Zonke izihlobo zilindele umtshato, kwaye ngaphambi kokuba umtshato ungafiki. Xa iimvakalelo zidlulile ngokungenakwenzeka kwiintlobo zamaqabane, luhlobo luni lomtshato okhoyo ... Wonke umntu uyaqonda ukuba kwakungenalo uthando, kungekhona uthando lwangempela, kodwa kuphela uthando lwabalingani phakathi komnye. Kwaye mhlawumbi lo thando alukaze lukhule lube luthando? Kutheni?
Xa abantu beqala ukudibana, umnqweno wemvelo wabalingani bobabini ukujonga emehlweni omnye umntu ongcono kunokuba ukhona. Le yiphutha eliphambili ekwakheni ubudlelwane phakathi kwabathandi. Ngexesha le-candy-bouquet, ukungaphumeleli ekukhuliseni nasekuziphatheni abo asebenzisana nabo, kwaye okubakhombisa ukukhanya ekungabonakaliyo emehlweni abathandekayo, bathandekayo, bahlolisiswe ngenyameko kwaye bangaboniswa kumlingane. Ulawulo olunjalo luqhubeka luze lube nolwalamano oluza kuthethwa ngothando. Ingcaciso yenzekile, ukuzithemba kuye kwafika ukuba ixesha le-candy-bouquet seliphelile kwaye ngoku liyakwazi ukuphumla. Le yilapho ingozi enkulu yabalingani ilala.
Abalingani baqala ukuziphatha ngendlela abasetyenziswa ngayo kwimpilo yemihla ngemihla. Kwaye abantu bahluke ngokupheleleyo. "Kutheni ndizange ndibone oku ngaphambili (l)? Unesiqhwala, unobungozi, kungekho konke (okunjalo) njengento (oh) ndiyicinga yona? "Kwimeko yokuthandana, umntu akayikubona ezi mpazamo (zifihliwe kwimiba yabalingani), kwaye ngoku amaqabane awafuni kunye nabo ukuyibeka nokuwamkela. Imilinganiselo yomlingane yomnye umntu ayibekezekanga kwaye iyanyanyeka. Abathandayo inxalenye. Ewe, ukuba kwenzeka ngaphambi komtshato, kwaye ukuba emva koko, umtshato uqhawuleza. Yintoni eyenzekayo kwintando yangaphambili? Xa iimvakalelo zidlulile ngokungenakwenzeka kuzo zombini abalingani, abanokubambisana kunye kwaye abafuni, ngoko ke indlela efanelekileyo yokubambisana isisombululo esifanelekileyo-ukuhlala ngonaphakade, ekugcineni ukugcina ubungqina obuncinane.
Ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ukuba ngexesha lokukhathala okukhulu, umzekelo, ngexesha lokuzalwa komntwana okanye ngexesha lokukhusela le ngqungquthela, ukucaphukisa kubutha kwiqabane. Abazali abancinci banomdla ngenxa yeemfanelo ezintsha, wonke umntu uzama ukususa kuye isisombululo seengxaki, nangona kuya kubakho ukuzisombulula kunye kunye, kuya kuthintela ukucaphukisa nokugcina iimvakalelo. Kwaye maxa wambi abantu abatsha abanomdla abafuni ukuvuma ukuba akunakwenzeka ukuba babe kunye, kuba omnye wabo unomsebenzi ophuthumayo okanye omnye umcimbi osapho obaluleke kakhulu. Emva koko ukucaphuka komzimba kukhula, amaqabane akakwazi ukujamelana nayo, kwaye bobabini banomuva wokuthi iimvakalelo ziyahamba zingenakwenzeka kubo bobabini. Oku kubonakala kwengxaki, kunokusombululwa ukuba, okwangoku, ukuqonda ubunzima bomntu obathandayo kunye nokudibana naye xa esombulula iingxaki zakhe. Emva koko unako ukusindisa iimvakalelo. Ngelishwa, ngamaxesha anjalo, iimvakalelo zigqithise umgca, ngokugqithiseleyo abantu bakwazi ukuthetha omnye nomnye amazwi angamnandi, ahlaselayo, "inqaku lokubuyisa" lidlulileyo, ngoko umzuzu ufika xa amaqabane acacile ukuba iimvakalelo zabo zidlula, akukho ntando, isisa kunye nentlonipho komnye nomnye. Ngoko ungazami ukubambisana, wonk 'ubani unelungelo lokuhamba, akayi kuqonda ukungabikho kobudlelwane njengento yokuhlambalaza okanye ukuthotywa, qondisisa ukuba esi sigqibo sisona sinye kuphela kwaye sivumele ukuba sihambe ngokuthula. Ubomi kule nto abuphelanga, kuba nolwazi oluhle ekwakheni ubudlelwane, qalisa kwakhona, ngoku uya kuphumelela, kholelwa kuyo.