Kanti kulungile ukunxibelelana nabasetyhini abahlakaniphile abanokubelana ngesigqibo malunga nobunzima bokuphila kunye namava angabalulekanga afunyenwe ngexesha lexesha. Njengoko bethetha, kulungile ukuba ufunde kwezinye iiphoso zabantu, kwaye uzama ukulandela olu bulumko bulumko, ndizama ukufunda okuthile kumagama omhlobo wam, ukumthobela ukuziphatha njengesiponji. Kwaye ndivuyiswa kukuba ndiyakwazi ukuxelela ezi zifundo kunye nawe, iintwendwe ezithandekayo zesayithi lethu elithandayo kunye nolwazi.
Kungekudala sihleli nomhlobo kwi-cafe, saxoxa ngokudlulileyo kwakhe, izihlandlo azizisola ngayo kwaye zathintela ubomi bakhe kwikalini. Ndandisekela intombi engcolileyo neyadliwayo njengento endikwazi ngayo, ngelixa yayikhathazeka ngothando oludlulileyo. Uthando aludluli, kodwa luxakekile. Oko kufuneka uyenze ukuze ungaphoswa uthando lwakho uya kufunda kule nqaku ngesihloko esithi " Uthando oludlulileyo luya kuba lusizi oluzayo ."
Ewe, ukuba awuyi kuthatha ixesha, yonke into ingaba lusizi oluzayo. Uthando ngakumbi. Akukho nto ebi ngaphezu kwengqondo yengqondo nokudakumba. Ngubani owaziyo ukuba ubuhlobo bam intombi buya kuphuhliswa njani ukuba wayesebenza ngexesha. Kwakhona, malunga nemiba yeentliziyo. Akukho nto iyasikhathaza, bafazi, njengobunye ubudlelwane bobubele obungaphumeleli, obungazange bube khona ngenxa yeentloni okanye iintloni. Njengobulumko obuninzi othandweni, njengemfazwe, zonke iindlela zilungile. Yaye uthando ngokusemgangathweni luhlobo lwemfazwe, imfazwe yesini yokulingana, iimvakalelo kunye nothando, kunjalo.
Ebudeni bakhe wadibana nendoda eyayingamthandi, kuba wayelithanda omnye umntu. Wayenguye umphathi wakhe, wayephantsi kwakhe. Ewe, ngubani u-boss akayi kuwuqwalasela umqeshwa omhle kunye nomhle kakhulu. Wabonisa iimpawu zokunakekelwa kunye nokunyamekela, kodwa ukusuka ecaleni lakhe kwakukho nje ukuzingela. Mhlawumbi, yonke into yayiyahluke, ukuba kwakungekho ngenxa yothando lwakhe oludengekayo kumyeni wakhe wangaphambili. Ngelo xesha ixa elizayo, kwaye ngoku uyingumyeni. Wayenomdla ngokuqhelekileyo ngqalelo yendoda, kodwa wayengenako ukuphikelela, wathi, kwaye wayenamahloni avimbela intliziyo ukuba iphumelele intombazana entle. Yena, naye, wayenamahloni, kwaye wayezifihla emva kokubanda komdla wakhe kumntu omncinci, ocebileyo nocebileyo.
Abaninzi bazama ukunciphisa iminyaka emininzi, kodwa akukho nto eyenzekayo. Kwakhona, ndiyakhumbula ubukho bulumko bokuba "kungeyiyo injongo." Kwaye emva kweminyaka emininzi badibana. Unomfazi nomntwana, unomntwana kunye nomtshato, kodwa kunjalo banento efana phakathi kwabo - ezi zivakalisi ezingabonakaliyo, amagama angaqondakaliyo. Kuthatha ixesha elingakanani ukuqonda uthando? Iminyaka emininzi impela, okanye uthando olufanayo alufi iminyaka, kodwa luhlala luhlala entliziyweni yomntu ngamnye, elindele intsike eyayiza kuphinda ibuye. Ngoku uyazizisola kakhulu ngamathuba angabikho, kwaye sele sele kubonakala kungekho nhlobo ukuba ndiza kuwufumana ngokupheleleyo, kwaye kungekhona nje intliziyo yam. Emva koko, umfazi akanakho intliziyo enye ngokwedlulele kwiminyaka, ufuna ukuzaliseka kunye nokuzinza kumntu othandekayo. Iphupha lomtshato. Ukuba kwakungengenxa yolutsha olumathane, ndingathini ngoku ndihlala ndilila umhlobo wam. Ubuswele ulutsha, uthando olulahlekileyo, iinjongo eziphukileyo, ngenxa yokuba akayivuyo nomfazi wakhe, kwaye uyaphila ngenxa yentombi yakhe.
Ubuyathazi yinkathazo encinci, kwaye ulutsha luhlala luququzelelo oluncinane kunye noluninzi olukhulu, olwenziwa ngabantu abadala abavakalisa ububudenge babo ebusheni, kwaye baya kuhlala beselula baze babe bulumko baze bayeke ukwenza izinto eziyatha. Nangona kuvunywa ukuba uvunyelwe ukwenza izinto eziyinqathala ebusheni bakho, kodwa cinga malunga nokuba bangathini na ukuba izinto eziyinyulu zingatshintsha njani ubomi bakho kunye nawaphi icala.
Yintoni andifanele ndiyilahlekelwe yintando yam? Yintoni endiyenzayo ukuze ndikhusele uthando lwangaphambili ukuba lube lusizi oluzayo? Indlela yokufunda uthando kunye nendlela yokusebenza? Kukhona imibuzo eninzi, kodwa ndaqonda into enye, akufuneki uhlale ungenzi lutho, kwaye akufuneki ukufihla emva kwemaski yokungakhathaleli. Naliphi na isibini esinokuyibonisana nothando lwethu nakweyiphi na yesibili siyakulikhumbula. Emva kwakho konke, yonke into yakhiwa ngothando, ubomi bethu bonke bakha malunga nomntu othandekayo, kwaye ukuba akukho mthandayo onokuzakhela ubomi bethu? Ngoko ke, kufuneka siphuthelwe uthando lwethu, ngakumbi kuba abantu abaninzi kule mihla bengenangqiqo, banentloni kwaye baqaphele, xa singenzi, ngubani na oya kukwakha ikusasa lethu elivuyisayo kuthi.
Amantombazana amaninzi akholelwa ukuba iimpawu zengqalelo entombazana ibonakala ngathi i-imposition kwaye ikhetha ukuhlala ingenzi lutho. Ngokuqhelekileyo kwamkelwe kubantu ukuba umntu afune intombazana, kwaye kungekhona ngokuthe ngqo. Kutheni ungenzi okuchaseneyo? Kutheni ungaphumeleli umntu? Kwaye akudingeki ukuba ucinge kwaye uloyike ukuba imiqondiso yethu yokuqwalasela iya kubonakala ngathi i-imposition. Sifuna ukuthetha ngokukhawuleza kwaye ngokukhawuleza, kwaye sibonise zonke iintliziyo, ngaloo ndlela siza kuthatha isigxina sethu sesigxina, kwaye ngoku kusuka apha abayi kumelela. Abayi kuba nexesha lokufika kwiingqondo zabo, kodwa baya kuba sele bebingelelo ebandleni kwi-tuxedo emnyama. Nangona abantu beemvakalelo eziyimpumelelo yomnqobi. Indoda isinceda ekuqaleni kobudlelwane, okanye, ngokuchanekileyo, iphumelele, ukudala ubudlelwane, kwaye ngexesha lokuphila kunye kunye nabo sibafumana ukutya okunomsoco, umfanekiso omhle, amagama alumkileyo kunye neengqondo zokuqonda ixesha elide njengoko ejikeleze kude kube nzima. Ukuba senza njengomqoqo wokuqala, mhlawumbi ngexesha lobomi kunye baya kusinqoba?
Sinoyiko kwaye sineentloni, amadoda ahlala esaba kwaye enamahloni. Sinoyika ukuva igama elithi "hayi" kwaye ufune ukungavumi, kwaye kuvela kule nto abantu abaninzi abanamahlwempu kunye nabanomdla emhlabeni wethu baphupha ubusuku bonke ukuze bafumane isiqingatha sabo. Awukwazi ukuhlala uloyiko, kufuneka ulungele yonke into esiyiyo. Kwaye kusinika into esiyayonwabileyo, simele siyibambe kwaye siyiphathe, yenza konke okuya kuvuya, ngokuba yonke into isezandleni zethu yinto enye yobulumko.