Ewe, ukuxabana nokungavumelani, abasetyhini banemvakalelo engaphezu kwamadoda, kwaye ngoko ke ukusetyenziswa kakubi kwehlabathi kukuba nzima kwihlabathi. Kwaye ukuze angayonakalisi isimo sengqondo kuye, okanye kumntu othandekayo, okokuqala kufuneka ukuba afunde indlela yokulawula iimvakalelo zakhe. Ndikholelwe, ekubeni sinokuvuyela, ayiyi kuba lula kwixhala kunye nokunganeliseki kwaye iingxaki aziyi kutshabalalisa, ngoko ke kutheni thina ngokwethu kufuneka sisonakalise intsholongwane yethu, apho kukho izibonakaliso zokuguga esikhumbeni kwaye kungekhona kuphela. Umgaqo-nombolo 1 awudingi ukuba ube nexhala ngaphandle kokufumana yonke into. Ngokuqinisekileyo, inxalenye yesinene sethu ngezinyembezi ukukhala into engaqondakaliyo kubantu, kodwa iimvakalelo zethu ezigqithiseleyo ziza kuphucula ukuma kwethu kunye nesimo sobuhlobo bethu.
Kulula ukuba amadoda ahambe kude nomfazi ogqumayo kwaye ekhwazayo kwaye alinde de sihlale phantsi kungekhona ngenxa yokuba ayinandaba nathi, kodwa kuba kulula ukuba bahambe kunokuba bahlalise isidalwa esivuthuzayo. Umthetho wenombolo 2 awukhalazi ngokukhawuleza, ukuba awukwazi ukuphefumula, udinga ukukhawuleza ukulila, ucinezele, kuba ungakhange ube neinyembezi umfazi angaguqulela kwi-robot, kunye nokunyaniseka, ukukhala kunye nezinyembezi. Iinyembezi zokukhanya kunye nentetho yokuzola iyakwazi ukujika yonke into. Ukungabonakali nokungabikho kwengqondo kubulala, ngoko zonke iimfuno kufuneka zichazwe ngokuchanekileyo kunye nokuchaneka kweSwitzerland.
Umthetho wenombolo 3 , incoko kufuneka ibe ngaphandle kokomisa, ungabonakali icala lakho ngokubonisa. Awudingi ukuthetha njengombhobhothi, bonisa ukuba awukhathaleli yena kunye nobudlelwane bakho kunye nawe, kodwa ungabonakali ukuzingca. Yiba neemeko zengqondo. Ukuzisa ngokucacileyo umxholo wengxoxo kunye nesizathu sokunganeliseki.
Inombolo yesi-4 , ngethuba le ncoko, bamba ulwimi oluthile lubukhali, njengobunye bulumko bulumko uthi: "Igama aliyilo ntlunkulu, liya kubhabha - awuyi kubamba," ngoko kwenzeka ukuba ekugqibeleni komphefumlo okanye ezintliziyweni ukuthuka umhlobo wakho, uya ku libala , kodwa uya kukhumbula. Akukho mfuneko yokuzama ukumlimaza ngakumbi, ingakumbi ukuba le mibuzo ijongene nombhede, kuba kungekudala okanye uzayo uza kwenza uxolo, ukuba yonke into ayikhokeli ekuphumeni. Kwaye akunakulungeleka ngenxa yokuba uhlobo oluthile lokuxabana lubeka umnqamlezo phezu kobudlelwane, kuba ngamazwi athatha indima enkulu, kungekhona izenzo. Amagama akhunjulwa ngaphezu kwezenzo eziphosakeleyo.
Inombolo yesi-5 , emva kokuxabana, ubusuku bokuxolelana lunokulandela, kwaye kulo mzekelo, akufanele unqabe kwaye "unike isithuba esivela esangweni" kumntu oyintanda, ngokuba kuwe ukubonakaliswa kwecala lakho kunokuguquka ngokupheleleyo, umntu wakho unokuya efuna induduzo kwezinye iingalo zabantu. Ngoko kungcono ukungcwaba i-axchet i-axchet ibhedi kwaye ukhumbule yonke into embi.
Umthetho wenombolo 6 , intetho ezolile, ezolileyo kunye noxolo - oko kukuqinisekisa kwakho ukunqoba. Bhengeza kuye yonke iminqweno yakho neminqweno yakho, konke ukwaneliseka nokunganeliseki, kuba abantu abazi ukuba bafunde njani iingcamango zethu. Ngenxa yokuba uya kucinga ngokuphindaphindiweyo malunga neyona nto ungathanda ukuyibonisa ngayo indoda yakho, akayi kuphulaphula iingcamango zakho. Iingcamango zifundwa kuphela kwiichungechunge ze-TV zaseBrazil, apho umntu nosuku ekwazi ukuzalisekisa iimfuno zakhekhethiweyo.
Omnye wabahlobo bam bahlala bethengisa izinto zabo ezintle kwiintlobo zabo zintando, baya kuthenga izinto ezizenzekelayo, baze bathengise i-T-shirt, "baya kulungela" isalathisi esitsha, ngoko ke baya kubanika umfanekiso oqhelekileyo baze babanike indebe, kodwa ekubuyiseleni akukho nto ifumaneka kwiintyatyambo kunye nokuya kwi-cinema. okanye kwiipaki. Kwakhona ufuna ukuba anike into ethile kuye, kwanebhokisi lezinyo, njengoko watshoyo. Ngombuzo wam, nokuba wayethetha naye ngeminqweno yakhe, wayethukuthele ecaleni "akukho, kunjalo." Kwaye akukho nto, kuba abantu abayiboni into esiyidingayo kwaye ukuba ngamanye amaxesha sinokukhetha i-toothbrush esikhundleni se-rose. Musa ukucaphukisa kuye kwaye ugcine isohlwayo, kufuneka nje ucele: "Mthandi, ndithengele oku nale nto." Ewe, ngokwenene kuya kuba mnandi ukufumana ngokungalindelekanga njengesipho into encinane esiyifunayo ngamagama athi "ndithande, ndaqaphela ...", elalikuluhlu lwethu lweeminqweno ezincinci, kodwa, maye, amadoda awanakwenzeka njengathi, kwaye akayi kubona loo nto , into esiyibonayo.
Akusoloko kulula ukufumana ubuhlobo, kwaye ngoko akuyimfuneko ukwenza lo msebenzi ube nzima nakakhulu. Iingqungquthela, zinjalo, zinceda ukudibanisa ubudlelwane, iingqondo zengqondo zithi, kwaye zivuselele iimvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo, ukungquzulana kukuvavanywa kwamandla esivakalelwa ngayo, kodwa xa bebaninzi okanye kungekho sizathu siphume kwixesha elilinganayo, oku kulungile. Ngoko ulahleke iimvakalelo eziphazamisayo ngezinye iindlela, kungekhona ngeengxabano. Emva koko, kukho iindlela ezininzi zokubonisa nokuvuselela iimvakalelo zakho. Masifunde ngokufanelekileyo ulwalamano kwaye siphume kwiimeko apho kungekho toni ephakamileyo kwizwi nangezinyembezi!