Oko uyenze kuqala - kukuzama ukuqonda isizathu sokushiya umyeni wakhe. Akufanele ukhiqize nantoni na, kodwa kubalulekile ukuqonda oko kubangele ukuhlukana kwakho. Kwaye ke yicinge nje malunga nendlela yokubuyisela ukukhishwa komyeni wakhe komnye umfazi. Ngokuphindaphindiweyo emva kokucinga okuthile, abanye bahlala bodwa, bahlala kwilizwe labo, apho bengavumi mntu. Ukuba oku akuzange kwenzeke, kodwa ukuba uyayiqonda isizathu sokushiya umyeni wakhe komnye, kufuneka sithathe indlela enzulu kakhulu kumcimbi wobomi bentsapho. Ngesinye isikhathi babenza amaphutha baze baziphatha ngokungalunganga. Ukuphinda ucamngce ngezinto eziphosakeleyo ngokuziphatha kwabo. Konke oku kuyimfuneko ukwenzela ukuphepha iimpazamo ezinjalo kwixesha elizayo.
Ibhinqa ngalinye ligqiba indlela yokubuyisela kwindoda yakhe yokuhoxiswa komnye umfazi. Ungakwazi ukuhlala ukhala kwaye ukhathazeke ukuba indoda yakho ishiye enye, okanye unokumomotheka uze uqale kwakhona. Emva kwakho konke, ukuba uyayiqonda, akukho nto eyoyikisayo eyenzekayo, usaphila kwaye uyaphila. Kwaye umnqweno wokulila kukuba wonke umfazi oshiya ebuntwaneni, ngaloo ndlela ukhangela ingqalelo. Unokukhala xa uhlamba okanye umsila, wakhala ngokukhawuleza ebhentshini epakini elishiyekileyo, kwizithuthi zikawonkewonke, unokumemeza kwendalo ... ukuba uhambe nje ngezolo, inyanga enye edlulileyo okanye ezintandathu.
Xa usengumntwana - oku kuqondakalayo, kwaye xa umfazi omdala sele ekhona, akunakuncedo ukuthululela iinyembezi, simele senze into ngokukhawuleza.
Kuya kuba nzima kakhulu ukuza kuwe ngokukhawuleza, kodwa kufuneka uzame ukuqina kwaye uzenzele kunye.
Nazi ezinye iingcebiso kuwe.
- Okokuqala, kuya kufuneka uhlalise, kuba awunjalo ngowesifazane wokuqala oye kwenzekayo kwaye kwenzeka ntoni. Unokucinga ukuba lakho ityala liyesona. Kodwa zicinge - akukho mntu ufile, akukho nabathandekayo bakho abagula ngesifo esingenakuphulukiswa, ngoko lakho ityala aliloyiko njengoko libonakala.
- Inkumbulo yethu yenzelwe ngendlela eninzi esiyikhumbulayo izinto ezilungileyo kuphela, kwaye zonke izinto ezimbi zivela kwimvelaphi. Kwaye uthatha ipeni kunye nephepha elingabhalwa iphepha uze ubhale kuzo zonke izinto ezimbi ezazingokwemvelo kunye nendalo yomyeni wakho. Emva kokuba ubhale, funda ngokuphindaphindiweyo amaxesha amaninzi, ulahlekise, ngoko uya kulahla umxhaphazi wakho
- Ungasebenzisa ifowuni yokuthembela okanye uncedo lweengcali zengqondo okanye ukukhala kumhlobo wakho omhle / umhlobo. Ufuna nje ukuthetha. Kodwa ufanele uxoxe nabazali bakho. Kwaye kwangaphambili le ngxoxo iqhutyelwa, bhetele. Musa ukuyibeka ebhokisini elide. Baya kuhlala beqonda kwaye bexhasa isigqibo sakho, nokuba kunjani na.
- Unokuzama ukutshintsha into ebonakalayo. Shintsha isitayela seenwele kunye nombala weenwele, utshintshe isitala kwiingubo. Yiya ngokwakho okanye kunye nomhlobo kwiivenkile, uzenzele ngokuthenga ezintsha. Ungesabi ukutshintsha ngaphaya kokuqaphela.
- Musa ukuzivumela ukuba ube noxolo. Usizi lenza umntu aphinde agxininiswe.
- Nika impindezelo, kuya kubakho nto. Umchasi wakho, mhlawumbi, ufanelekile ngamazwi ahlukeneyo, kodwa ukuba ungathethi nto, uya kuba phezulu kunako. Musa ukuhlaziswa kwaye uqale ukuthetha naye. Masibe sesazela sakhe. Akusiyo into yokuba kukho umzekeliso olungileyo: "Awukwazi ukwakha ulonwabo kwintlungu yomntu."
- Ungalindelanga ukuba uya kubuya kuwe. Ungazami ukumisa. ukuba uthe wagqiba isigqibo, ngoko uya kuba namandla okumyeka.
Ndifuna ukukuxwayisa ngezinto ezimbini:
- Akuyimfuneko ukuvumela ukuba umyeni aphile "kwizindlu ezimbini", edlula kwelinye ibhinqa ukuya kwelinye ukuthelekisa, apho ulunge kwaye uyonwabile.
- Musa ukutshintsha isigwebo somyeni wakhe ngenxa yokuba wakushiya omnye umfazi. Oku kuya kukuchaphazela kakhulu kunye nentlalo yakho kunye nomtshato, okhoyo usekhona. Nangona ungathathi isigqibo esilungileyo nesilungileyo, uza kwenza ntoni emva koko, oku akufanele kwenziwe. Kule ndlela kuphela uza kuzuza into entsha.
- Kufuneka ufumane into enokuyenza. Ukuba ngaphambi kokuba ungenayo ixesha lokwenza ngokwakho, yile mzuzwana xa ufuna ukubhalisa ukufaneleka, ukuya kwindawo yokuzivocavoca, kwiiklasi kwigumbi. Unako ukuya kwimidanso yaseMpumalanga, isangqa se-ceramics, uye kwiindawo zokudlala, i-cinema, ukuthetha nabahlobo, ngokuqhelekileyo, ungazivali.
- Isenzo esingalunganga sekhadineli abafazi abasoloko besisebenzisa ukugcina umyeni kukunyanzeliswa kwabantwana. Njengoko umzekelo ubonisa, imibambano esekelwe kwiinkalo ezinjalo ayizinzileyo, kwaye kungekudala okanye kamva uya kukushiya kwakhona. I-psychic yabantwana iyingozi kakhulu kwaye ukuba abantwana bayasetyenziswa, umntwana unokufumana ingxaki yengqondo. Emva koko, nangona umyeni eshiya, akuthethi ukuba uyamlahlela umntwana wakhe. Kule ngongoma, kubalulekile ukubakhusela ekucaciseni isimo sengqondo kubantu abadala.
- Unokuzifumana isilwanyana esincinci, apho uza kuthwala yonke inzala yakho kunye nomdla. Ngubani oza kunikwa ithuba lokukhulula.
- Ukuba kunokwenzeka, ke uye kwindawo ethile yokuphumla encinane, umzekelo, unokuya kwelinye ilizwe. Ndikholelwe, nakuliphi ilizwe onokuphumla kwaye uphumle, faka iingcinga zakho ngokulandelelana.
- Kufanelekile ukuthatha eli nyathelo, ngxaki yakho nangentlungu, kwaye kwikamva uza kuba ngumntu onoyolo.
Kubalulekile ukuba ukhumbule kubo bonke abafazi ukuba indima yomama onomdla kunye nomfazi omhle akuyona into, kwaye intsingiselo yobomi ngezinye amaxesha kungekhona nje ukuba uyathandwa ngumntu. Ngenxa yokuba iimeko zingenziwa ngokuhlukileyo. Simele sifunde ukuzithandayo, ukufunda ukuba ngumfazi wangempela, kuphela ngale ndlela ungayenza ebomini. Kubalulekile ukufumanisa ukuba kukho ubomi ngaphandle kwamadoda, loo mntu unokuhlala wedwa. Yingakho kufuneka uzibonele kulokho uphuphayo malunga nobomi bakho bonke.
Ngoko musa ukuphelelwa yintliziyo, bafazi abathandekayo, uthando, ulonwabo kunye nenhlalakahle yentsapho kuwe nentsapho yakho.