Kuphi ukufumana indoda kumfazi emva kweminyaka engama-40 ubudala

Ngoko-ke, makhe sicinge ngeso simo - kuwe umhlobo othile-umntu, umhlobo, umhlobo, ummelwane, omaziyo kumhlobo okanye ummelwane wommelwane uye wakhathalela ixesha elide kwaye engaphumeleli. Kwaye, ngenxa yesinye isizathu okanye ukunye, ukutshatana kwakhe kukunciphisa. Mhlawumbi iqabane lakho lijongana nale meko ngaphandle kokuqonda.

Mhlawumbi wena ngokwakho awucinga ukuba oku kuvumelekile. Okanye unobuso obubi, amasokisi ebhokisini ephuzi kunye nomtya wombala ongafanelekanga. Musa ukukhumbula. Into eyona nto kukuba ugqibe ukugqiba loo mzekelo uze umxelele uNo. Kwaye umbuzo uvela - njani ukwenza oko?

Kuphi ukufumana indoda? Lo mbandela unenkxalabo kungekuphela nje amantombazana amantombazana, kodwa kunye nabafazi "beminyaka yobuhle". Ukuze uqhelane nomntu akhethiweyo aze atshate ngokuqala kwiminyaka yakhe encinci, kunjalo, kulula. Kodwa indlela yokuba ngabafazi abasebekhulile, ngubani othe wayeshadile, wakhulisa abantwana waza waba nozukulu? Umnqweno wokonwaba awuxhomekeke kwiminyaka yobudala. Yaye ukuba ufuna ukutshata, kufuneka usebenze. Vuka kwiqhekeza lakho elityebileyo kwaye uhambe apho amadoda angomso atholakala khona. Akuyimfuneko, ewe, ukuxhoma isibonakaliso esithi "Ndifuna ukutshata" okanye ukusekela iinjongo "ukutshata kuloo nombolo okanye enjalo kwikota" - ukuba uya kuthusa nje abaqeqeshi bakho, kodwa kufuneka ulungele ukulindela ulonwabo. Esi simo sengqondo siyakongeza kwi-charm ekhethekileyo, i-flying gait kunye ne-glitter emehlweni.

Yiba nezixhobo ngokupheleleyo, nangona uhlala wedwa ekhaya, nangona ubalekele esitolo esiseduze sesonka. Oku akuthethi ukuba, ngokuqinisekileyo, kufuneka uhlale unesilenze, izithende kunye nesambatho sakho esihle, kodwa abafazi banokuhlala behle xa befuna, kwaye akuxhomekeke kwiingubo, iingubo okanye izimonyo. Into ephambili kukuhlala ihlambuluke kakuhle, inambatho kwaye igqoke kakuhle kunye nethemba lovuyo emphefumlweni. Musa ukulibala malunga nomdlalo omdala wokudlala ngothando, udlala ngothando, kungenjalo indlela umntu aya kuqonda ngayo ukuba awunxamnye noqhagamshelwano. Yaye ungagxininiswa kwinto yokuba akukho madoda aneleyo kwilizwe lethu, akuyi kuba neleyo kubo bonke, bonke abantu abalungileyo batshata. Abaneleyo abo abafuni ukuthatha amanyathelo ekuvuyiseni kwabo.

Ngoko unako ukuzama ukuhlangabezana nesiphelo sakho, umzekelo:
Siphetha ukuba kukho iindlela ezininzi zokuthandana kwaye akubona zonke ziboniswa kwinqaku lam. Isibini esitshatileyo esitshatileyo siya kuxela, phantsi kweziphi iimeko zothando nezingaqhelekanga abaye bazazi.

Izindlela zokuziqhelanisa ezininzi - musa ukuba zivila, zizisebenzise kunye no "Ubukhulu bakhe kwiNkundla" ngokuqinisekileyo uza kuziveza.