Ukuqulunqwa kobudlelwane kunye nesisombululo seemeko

Ukukwazi ukuthetha ngamazwi kusinika ithuba elonwabileyo lokukhawuleza ukucaciswa kobudlelwane kunye nesisombululo seemeko. Sisoloko singena kwingxoxo-kwikhaya okanye kwishishini, ngamanye amaxesha nathi. Ngokuqhelekileyo izichasi zethu ngezizathu ezahlukahlukeneyo (ngokukodwa okanye ngokunyaniseka okumsulwa) ziqhubeka zikhusela iinjongo zazo, ezahluke ngokupheleleyo kwizethu, okanye kuzo zonke izixhobo zokunxibelelana ezinokwakha.

Indlela yokuqhuba incoko ngokufanelekileyo ngokwaneleyo ukuza kwisisombululo esihlangeneyo?

Ubugcisa bokuthintana, ngokukodwa ukuziphatha kwempikiswano, akubonakalisi nje ukukhuthazwa okucacileyo kunye namandla okuqiqa. Akukho mfihlo yokuba ukunyamezela ukuzama ukufumana ukuqonda okufanayo kunye nomnxibelelwano kunokukhokelela ekucaphukeleni nokukhawuleza komdlali, ukungafuni ukuqhubeka nencoko, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ukumnyanzela ukuba angabi nantoni. Ngenxa yoko, endaweni ye "ewe" efunwayo, uya kufumana inkani "akukho", kunye namathuba okuphula loo donga iya kudlalwa.


Injongo: ukufumana umzuzu owamkelekileyo wokufumanisa ubudlelwane kunye nezisombululo zeemeko zexesha kunye nexesha elincinane elichithwe, kwiimeko ezinobungane.

Qala ngokucacisa ulwalamano kunye neminqweno yomchasi: uyintoni eyinkxalabo, into ayifunayo, into ayifunayo. Ukuqonda iinjongo zokuziphatha kwakhe. Yintoni efihlakeleyo emva kokungabikho kokuza "kwi-denominator"? Kukho izizathu ezininzi zezi zinto: ukucaphuka, ukungathembeki, ukwesaba ukuhlala "unqatshiwe," inkani engavamile ... Okanye akafuni ukuba nomdla wakho. Olu luvavanyo olunzulu lomonde wakho.

Iingcali zinikela ngeendlela ezinhlanu ezilula, ezilandelayo, unalo lonke amathuba okufeza injongo.

1. Zigcine ngesandla

Kukho nawuphi na, ungavumeli incoko ingene kwi-banal squabble-oku akunakucacisa ukucacisa ubudlelwane kunye nokuvumela imeko. Qaphela, thintela ukuphendula ngokuzenzekelayo kumagama omnxibelelwano. Khumbula: injongo yakho kukufezekisa injongo yakho, kungekhona "ukugqiba" umdlali wakho.

2. Thatha ecaleni

Hayi, ayikho nayiphi na indlela ibhekisela ekuthunjweni. Kule nqanaba, umnqweno wakho kukucima le meko, ukugxotha ukusola, iimvakalelo ezimbi zomnxibelelwano, zimenze aphulaphule. Intetho iluncedo kule nto, njengale: "Ewe, oku kulungile ...", okanye "Kunzima ukuvumelanisa nale" ... Ngexesha elifanayo, kubalulekile ukuba uqhubeke ngokuqinisekileyo kwaye ube nethemba ukuchaza isikhundla sakho, ugcizelela ukuba Isivumelwano esizuzisayo sinokwenene.

3. Chaza iinjongo


Emva kokutshintshana kobudlelwane "obunxantyiweyo," ixesha lokutshintsha ugxininiso kwi-bidding malunga neenjongo ezikhankanywe ukuxoxa ngeendlela zokuzifezekisa ngamacala omabini. Mamela ngenyameko kumnxibelelwano: kufuneka achaze ngokucacileyo izikhundla zakhe. Mbuze into abone ngayo intsingiselo yenkinga, leyo, ngombono wakhe, iyayichaphazela isigqibo sayo. Leli nqanaba elibalulekileyo - ukutshintshela ekufuneni ngokubambisana isisombululo. Mxhaphaze intsebenziswano, ngokukhawuleza "ukukhululwa phambili" kumdlali. Iigodo "ndincede ndiqonde ukuba uyayibona njani," "cacisa, nceda ..." "gwinya" phantse yonke into. Kodwa khumbula: umboniso wentlonelo kunye nomdla kufuneka ube ngunyanisekileyo!

4. Ngenxa yokunqoba kwakho!

Incoko elubudlelwaneni uye waya ekhayeni, kodwa akufanele ukhululeke. Ukukhawuleza ngokugqithiseleyo ekugqibeleni kokuthathethathelwa ingozi yokucaphukisa okanye ukukrokra komdlali. Okanye, ngokugqithiseleyo, ukukhawuleza kunokukwenza ukuba umntu odibanisa naye azive "anqatshiwe". Emva koko zonke iinzame zakho zezopolitiko ziya kuhamba. Yakha umdlali wakho "ibhuloho yegolide yokubuyela." Akufanele "alahlekelwe ubuso" ekupheleni kwengxoxo. Emva kokuba wenze yonke into ukuqinisekisa ukuba "yebo" wanikwa ngokulula ngokukhawuleza, uphumelele kwi-duel.


5. Into enobungozi

Ukuba awukwazi ukuphumeza u-"ewe" ebudlelwaneni bakho, zama ukwenza kube nzima ukuba umchasi athi "cha." Isitoreji sibe nomonde kunye neengxabano ezinamandla, ukuzisa ulwazi "kumdlali onzima" ukuba ukuhluleka ukufikelela kwisisombululo esinokubaluleka kuya kubiza ngaphezu kwamacala omabini. Ukuphelisa ukwesatshiswa okanye ukuxhatshazwa - oku kuya kukhokelela kumjikelezo omtsha weengxabano, kwanokungqubana. Emva kwakho konke, awuyidingi intshaba, kodwa iqabane lakho ukufezekisa iinjongo zakho.