Ngethuba lethu akusasetyenziselwa ukutshata esemncinci, kuphela ukuphumelela kwiziko okanye kungabi nexesha lokungena. Amantombazana anamhlanje ahluke ngokukodwa kunye nokuzimela. Kwaye ngaphambi kokuba batshatile, bafuna ukuziphilisa kakhulu, bafumane imfundo ephakamileyo, benze umsebenzi, banikezele ubomi kwaye banqande iingxaki zemali, oko kuthetha, bazinyame. Kwaye ndidibana nokukhathalela kuphela ukuthanda ngokwayo, kwaye kungekhona ngokuphila. Kodwa wonke umntu unobomi bakhe nenyaniso, ubudlelwane bakhe nembono ebomini. Ukufana kusemnye kuphela, ukuba zonke iintombazana ngokukhawuleza zifuna ukubhalisa ubudlelwane.
Uqeqesho lubonisa ukuba emva komtshato kulunge ukuhlala ngokwahlukileyo kubazali. Kwindlu kufuneka kube nkosikazi enye kuphela, kwaye endlwini yabazali bomyeni inkosikazi iya kuhlala iyininazala. Ewe, kwaye malunga nokuhlala kunye noninazala akukho nto yokuthethayo akuyimfuneko, kuba akusiyo into yokuba amaninzi kunye nama-anecdotes ayenziwe malunga nobudlelwane phakathi komkhweka nomkhwekazi. Kubudlelwane bentsapho encinci, akufanele uphazamise nabanye abantu, nangona esondeleyo. Ngeparadesi enhle nakwindlu, kwaye indawo yokuhlala eyahlukileyo kwindlu encinci iya kubakholisa ubomi bentsapho.
Kubalulekile ukuba ulungele ukuba ubomi emva komtshato buyatshintsha kwaye kakhulu. Ixesha le-candy-bouquet lakhokelela ekujoliswe kuyo, inkozana leyo yanqotshwa kwaye kungekudala iza kuba ngumfazi. Ngoku intombazana inemisebenzi eyongezelelweyo: ukudala induduzo endlwini, ukugcina ucoceko, ukupheka. Emva komtshato, amantombazana anethuba elincinci ngokwabo, kwiintlanganiso kunye nabahlobo kunye nokuzonwabisa. Le ndoda ayinakuyinyamekela kangangoko ngexesha lobudlelwane. Uyazi ukuba ungumdlali wakhe onqotyisiweyo kwaye osemthethweni. Kusemagqabini okuqala okuhlala kunye kunye nokuqala ukungquzulana kwimiba yasekhaya. Ngenxa yezi zizathu, umtshato wasemzimbeni, ukuhlala ngokubambisana ngaphandle kokusemthethweni ubudlelwane kuxhaphake namhlanje. Umtshato womtshato uvumela ukuba ukwazi ukuzazana, ukuze ufundise omnye nomnye kwimpilo yemihla ngemihla.
Kodwa musani. Okokuqala, ubomi emva komtshato kuxhomekeke kubini bobabili. Ubomi bentsapho ngumsebenzi omkhulu. Yaye iya kuba yinto eqhelekileyo okanye ayiyiyo-incike kuphela kubafazi. Ubomi emva komtshato alusekelwe kuphela kwaye kungekhona kakhulu kumthando, njengokuba kukho ukunganyaniseki, ukukwazi ukuphulaphula isiqingatha sakho nokuva oko utshelweyo, kungekhona oko ufuna ukukuva. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba intombazana ingayi kuyeka ekuphuhlisweni kwayo. Ngokuphindaphindiweyo emva komtshato, amantombazana azinikele kuphela kumlingane, eqondisa zonke iimfuno zabo kunye nezifiso zabo kuphela. Kodwa ngokwenene umyeni wakho uye wakhula kakhulu ukuba awuyiyo inkosikazi enhle kunye nomgcini weziko. Wabona kuwe umntu onomdla kunye nehlabathi kunye neminqweno. Ubulumko bowesifazane buyakwazi, emva komtshato, ukudibanisa umyeni wakhe ngokunyamekela kuye, ngokusebenza kwakhe ngokomoya nangokwengqondo.
Ubomi emva komtshato, kuphela okuhlukileyo. Kodwa oko kuya kuba, kuhle okanye kubi, kuxhomekeke kuwe. Into ebalulekileyo ukuyikhumbula kukuba uthando lwakho ludinga ukuxhaswa ngokuhlonipha, ukuxoxwa kweengxaki, ukulungelelanisa rhoqo. Khumbula ilizwi eliyaziwayo: "Indoda yintloko, kwaye umfazi intamo". Ibhinqa kufuneka ibe nobulumko kwaye iqine, kuba yonke into isezandleni zayo kwaye akufanele ihlise!