Kulula kakhulu ukuqhelana nabafana, into ephambili nje musa ukuba neentloni. Zifumana izinto ezithandwayo, izinto zokuzilibazisa. Oku kuya kukunceda ngexesha elizayo xa uthetha nomhlobo wakho omtsha. Ukuqhelana nabafana abaneminyaka eyi-10 ukuya ku-13 kulungelelaniswa ngokubhekiselele kwiminqweno efanayo. Emva koko, njengoko besithi, ukuzonwabisa okufanayo kwenza abantu bahlangane. Okokuqala, qwa lasela abafana abakujikeleze ebomini bakho bemihla ngemihla. Umzekelo, esikolweni, kwintendelezo, kwisangqa, apho uya khona. Ngendlela, le ndlela yokugqibela yindlela engcono yokufumana inkwenkwe. Apha unomdla oqhelekileyo, kwaye ubona phantse yonke imihla. Ewe, kwaye inzuzo ebalulekileyo ecaleni lakho iya kuba unokuhlala uncedana.
Uqala nje ngombuzo: "Luhlobo luni lomntu omele abe ngo-10-13? Yaye yintoni na "umntu oqhelekileyo" onokufanelana nawe? ". Apha, ndicinga ukuba, abafana abaneminyaka eli-15 abanakukufanelanga. Ukuba udala, akukho nto iya kuvela kuyo. Abafana banemibono eyahlukileyo ngokubambisene nentombazana kunye nomdala, kunzima ukuba naye. Ungalibali ukuba awukhulile njengoko ucinga. Kwaye injongo ephambili yoqhelana nabo ngumhlobo, ukunxibelelana, ukuhamba ngokubambisana kunye nokuncedana nantoni na. Ngoko, kuloo minyaka, kulunge ukuqala ngobuhlobo obusondeleyo phakathi kwakho nenkwenkwe. Ngendlela, kwaye ingaphantsi kwe-10-13 (kuxhomekeke ekubeni ungakanani okwangoku), khangela indoda, nayo ayikufanelekanga. Khumbula ukuba amantombazana kule minyaka akhula ngokukhawuleza kunamakhwenkwe. Ngako oko, awuyi kuba nomdla ekukhulumisaneni, njengoko uza kuba neengcamango ezahlukeneyo zehlabathi. Ngoko, masibuyele yonke into efanayo kumbuzo omele uzibuze wona. Masicabange kunye, kwaye ke, umntu oqhelekileyo, ngokuyinhloko uhlakaniphile, "upholile" (wena kunye neentombi zakho), inkwenkwe ekhutheleyo kunye nentlalontle kunye nexesha elifanayo, ngokufanelekileyo. Abafana abanomdla oneminyaka yakho abayidingi. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukuba impendulo yakho yile nto, kuyafaneleka ukukhangela umhlobo, ukuqala kwezi zimpawu zobuntu bakhe.
Njengoko ndithethile ekuqaleni, zama ukukhangela umfana, okhokelwa ngokufana neemfuno zakho ezifanayo kunye naye. Idibanisa kwaye inceda ukuchitha ixesha elihle kakhulu. Emva kwakho konke, unento enye efanayo, ngenxa yokuba nonke niya kufunda le nto okanye uhlobo olunjalo luthando. Ukuba awunalo ithuba lokutyelela nayiphi na ikgs. Musa ukucaphuka. Jongela uphando lwakho kumntu ngendlela eyahlukileyo - tyelela ngokuphindaphindiweyo ii-discos zesikolo kunye neminye imisebenzi eyenziwa isikolo sakho. Ngaloo ndlela, uya kukwazi ngokubanzi ngokusemandleni namadoda avela kwi-parallel yakho, ongazange uyibone ngaphambili. Kwaye njengoko bathi: awazi - awuyi kuqonda. Ngoko, khangela, ngokukhawuleza phakathi kwabo, kwaye uya kufumana isikhulu sakho. Awuzange uyibone kule nqanaba. Ukuba u-100% uqinisekisile ukuba abafana besikolo abengekho okwenu kwaye umnqweno wakho omkhulu kukufumana inkwenkwe engenzi lutho ngokuphila kwakho kwesikolo. Emva koko kubalulekile ukukhangela umntu kwenye indawo. Ngokomzekelo, thabatha intombi kunye nawe uphume kunye naye kwindawo yokudlala okanye kusebe lolwandle. Joyina abafana ukuba badlale into ethile (i-volleyball, i-tennis, mhlawumbi kwinqwelo yebhola) kwaye ingxoxo iya kuhlanganiswa yedwa, awuyi kuqaphela nokuba uza kuba nomhlobo omtsha kwaye ngaphandle kwayo, akukho nanye. Uya kukhetha kuphela okufuneka uzonambitha. Abafana bakho baya kuhlala bexabisa oontanga babo, yintoni umntu osebenzayo, onomdla kunye onokuvuya. Kwaye ngokubaluleke kakhulu, kule meko, ungalokothi ukwesaba nje ukungenise uze ubuze le nkwenkwe ukuba, umzekelo, igama lakhe kunye nokuba ngaba kungenzeka ukujoyina umdlalo.
Kwakhona, ungasebenzisa intanethi. Ngendlela, kwixesha lethu, i-intanethi ikhupha ikhutshwe ngeendawo ezahlukeneyo ezenzelwe ukuthandana, apho ungayifumana khona indoda ngqo kwiqela layo leminyaka. Kwakhona, ungalibali ukubhalisa kwiintlobo ezahlukeneyo zokunxibelelanisa (umzekelo, iVKontakte). Qinisekisa ukuba apho uya kudibana nabantu abaninzi bodwa abaza kucinga, bengaziqondi, baxoxe nawe. Tshintsha iinombolo zefowuni kwaye ungakhohlwa ukulungiselela iintlanganiso ebomini bokwenene. Abafana abaninzi - ukhetho oluninzi. Musa ukulibala malunga nalo. Ufuna ngokwenene ukufumana indoda engcono. Ngoko ungesabi ukuhamba phezu kwamakhwenkwe ngelixa kunethuba elinjalo, lisebenzise. Abafana, ngendlela bayamkela umnqweno wentombazana ukuba baqhelane nabo. Ngoko ungakhathazeki malunga nokuba unento ethile, mhlawumbi ayiyi kusebenza. Yiba ngokwakho, wenze ngokwemvelo kwaye uvule. Njalo ufike kwiintlanganiso ngokumomotheka kunye nesimo esihle. Khumbula ukuba iminyaka yakho idinga. Xelela ngokubanzi ngokusemandleni akho kwaye ufumane malunga nomntu ngaye, oku kuya kukunceda bobabini ukuba nisondelane.
Ukudweba umgca phantsi kwayo yonke ebhaliweyo ebhaliweyo, ndiza kuthetha ukuba ukuzibandakanya nabafana abaneminyaka engama-10 ukuya kwe13 ukuya kwe-13 akunakunzima kangaka, lo mhlobo unokuba nobudlelwane. Into ephambili kukuba ukwazi ukubonisa ubungqina bakho, ukuba uya kuba nomdla kuwe. Kodwa ungakulibali into yokuba usaphambili. Kutheni ukhawuleza izinto phambi kwexesha lakho. Ukuba uthanda wena kungekudala okanye kamva, njengomfana, uya kufumana ithuba lokuba wazi kakuhle, ngoko musa ukukhawuleza. Konke ngexesha elifanelekileyo. Apha ndingaqiniseki ukuba kumbuzo wakho ngokuphathelele ukuthandana nomfana, uya kucebiswa bonke ukuba ufunde. Kwaye uqhubeka ufunda ngeli xesha, uya kuba nexesha lokutshilola ebuntwaneni bakho. Uyakuthanda kwaye uthande elinye ixesha. Kodwa nokuba yintoni na, kwaye nayiphi na into, awuzange uthathe isigqibo, ndiyathemba ukuba naluphi na uhlobo kunye nobudala, uya kufumana inkwenkwe enhle.