Amanyano angalinganiyo agwetywayo, kodwa abantu banamhlanje bayiphonsa "umngeni" kwimbono yoluntu, ebonisa ngomzekelo wabo ukuba umahluko kuminyaka awubalulekanga ukuba abantu bathandana.
Isimo esincomekayo sabantu kunye nenani elikhulu lomtshato libonisa ukuba indoda nomfazi abazi ukuba nokwakha ubudlelwane. Ukuba ngaba babini bafumene kunye kwaye bahlala kakuhle, kungakhathaliseki ukuba ngubani okhulile, umntu makangayivuyela kuphela. Kwimeko nayiphi na into, esi sibini siya kuba khona nje kokubili kokufunayo.
Kukho abantu abaselula abayithandayo xa abesifazane besemdala kunamadoda ebudlelwaneni, kwaye akuyena i-alfonso. Mhlawumbi yinkimbinkimbi eyakhiwa ebusheni bakhe. Wonke umntu uyazi ukuba ukutshatyalaliswa kubakho kamva kumakhwenkwe kunamantombazana. Amantombazana athatyathwa ngamakhwenkwe amathandabuzo kwaye azama ukukhetha umngane omdala kunabo. Ukunganakwa ngqalelo yabantu, loo nkwenkwe iya kufuna induduzo ngomfazi omdala.
Umzamo ongenakuphumelela woqhagamshelwano lokuqala lwezesondo kunye nexesha langoku libeka uphawu oluqinileyo lokuzimela. Intombazana engenamava ayikwazi ukuziphatha kwayo kuphela, kodwa kwakhona amagama athi "yenzakalise" iqabane. Emva kwimeko enjalo, insizwa iya kukhangela iqabane elinobuchule, elikhathalelayo, eliqondayo kwaye iza kulwalamano nomfazi omdala kuneminyaka yakhe. Isiza sakwaMama siya kunceda ibhinqa liqonde loo mfana kwaye lincede kumbule umntu kuye. Amadoda ngobudlelwane kunye nabasetyhini banomuva njengamaqhawe okwenene, kwaye kule meko, ukuhluka kobudala akubalulekanga, akukho nto ibonakalayo. Abambini abanjalo bawunene ngobuhlobo. Indoda ifumana i-caress epheleleyo, inenkathalo, uthando, ibona oko kufuneka umfazi. Ibhinqa elinjalo kwimbini ixhaphaza kakuhle umntu, imvumela ukuba abe nesimo esiphambili kwaye uzive esondele kuye indoda yangempela. Ukuba ibhinqa likhulile, ngoko, ngokuya kumntu oselula, uya kuzama ukuma kakuhle, okulungileyo kuye. Kukho ubudlelwane obuthembayo phakathi kwabantu.
Isimo sabantu sishiye uphawu lwaso kuluntu. Amadoda aphangiwe, kodwa kutheni? Ngenxa yokuba thina bafazi, ngenxa yokungabikho kwamadoda kwiminyaka yabo yobudala, siyabaxabisa kwaye sibaxabise, singaqapheli ukuba sizilimaza.
Ibhinqa, ehlala kwindawo ehamba phambili kwiintsebenziswano nendoda, igxotha ingcamango "yomntu" kwimvelaphi, ibeka yonke into emahlombe akhe athathaka kwaye, ngaphandle kokuyiqonda le nto, ilahleka njengowesifazane. Indoda, efumana unonophelo olunzulu ngunina ongumfazi, ngobuqili "uhlale phantsi entanyeni" kwaye ulungele ukuziphatha kwakhe kakade akekho oya kuphumelela.
Owesifazane onobuqili kuphela onokukwazi ukwakha ubudlelwane kunye nomfana osetyenziswa ngendlela eyahlukileyo yokungafani nokuba nempembelelo yakhe, kwaye iya kumnceda abe ngumntu wokwenene.
Vumela uluntu ulawule ukungalingani, kodwa kubaluleke ntoni ukuba abantu ababini bayonwabile. Ibhinqa iqondwa luluntu njengomzukeli wentsapho. Iyeza zanamhlanje zenza ukuba umfazi abele umntwana osempilweni phantse nayiphi na ubudala. Umfana osemlinganeni osebenza naye, uya kunceda ukuzala umntwana onempilo. Kubudlelwane phakathi kwendoda nomfazi, nangaphezulu, ibhinqa kufuneka lihlale likhumbula ukuba, ngowokuqala, ibhinqa elimele livuyiswe!