Ewe, makhe siqale ngento yokuba xa ubuhlobo bakho ucinga ukuba usegodini, lo bu budlelwane abuyiyo into oyifunayo. Inyaniso yokuba unomntu oqhelekileyo kunye neqiniso lokuba ekugqibeleni ufumana ubudlelwane obungunaphakade obufanele kukukholise kwaye bulethe uvuyo. Ukubambisana kufuneka kukulethele uvuyo kwaye oku kuya kuba yinkululeko kuwe. Kwaye xa ungafuni ukubheka abanye abantu, kodwa ufuna ukukhangela kwaye uphile kuphela nesoka lakho, ke lo ngumqondiso obalulekileyo owuthandayo, kwaye ukunyaniseka kukukuvuyisa. Abanye abantu abayi kuzisa uvuyo olungakumbi kubuso babo, njengomthandayo.
Kodwa yintoni enokuyenza xa bonke abonwabileyo belibalekile, kwaye bafuna inkululeko eyayiyenye ngaphambi kwendoda ethandekayo? Ndiza kukuxelela ngomzekelo, imeko yile ilandelayo, abahlobo babini badibana, omnye unomfana ohlala rhoqo kunye nothando olukhulu, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha uyalibala ngoku, kwaye uqala ukuphupha ngobomi obudlulileyo xa engenayo. Kwaye enye intombazana "inokuhamba ngokukhululeka", umnqophiso omnye kwi-cinema, enye inika iintyatyambo, okwesithathu ilinde emnyango kwaye iyavuma ngothando. Omnye uthanda izambatho ezilula ezilula, ijee kunye nama-sweatshirts, kwaye enye isoloko isilungele kakuhle, ngokucoca kunye nokuzenzela, izitayela kunye nezithende, kwaye, nangona kunjalo, unomntu onothando onobudlova, kanti enye inemihla embalwa nje. Amantombazana amabini ahluke ngokupheleleyo. Omnye usekhulile, omnye usemncinci, elinye amaphupha ngoku ngokungathandabuzekiyo ngaphandle kokuzibophezela ngaphandle kokuthandana, kodwa kuphela ngokuthandana, njengoko kwakunjalo, ngaphambili, ngaphambi kokumhlangabeza, omnye ufuna ngokukhawuleza "ukungena kumntu omdala indlela ". Ngoko, umbuzo wukuthi, yintoni thina intombazana esifuna ekupheleni?
Uthando! Ewe, sifuna uthando olukhulu nolusulungekileyo, kodwa ngaba sazicingela malunga noko kuya kwenzeka emva kokuba sithande? Oku kungafaniswa nomtshato ... siphupha ngomtshato, sigqoko esimhlophe, iintyatyambo, iidayimane, uhambo olumangalisayo lomtshato, kodwa ngaba sicinga ngezinto esizilindele ngaphesheya kolwandle lomtshato? Luhlobo luni lobomi esiya kuba nalo? Awekho iiklabhu, kuba sele usesitshatileyo, akukhoxesha lokukhulula, kuba lonke ixesha elikhululekile liya kuba ngumyeni wakhe. Ukuhlamba, ukutshiza, ukupheka kwaye kungekhona okokuqala kukuqala, kwaye kuye, amava aqala, njengokungathi isobho asinakugqithiswa, okanye ngathi ihembe lakhe lingabonakalisi, okanye ukuba akayi kubona njani uthuli phantsi, njalo njalo.
Into efanayo esiyifumana emva kokufumana uthando, asinakukwazi ukujika iindibano zengqungquthela, kungabikho ngothando ngecala, kungabikho ukuthandana nabafana, ngamanye amaxesha akukho iiklabhu, kunye neentlanganiso kunye namantombazana - sele sele sele abe nethamsanqa. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, akukho ukudandatheka okungekho mntu akufunayo, kukho ukuxhaswa kokuziphatha kunye nokomoya, kwaye akunakucingeka phambi kwakho, kuba uyakuthanda nantoni na. Siyeka ukuxabisa into esiye senza ngayo ixesha elide, kwaye sikhohlwe ukuba kunzima kangakanani kwimpilo. Uthando, lulwalamano nomntu othandekayo omele avelise inkululeko kunye nokuzonwabisa.
Omnye ufuna iimfesane, udlala ngothando, iintyatyambo, ukuze azuze, kodwa unomntu omsindisayo ebusweni nangesizungu. Lowo uyamthanda nangoko kwaye uyasula iinyembezi zakhe xa bebukela i-melodramas kunye. Kwaye okwesibini ufuna ukufumana uthando lwakhe kwaye ukhawuleze ukudibanisa ubomi bakhe kunye naye kunokuba ungabonakali kwaye unesizungu, kuba kubanda kakhulu ebusuku, xa ukuthula kuphazamisa yonke into kwaye uhlala wedwa kunye neengcamango zakhe, kwaye akukho nto iphuma kuyo. Kuzo zonke iikhosi zombini ezilungileyo kunye nezingalunganga, zombini ebomini bakhululekile, kunye nobomi obudibene nobunye ubomi? Sidalwe ukuthanda, kwaye uthando luyinkululeko yethu yokwenene, inkululeko yokomoya. Ukuze ngamanye amaxesha udibanise ulwalamano lwabo, unokongeza imidlalo yokudlala kubo, umzekelo, uqhelana kwakhona, okanye udlala ngothando njengabantu abasandul 'ukuqhelana nabo, into ephambili kulo mzekelo kukuba ube nobugcisa kunye nokusetyenziswa kwendima. Umntu othandekayo uya kuqonda yonke into kwaye ahambe yonke into ngenxa yowesifazane wakhe othandekayo, into ephambili iyinto elula kwaye ifumaneka ukucacisa.
Sisoloko sifuna into esingenayo, kwaye kulula kangakanani ukuyeka oko esinakho kunye nabo bahlala nathi. Cha, akulula ukugatya kwaye akulula, kwaye kutheni ufanele uyenqabe? Ukuhlaselwa kwakhona, kunye ne-clubbing kwiiklabhu ekukhangela abantu abasanda kubaziyo ngenxa yeentyatyambo kunye nebhotile ye-champagne? Kutheni? Akukho nto iyakuthatha indawo yentyatyambo ezaliswe uthando nothando, esinikezwa ngumntu othandekayo. Ekugqibeleni, oku kuthetha intsingiselo yobomi bethu-thandweni, nokufumana uthando, sinalo intsingiselo yobomi. Ukuba yonke into oyifunayo ubomi obudala, kwaye uyeke ukuvuyela ubudlelwane kunye nomthandi wakho, khumbula nje ukuba kwakubi kangakanani ngaphandle kwakhe, indlela owawela ngayo uxinzelelo kwaye unesizungu. Kwaye ke konke ukuthanda kwakhe kuza kubuya kuwe, kwaye uya kufuneka ukumbamba okanye ukumbiza xa engazange ajikeleze. Umnqweno wokuyeka ukunyaniseka, kunye nobomi bomntu kwaye uphile ubomi obungabonakaliyo kubonakala ubuncinane kanye kwinto yonke, kuyinto eqhelekileyo, kuba "kuhlale kulungile apho singekho khona," njengokuba ubulumko bulumko buthi.