhelekanga okanye ngamantombazana, awayekade edibanisa ubudlelwane bokuthandana naye.
Kwimeko yokuqala, ukuba uqaphele, ungathathi ncokola yindoda. Kutheni?
Umhlali waseAlaska washawula umyeni wakhe, owayehlala naye iminyaka engama-8, ngenxa yokuba wayehambelana nabafundi ababefunda nabo, kodwa ngokukodwa umfazi wayemothuke ngento ebalulekileyo yokuba umyeni wakhe uthumele imiyalezo kwikhompyutha esebenzayo. Ngethuba ekubonakala kwakhe kamva, wachaza lo msebenzi ukuba ube ngxakeko. Kodwa, njengoko wafunga, "ngokwenene" akazange atshintshe umfazi wakhe, yonke into yayinganiselwe kukudlala ngothando. Kodwa, ke, lo mfazi wahlala enamathela ...
Ukuba i-MCH yakho isebenze ekudibanisaneni nentombi yakho yangaphambili okanye umfazi, kwaye ngokucacileyo ayengathethi ngezingane, ngoko kufuneka uqaphele!
U-Irina, ekubeni ngumfazi osemthethweni ngeveki, washiya umyeni wakhe kuba wafumanisa: umyeni wakhe akayekanga ukuthetha nomhlobo wakhe omdala, odibana naye phambi kwakhe. Umzila wokugqibela wokunyamezela kukuba le nto iqabane liye layithandayo ixesha elide lithandekayo.
Kwakhona, le ndlela yokuziphatha yomntu inokuchazwa yinto yokuba iqabane alifuni "ukudlula". Ngokufanayo, okokuqala, kuba, njengoko uyazi, akukho buhlobo phakathi komfazi kunye nendoda. Abanye babo banethemba lokuqhubeka kobudlelwane.
Indlela yokuba yimeko enjalo kumfazi? Emva koko, akunakwenzeka ukwakha ubomi obonwabileyo ngokungaqiniseki rhoqo kunye nokubandezeleka. Kufuneka uqale ufunde ukuqonda oko kwakuphakathi kwakho, loo mvakalelo eqaqambileyo wena, mhlawumbi, uhlangana kunye nanamhla. Kubaluleke kakhulu kwaye indlela oye wafunda ngayo ngolwalamano lwakhe, "uboya" kwi-intanethi okanye yena ngokwakhe wayethetha ngako.
Yilo lathisi yintoni ubudlelwane phakathi kobabini bakho olawulayo.
Mhlawumbi, intsapho yakho ephosakeleyo ijongene neengxaki, ingxabano kulwalamano. Yaye ukuba ucinga ukuba ulwalamano lwakho selufikelele kwintlanzi, kuba ngabahlobo abafihlekileyo-ubungqina obucacileyo beli.
Thetha nomyeni wakho ngokucacileyo. Makube nemfihlo. Kuyathakazelisa ukuba yena ngokwakhe uya kuthetha malunga neemeko zangoku, ulujonga njani ngolu hlobo? Kufuneka ukuba asuse umntu ongaziwayo kwintlalo. unxibelelwano, ubuncinci abubonanga, kuba ayiyi kubuyisa ukuthembela okulahlekileyo kulwalamano lwakho. Iqabane lingasuswa ngokupheleleyo kwaye lizaliswe ngokupheleleyo kwihlabathi elithe tye. Kule meko, kungakhathaliseki ukuba umfazi onothando angathanda ntoni, umyeni ngokwakhe uya kukhetha, kuba unelungelo lokufana nokufana nolonwabo.
Ewe, unokuba nobukhwele obungapheliyo, kodwa unokugqiba ukuba kwakuyinto exabisekileyo kulwalamano. Futhi ungazami ukuziphindisela ngokuthenga enye ikhomputer kwaye uchithe ixesha elininzi kwiindawo zokuthandana - akunakwenzeka ukukhokelela entle into enhle ...