Into yokuqala efika engqondweni yakho xa uqaphela ukuba umyeni wakho uqala ukusela kuphela ngeeholide, kodwa nangemini yeveki, ngumtshato, kodwa kufuneka uqaphele ngokwaneleyo ukuba le yindlela yokuphela. Eli bhinqa naye uyindoda, ukhangele indlela elula kakhulu yokuphuma kwimeko, umyeni uyifumana kwibhotile, kwaye umfazi ngokuthula uhlukanisile nomnxila. Kodwa oku akusoloko kuyindlela yokuphuma, ngokuqinisekileyo kulula kakhulu kwaye kulula kakhulu. Okanye uzame ukunceda indoda yakho ethandekayo, nangona ngoku kunzima ukumbiza ngokuthi uyithandayo, kodwa kunjalo.
Into ebalulekileyo kukuba kufuneka ufunde, ukuba awufuni ukuba umyeni wakho aphuze, zama ukuhamba ngaphantsi kweendwendwe, okanye uye kulezo ndwendwendwe ezingaqali ukusela utywala emzimbeni. Musa ukulungiselela iiholide ezinjalo ekhaya, xelela bakho abahlobo ukuba unomthetho owomileyo kwindlu yakho ngoku. Ukuba ngaba ngabahlobo bakho bokwenene, baya kukuqonda. kwaye ukuba ngabahlobo bacinga, ngoko kutheni kufuneka?
Umgaqo olandelayo kukujonga ingxaki evela ngaphakathi ngaphakathi, cinga ukuba umyeni akaqali ukusela njengaloo nto, zikho izizathu ngezihlandlo zezi zinto. Amadoda abanjengabantwana, abasengozini kakhulu, abasondele kakhulu entliziyweni baqonda zonke iingxaki, ukuba abaziqondi ekhaya, ngoko uya kubahlobo ukuba bahlale kwibhotile, okanye bazifumene ikosikazi. Umyeni wakho ukhethe isisombululo sokuqala kuzo zonke iingxaki, waqala ukusela. Xa ehlambulukile, zama ukufunda ngeengxaki zakhe ngokukodwa, ukuba uxinzezelekile. Khumbula, ukususela xa waqala ukusebenzisa into eninzi kwibhotile, xa ingxoxo enobungane ngaphezu kwebhotile yewayini elungileyo, yaba ngumncintiswano wokusela utywala. Yintoni eyabangela ukungcola okunjalo komntu oqhelekileyo? Yilapho uhlalutya ubomi bakho bonke nomyeni wakho, uthetha kuye intliziyo ngentliziyo, yilapho mhlawumbi kukho impendulo kumbuzo wakho. Yiba kuye ngeli xesha lokulungelelanisa - umama. Awuyikushiya umntwana wakho kwimfesane yengozi, ngoko akufanele uhambe nomyeni wakho, kuphela onokumnceda.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, kusekho indlela yokuphuma-ikhowudi yokuxhomekeka kotywala. Kodwa kukho into efanelekileyo ukuhamba kuphela xa umyeni wakho evuma ngokwakhe ukuba utywala. Ukuxwala kwakhe kukutshabalalisa yonke into, intsapho, umsebenzi, abahlobo abasondeleyo baqala ukuguquka kuye. Kwakhona, kufuneka umncede, abe yingcali yeengqondo kuye. Kodwa ukukhonkxa kwindlela yokuxhomekeka kotywala kungekhona ukukhetha. Kunyaka kamva, umyeni wakho unokunxila kwakhona kunye nangaphezulu, kwaye angakwazi ukuphula kwaye akanako ukuma ixesha.
Ukuqonda indlela yokujongana nokuxilwa komyeni, kufuneka uqonde kuqala isizathu. Emva koko jonga iziphumo kuyo. Kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu, qiniseka ngamakhono akho, nokuba uya kuba nako ukukhuphisana nomyeni wakho. Yikholelwa, kwaye uya kuphumelela.