Kodwa ukuba, ngaphezu koko, wonk 'ubani unobomi bakhe: uxoxa ngeemfihlelo zakhe zothando kunye neentombi zakhe, kwaye uyazifihla ngokufihlakeleyo ngabafana, konke kukubambisana. Kwaye oku kuhle! Kodwa umntu, kunoko, nje umhlobo wakho, kungekhona umhlobo. Yintoni okuyimfuneko ukukhetha uthando okanye ubuhlobo kunye nendoda yamaphupha akho? Ubuhlobo bubonisa ukuthembela ngokupheleleyo, akunjalo? Ukuba unesiqinisekiso sokuthi ungathetha nale nsizwa kunye nezihloko zobuqu, ungaphuthelwa ithuba. Okokuqala, cacisa ukuba akaphikisanga ngoko ukuba akukho ukungaqondani. Ukuba uyavuma, zive ukhululekile ukubuza, kuba akukho ncebiso yomhlobo onokuthi uqhathanise nolwazi abafana abanokukuxelela malunga nabafana.
Ngubani ophefumula ngokungalingani?
Ngokuqhelekileyo kubuhlobo phakathi kwentombazana kunye nomfana, kwenzeka ukuba omnye wabo uva novelwano olunzulu ngaphandle komhlobo. Unxibelelwano olunjalo lunokuba lukhululekile kwaye lude, ukuba ungenako ukuphawula "i".
Ukuba umntu uyabubula ngokubuhlungu kwaye yonke into ilindele ithuba lokubonisa iimvakalelo zakhe, ngoko mvumele akwenze. Kwaye ke, ukuba ungekho ulwalamano oluthandana naye, ngokunyanisekileyo, kodwa uchaze ngenyameko ukuba unomdla kuwe kuphela njengomhlobo kwaye ngumgangatho owuxabisayo kuye. Vuma ukuba awufuni ukudlulisela unxibelelwano lwakho kwelinye nqanaba. Kwaye ke kuyacaca ukuba ukhetho lwakho luya kulwa nothando okanye ubuhlobo kunye nomntu wamaphupha akho. Ukuba uyavumelana nesiphakamiso esinjalo, unokuqhubeka ucokola, kwaye awuyi kuhlushwa ngenxa yokuhlambalazela kwesazela, ukuba uyayihoxisa imvakalelo yomntu ongenamdla kuwe.
Ukuba uyaphupha malunga nalo kwaye ngoko uyavuma ukuba ubekho kuphela ngesiseko ukuba ngelinye ilanga uya kucinga ngokukhethekileyo kwaye uhlale emthandweni, ungazibandakanyi ekukhohliseni kwaye ungahlali kunye neengcamango. Ngoku uyaneliswa yile fomati yobudlelwane. Nangona kunjalo, into enye unelungelo loku: xelela ngemvakalelo yakho. Musa ukuphendula iimpendulo, kodwa vele uchaze uze ubuze into enokucinga ngayo lo mntu. Mhlawumbi, uya kuthi: siza kuba ngabahlobo, kwaye mhlawumbi yena wayecinga ngobudlelwane bokuthandana. Uthando okanye ubuhlobo kunye nomntu wamaphupha akho konke, kwaye unxulumano olunjalo lunokwenzeka.
Ukuba kukho intlanzi ...
Ngamanye amaxesha kwenzeka ukuba ubudlelwane bobuhlobo buba yintando. Ukuba ngaba obabini bayaqonda ukuba awusayi kuthetha nabo njengabangane, kodwa njengabathandi, sekuyisikhathi sokuxoxa ngazo. Ngaphandle koko, ukudideka kuya kwenzeka. Thetha ngokuthe ngqo malunga nento oceba ngayo: bobabini bavumelana kwisigaba esilandelayo sobudlelwane okanye ubuhlobo bubiza kakhulu?
Nangona kunjalo, kuhlale kunokwenzeka ukudibanisa ezi zimbini iifom, kungcono ukuba isibini sinesithakazelo esifanayo, kwaye bayazana kakuhle - kuya kubakho ukuxabana nokungaqondani okwenzekayo ngexesha "lokuqhawulwa" kwabathandi. Ebomi, yonke into iyatshintsha, ngoko kulungele umngcipheko, kuba loo nto iyakuxubana. Uthando okanye ubuhlobo nomntu wamaphupha akho unemiqathango emininzi: mhlawumbi uya kudibana kunye, kwaye kungekudala uhlala, okanye uza kuhlala uhlobo oluhle.
Kukho nawuphi na , kufuneka ugcine ubudlelwane obuyimfihlo kunye nekwenkwenkwe yakho: ukuba ungayisebenzisi, ubeka umngcipheko ukushiya umfana kwaye ungahlali naye njengomhlobo. Kwaye ukuba uhlala ungumhlobo wakhe, unokufumana ithuba lokuphinda ubuye ubuhlobo bakho kwakhona. Umele ucinge malunga nokuba kulungile ukuqala ubudlelwane nomntu owamthanda kubuhlobo.