Ukuba 'uyasichukumisa', ngoko umhlobo onomona wobomi ngokucacileyo awunayo inketho yakho. Kwixesha elizayo, umona wakhe uya kuthatha iifom zezona zinto ziyingqumbo, kwaye wena, ulahlekelwe yinto exabisekileyo yowesifazane wesimanje - ixesha lakhe, uya kubona ukuba kwakungeke kwenzeke ukwakha ubudlelwane nomntu onomona, nangona zonke iinzame zakho. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, nawuphi na ummeli wesigqeba esisinyanisekileyo somntu unomona, kwaye akayikumangalela ngokuthe ngqo kuye, kuba imbangela yesikhwele ihlala kwimbali ye-homo sapiens. Kwiminyaka eyi-milleni, indoda leyo, eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu, kwakufuneka iqiniseke ukuba lo mfazi uthembekile kuye kwaye wanikela ngokuqhubekayo kwizinto zakhe zokuzalwa, kwaye uyondla ngokwenene abantwana bakhe. Oku kwakubalulekanga kungekudala kuphela, kodwa nangoku ngoku, njengamaxesha amva nje, ukuthembeka, bobabini nabasetyhini baxabiseke kakhulu kuluntu.
Ngethuba lethu elikhanyisiweyo, ukulingana phakathi kwesondo akulona lizwi, umfazi uhlala ekwazi ukubonelela yena kunye nabantwana bakhe, ngokwemali uyeke ukuxhomekeka kumntu kwaye unokukwazi ukwakha ubudlelwane kunye nomntu onomona ngokwemigaqo yakhe. Kwimeko apho indoda ithandeke kakhulu kuwe, ubophelelwe yimbopheleleko yokuziphatha okanye yezinto eziphathekayo, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha ulahlekelwa yimpembelelo yempucuko kwaye ijika ibe yi-Othello, kufuneka uhambelane nemithetho embalwa yokuziphatha.
Umthetho omnye: uthando kunye nentlonipho yakho okhethiweyo? Unganqikazi ukumbonisa iimvakalelo zakho.
Ummiselo omibini: Umyeni onomona (umhlobo) uziva uxoka, xa uthe waxoka kuye nangenxa yezizathu ezingenacala, musa ukumcaphukisa!
Umthetho wesithathu: umntu kufuneka athembele kuwe, ngoko ungazithobi phambi kwakhe, kungenjalo uvuke kuye indoda eyayizibulo, ekhwazayo kunye negazi lakhe emehlweni akhe iya kukhwela kumntu onokubambisana naye okanye "yinto" yokulwa.
Umgaqo wesine : indoda, nangona kunjalo ihlakaniphile kwaye iphumelele, iyayithanda ukuthoba! Mdumise, kodwa yenze ngokungaqhelekanga uze ungamfanisi namanye amadoda. Kungaba yimpazamo ukutsho ukuba ungcono kunommelwane wam (umyeni womhlobo wam, intombi yam yangaphambili). Mane ugxininise iimpawu ezintle eziyimvelaphi kuye: amaqanda ngokukhawuleza; uhamba kakuhle kunye nomama.
Umthetho ngowesihlanu kwaye ubude ukusuka ekugqibeleni: idumela lakho. Ubulumko babantu bethu sele bufikelele kwisigqibo sokuthi ingubo igxothwa yintsha, kwaye imbeko evela kulutsha. Yaye inkcazo yokuba ekuqaleni usebenzela udumo, kwaye ke isebenza kuwe, yinyaniso. Wena ngokwakho unokuza nemithetho emininzi yokwakha ubudlelwane nomntu onomona, ngokusekelwe ebuhlotsheni bakho kunye nomlingiswa wakhe, kodwa ungayikhohlwa umgaqo olula ochaphazelekayo phantse kuwo wonke ummandla wobomi bethu: ukuba ukwesaba ukuba iqabane lakho liza kuba nomona ngomntu ogulayo , mhlawumbi, kuya kwenzeka. Yiba nesimo esihle, kwaye uya kufumana ulonwabo xa usenakho ukhululekile, okanye unokwakha ubuhlobo kunye nomntu okhweleyo sele esele kufuphi nawe.