Kakade, i-holiday romance ayikho kuwe. Awuhla phantsi kakhulu. Kodwa ulala elunxwemeni, kwaye umntu onomdla ukhangele kuwe. Kwaye awuziqondi wena: kutheni intliziyo yakho iqalisa ukubetha kangaka? Emva koko ukhumbula: "Thixo wam! Kutheni ndifuna le? Ndineentsapho enye! ". Hamba uhambe ngokukhawuleza. Kodwa intliziyo, isisiphukuphuku, iyaqhubeka ishaya ... Yintoni eyenzekayo nawe? Ungayisebenzisa njani le nto? Yaye ngokwenene yintoni inomathotholo yolwaphulo - ulwaphulo-mthetho okanye i-adventure? Makhe sibone.
NGABANI OYA KUVOLA?
Bonke abesetyhini bahlulwe ngamacandelo amabini - abo "ngenxa" yothando, kunye nalabo "bachasene". Kwaye abo "ngokuba", akuyi kudala ngokwakho! Uninzi, ukuba akuninzi, luthanda ukufumana "ulwandle olwandle". Kodwa abayiboni. Okanye iimeko azifuni. Iingcali zengqondo zichaza ukukhanga komfazi kwiingqungquthela zeeholide ngokucacileyo: nganye nganye kukho isidingo esiphuthumayo sokuba phakathi kwenkcazelo yomntu. Ukudumisa. Ukujonga. Kule nto, udayi, ugqoke. Fumana umntu oye wafumana uncedo oluqinileyo (ngokunjalo, ngaphandle kokuba abantu bezoqhelaniso ezithile). Ihlabathi le-psyche yindoda ihluke ngokupheleleyo kunowesifazane. Indoda inokuma yedwa emaphethelweni edwala, jonga ulwandle, umsi, ufihle itekiti kwifestile ukusuka emoyeni, kwaye uya kuhamba kakuhle. Kutheni e lungile? Ucinga ntoni? Ungalinqoba njani eli hlabathi? Ibhinqa liyakwazi ukuma yedwa emaphethelweni edwala - kodwa ngaba uya kuphila? Omnye? Ngengqiqo, ulindele ukuba indoda ibone indlela enhle ngayo ebhekise esibhakabhakeni, iya kumnceda, yamkele. Kwaye baya kubamba eli hlabathi.
Apha, eqinisweni, ulwahlukileyo. Ibhinqa lebhinqa, elikwindawo yokuqwalasela indoda. Ngokufihlakeleyo, amaphupha wesandla afake ehlombe lakhe. Ukuba yedwa, kubonakala sengathi uyaphela - uyaba yinto engathandekiyo kuye, ukunyuka kwakhe kwemizwa (nangona ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuziqinisekisa ukuba akayidingi mntu kwaye uyavuya). Cacisa oku njengoko uthanda, ngobuthixo, ubuthathaka, ubuthathaka. Eyona nto iboniswe ngokucacileyo ngendalo.
Ewe, ukuba ufikile elwandle, unokuba upende, uhlambe, ubeke iinwele zakho njengaye, ngokwakho. Emva kwakho konke, ngaphezu kwekhaya, inxalenye yexesha, uchitha "kwindawo kawonkewonke." Kwaye ukuba aba bantu abayikuyixabisa imizamo yenu, ugula. Ubhala bani? Uya kutshabalalisa iholide yonke. Umfazi, egqoke kakuhle, ehlaziyiweyo, ehlala ekhona-engaqondanga, ngaphandle kokuzivuma-ngaba oku kumntu. Ngokubanzi, akunandaba nokuba yeyiphi. Okanye akunjalo? Masiphulaphule abafazi, abaxhasayo kwinqanaba elithile. "Ndingathanda ukubuza ukuba izazi zeengqondo zicinga ntoni ngokuthandana kweeholide ," uValeria K. ubhala. " Umhlobo wam uyazifumana ngumhlobo ulwandle ngamnye unyaka kunye naye ochitha ixesha (kungekhona ebhedeni!). Kwaye emva kweenyanga ezintandathu malunga noko. Ndiyabona ukuba uyaziqhayisa ngokukwazi "ukuthatha" indoda. Kwaye kum, ukuba "ukuzingela" kubonakala kuhlazisa. Kukho ukukhumbuza ukuziphatha kwezihenyukazi. Ukuba umntu ufuna, masigijime emva kwam. Ndiyonwabile yedwa, ndiyayithanda imvelo, ndifunda iincwadi, andiyidingi mntu. Njengomhlobo wam, njengokuba ndimdelayo. Bakholelwa ukuba "asikwazi" ukwenza umdla kumntu. "
Ubume obuqhelekileyo. Valeria kulungile kule nto. Kukho uhlobo oluthile lwesimo sokuphumla, okufana "nomfanekiso", oquka ulwandle, iinqanawa, umkhumbi ode ekude kwaye uhamba nomntu ongathandana naye onxwemeni lwangokuhlwa (ukucinga ngokwakho). "Imifanekiso" isetyenziswe ngathi iifilimu, izicatshulwa, iintengiso. Kwaye kukho iingoma ezininzi malunga nalo! Nangona kunjalo, phi na ukufumana ngexesha lethu "indoda yothando"? Ngoko ke, abaninzi banelisekile "nje umntu". Naluphina. Kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo kule ndawo ixhalabisa kakhulu. Oku kubonakala nguSophia P.: "Ngokuqhelekileyo eRussia kukho umfanekiso ophosakeleyo wesithunzi nokuziphatha komfazi. Ibhinqa, ecaleni apho kungekho mntu, sele ilahlekelwa yixabiso layo. Akakho mntu! Akunandaba ukuba le ndoda inxila, i-femanizer okanye isilwanyana. Into ephambili kukuba "ungene kwi-hug." Uodadewethu usegangeni lesithoba. Kulapho, ingqwalasela ayikho kulabo bafundisisa kakuhle (njengokuba badelela), kodwa kulabo baxhaphaza abantu beentsimbi zabo kunye nabalala ngesondo. Zijongwa njengephambili. Kwaye ukuba ungumfundi obalaseleyo, awunayo inkwenkwe, ke akukho mntu, ufanelwe uvelwano! Unokuhlala njani kuluntu olunjalo? Kulo nyaka ndibuyela kwakhona elwandle kunye nabamhlobo bam. Asihlose ukuba sibe neentando zeeholide, amadoda asagula kuthi! Kutheni kwaye ngubani oyawadinga leveli (engathethi ukuzonwabisa ngokwenyama)? Ngokugqithiseleyo umfazi ongeyena mfundi, ongenalutho, ngakumbi ufuna i-resort resort! Akunjalo? "
UKUBA "UKUHLAWULA" KUNGAKHONA.
Misa, siwahlule iimbono ezimbini - imfuno yowesifazane yendoda, esathetha ngayo ekuqaleni, kunye "nefashoni." Yinto enye - ukuba unayo imizwa yabo, enye - ukuba uya eholide kunye nokufakwa kuzo zonke iindleko "thabatha indoda." Iimvakalelo ziza ezazo, kwaye izicwangciso zenza imfashini. Bobabini uValeria noSophia bakulungile xa bethetha "ngefashoni yeentando zeeholide". Ngeli hlotyana babhala phantse onke amaphephancwadi kunye namaphephandaba. Nangona kunjalo - ingqalelo! - Ngokumalunga neenombolo zeNtshona, yonke into iyahluke (eRashiya, ngelanga, iinombolo ezinjalo azifumanekanga). Ingxenye yesithathu yabasetyhini bayavuma ukuba babenothando lweeholide kule minyaka emihlanu edluleyo. Kwaye enye kuphela kwezi sixhenxe zaqala inanethi enjalo minyaka yonke. Kwaye ubuhlobo obusondeleyo buya kutshatyalaliswa ngothando lomtshato kuphela ngo-12% wabasetyhini! Ngoko, thetha emva koko ngenkululeko yokuziphatha. Enye into kukuba imfashini ifom. Abasetyhini abaninzi bazama ukukhazimulisa ukuhlala kwabo elwandle. Abanye abasetyhini bavele baqulunqa amabali malunga neengxabano zesithandane ekupheleni kwe-surf. Enye inqaku libiza "inveli" iingxoxo ezimbalwa ezisesibini ebhentshini kunye nommelwane kwindlu yokuhlala. Kodwa uSophia uyaphutha xa ethi umnqweno wokutsala ingqalelo yindoda iyangqina "ukungabi nalutho" yowesifazane. Kwixesha elidlulileyo, amantombazana athanda umdla, kodwa ngezinye iindlela. Kulula nje ukuba babekiwe "isikhundla" Kwakungenakwenzeka ukuthetha kuqala nomntu, ukuvuma ngokukhawuleza kwintlanganiso, nangona kungenakubungozi, kwaye ukuhlala yedwa kunye naye kwakungenakwenzeka! Ukususela kwimbono yesazi sengqondo, ukuziphatha kwabafazi kwiholide ukuzama ukutsala ingqalelo kwindoda yendalo. Ngaloo ndlela ibhinqa lakhe lithetha. Ubume benzelwe ukuba umfazi abe ngumama, abele. Kwaye ukuzala, sidinga indoda. Ngoko ke, kufuneka ukhange lo mntu ngokwakhe. Indlela eyenziwa ngayo ixhomekeka kwinkcubeko, ekukhuliseni. Nantsi kukho isiza esichaza ukuziphatha kwabasetyhini (nangona bengayi kuzala, isiko senza ukuba babelane ngothando, baqaphele, badibane nomntu). Kungokuthi ezinye zezi zintetho zivakaliswa, ezinye azikho, kwaye ezithathu zixinezelekile. Eyingozi kakhulu indlela yokunika isiza ukuthanda, kwaye uyicimezele! Futhi ungazikhohlisi nangayiphi indlela.
Nantsi ibali lehla. UCatherine D. waya kuSoki wedwa. Umyeni wam wasebenza, abantwana baphumula kunye nogogo kwidolophana. KuLwandle oluthile uCatherine wayeziva esemncinci kwaye ekhululekile, wayefuna ukuhamba. Ngosuku lwesibini wadibana nommelwane wakhe etafileni, kwaye iintsuku ezimbini kamva wayelele embhedeni wakhe. Iimvakalelo zakhe, wathi "ubuthongo obuhle." Nguye wokuqala ukunyeliswa ngumyeni wakhe iminyaka emininzi. Ngehlobo elilandelayo, uCatherine waphinda wafumana amava akhe. Akukho mntu unokucingela nantoni na. Yaye wayilahlekelwa kwaye wayengozi. Into eyenzeka ehlobo kwi-resort yayibonakala yinto efana nayo, ibhayisikobho apho yayidlala indima ephambili. Kwakunjengokungakhathaliseki ukuba kumnandi, kungekhona ebomini bobubomi, akuzange kubekho ngokuqhelekileyo. Ngolwesithathu kwehlobo, iqhawe lomnye uvelisi olusulelekile uKatherine ngokugula kakubi, awayekudlulela kumyeni wakhe. Kwakukho ukutshitshiswa, kulandelwa ngumtshato.
UNGAKHULULELE IZINJONGO ZEMFUNDO.
Nangona kunjalo, masingabesabi abafundi bethu abathandekayo. Ayikho into elula kwaye ilungile. Konke kuxhomekeke kwimeko yakho nakwisigqibo sakho! Emva kwakho konke, ukuba uyazigweba ngokuzenzekelayo ukuba ungakhethi ngokukhethayo, ngoko akufanele ugule ixesha elide. Kukho ukubonakala kwezifo zomzimba, kunye neengxaki ze-psyche, ezihambelana nokuphulwa kwe-hormonal exchange. Oku kubonakala ngakumbi kwiimeko "zamantombazana endala". Eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu, xa ushiya ulwandle, ungabeki naziphi na iinjongo. Akunangqiqo ukuzinika ingcamango yokwenza intando, kodwa kungengqiqo ukuzixelela indlela uSophia: "Akukho ziveli!" Zithembele ngokwakho-ingcebiso engcono kakhulu enokunikezelwa. Icandelo ngalinye likhethekileyo. I-novel yolwazi ke ngoko kuthiwa yi-spa, engahlali ixesha elide. Ukhonza ulonwabo, ulwa neengxowankulu. Ngoko ukudumala okusoloko kukulindeleke abo basetyhini abanethemba lokufumana indoda elwandle. Amathuba awawanelanga. Nantsi indlela iMirslav S ichaza ngayo incwadi yakhe: "Ndaya nalo mfana kwinqaba, ukuya kwi-disco, xa wandibiza ukuba ndikhwele emkhombeni. Sasihambisa ilanga kwibhulorho. Bahamba nje ngaselwandle, bathabatha ama-seashells. Sasiphilile kwaye singabhuki kunye. Andizange ndiyazi ukuba ndifuna ukuba angandanga ukuze sihlangane. Ndandisoyika ukuba uhlobo oluthile lwenqweno yothando luya kuqubuka. Le ndoda yayingeyiyo. Okanye mhlawumbi naye wayeyika ukuphazamisa yonke into ngokuzonwabisa komzuzu? Ndiyambulela kuye. Ndichitha lonke unyaka ndikhumbula ezo ntsuku, iintetho zethu kwibhulorho. Ngandlela-thile andifuni ukumbiza, mkhangele. Andizi nokuba: mhlawumbi sele esatshatile ... " .
Inombolo, ehlala i-platonic, iqheleke kakhulu. Uphucula umntu ngokomzwelo. Kwaye, ngexesha elifanayo, wenza yonke into ayinikwe yona: uchithe ixesha, uxhulumane ngokukhawuleza, awunabo yodwa, kodwa kunye nendoda, iimvakalelo ezintle zizalelwa kuwe. Kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu - ungenzi buhlungu ukuba uyingxenye ngenxa yokuba ubuhlobo bakho abuye kude kakhulu!
Kutheni ufuna umntu oselwandle?
Khetha impendulo yakho uze unqume ukuba uyamfuna ngokwenene. Mhlawumbi ufuna enye into?
• ukuze kungabi buhlungu;
• ukuba nenento yokukhumbula;
• ukuba umntu afune ukukhusela (ukwethusa ukuhamba wedwa ogwini lolunye ubusuku);
• ukuba umntu aphendukele ekuncedeni, ukuba kuyimfuneko (ukhiye ekukhunjini, vula ibhotile);
• Ukufumana amava kumntu, kungcono ukwazi wena;
• Ukuziva ukhululekile, unomdla, ukwenzela ukuba kube ngumntu ozobe evezwe kwaye egqoke;
• ukufumana injabulo yomzimba;
• Ndifuna nje indoda ...