Ukuba unemvakalelo efudumeleyo kumfana osemncinci oza kudibana naye, ulahlekelwa ngokungathandabuzekiyo, udidekile ngamazwi, uguqa. Kwaye zonke izihlandlo ezifanayo azikhunjulwayo, ziphendulela kwenye yezinto ezigqatso kakhulu zobomi bakho.
Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba namhlanje abameli beesondo eziqinileyo banamahloni amaninzi, ngoko ke akusoloko beyokuqala ukumema kumhla.
Ngoko ke, kubalulekile ukunyanzelisa izinto ezincinane kwizenzo ezinjalo. Into yokuba abantu abatsha, ngokugqithiseleyo kunikwa ingqalelo kwizinto ezingabalulekanga. Ngokomzekelo, kunokuthengwa kwincandelo elincinci yokugcina imoto yakho, okanye ngentloko yakho imane ibhaptizwe emsebenzini. Kwakhona, baninzi abantu baceba iholide okanye baxhomekeke kwimvelaphi yabo. Kulo mzuzwana, ibhinqa kufuneka ithathe yonke into ezandleni zayo, kwaye uzame ukuthatha inyathelo lokuqala. Isenzo esinjalo asixhaphakanga, kodwa akufanele uloyike. Kubalulekile ukuba kukhululekile.
Ungathatha njani inyathelo lokuqala ngokumema umntu osemncinci ngomhla?
Eyokuqala, kufuneka uqokelele ulwazi malunga nenjongo yokubonga kwakho. Kubalulekile ukufumanisa ukuba yintoni isangqa sahlobo lwakhe, luhlobo luni lokuphila olukhokelayo, nokuba ulwalamano nabani na. Ngamanye amaxesha kwenzeka ukuba loo ndoda ayinamahloni, nje umfazi unentsapho okanye ulwalamano nentombazana ethile. Ngenxa yoko, kwaye ungahambelani nawe Emva kokuba uchaze ukuba le nsizwa ikhululekile, ayinalo ulwalamano ngoku, kufuneka ucacise ukuba yeyiphi intombi ethandekayo, nto leyo ebalulekileyo kuye xa kwakukho ubudlelwane obudlulileyo kunye nesizathu sokuba phuhlisiwe.
Ukwazi oku kuthotywa kuya kukuxelela indlela yokuziphatha ngokuchanekileyo kwintlanganiso yokuqala. Kwakhona, kulungile ukukhumbula ukuba nayiphi na ingcaciso ingaphambukiswa. Ngako oko, kholwa okanye awukho - kusemandleni akho, ngokusekelwe kwimithombo, ukufumanisa ukuba zinokuthenjwa kangakanani na. Ngokuqhelekileyo, kwenzeka ukuba abantu abanenzondelelo bazama ukuhlambalaza umfaki sicelo ngeendlela zonke, okubangela ukuba nomdla womntu.
Masiqhubele phambili kwisinyathelo esilandelayo ngokulandelelana kwezenzo zakho. Ukumisa umhla, kunye neyokuqala, akulula. Kodwa ukuba akusikho okokuqala, ke akudingeki ucebise.
Masibhale ingqalelo ngesini esifanelekileyo, okokuqala okokuqala. Akunjalo lula ukuphumelela yokuqala kwiintlanganiso njengoko kubonakala ngathi ukujonga okokuqala. Ngokomzekelo, ngenxa yokuba abanakuzihlola ngokuzikhethela ngokwabo, becinga ukuba abanakulungele kwaye banomdla. Enyanisweni, ngamnye unempawu zakhe.
Ukuba unomsebenzi, oogxa bakho bakufumana ulwimi oluqhelekileyo, abahlobo abanokukuxhasa nganoma yimuphi umzuzu, yonke into iya kuthi yonke into ayilunganga nhlobo. Mhlawumbi unomdla kakhulu okanye uhle kakhulu ekuphekeni. Ububele, ukuthambekela kobuchule, mhlawumbi unako, unako izakhono zemidlalo. Wonke umntu unempumelelo yakhe. Mhlawumbi, nguwe owayekhangela ubomi bakho bonke abakhethiweyo. Emva kokuba wazi kakuhle, uya kukwazi ukuqonda yonke imiba yakho emihle. Kufuneka nje ukutyhoxisa.
Kufuneka, okokuqala, ukuba uthembele kwizenzo zakho. Ngenxa yokuba abafazi abanjalo banamadoda amaninzi. Bold, isisombululo, ongekho nzima ukuthetha kuqala kwaye wenze into ethile. Emva koko, namhlanje umfazi kufuneka abe neempawu ezifanayo, ukuphumeza nayiphi na impumelelo. Kodwa ke, konke oku akuthethi ukuba ukususela kwisimemo ukuya kwintlanganiso yokuqala kubalulekile ukwenza umboniso.
Amadoda ayiboni ngokucacileyo izenzo zoluntu, ngokuchaseneyo, bayayibheka njengento engenayo. Kwizinto ezinjalo, yonke into kufuneka ihambe entliziyweni. Izwi lakho umnqweno weentlanganiso ezizayo ngendlela enjalo, apho kungekho mfana ongenakukwazi ukuwenqaba. Kufuneka ukhunjulwe ukuba kwintetho yesimemo, akufanele kube "akukho", umzekelo: "Awukwazi." Kwakhona, isiphakamiso akufuneki sibe ngumbuzo. Kufuneka uzwakala ngathi: "Masiye kwiimvumi!", Okanye "Ndingathanda ukufika ekuvuleni kweziko, masihambe kunye!". Kunzima ukulahla eso siphakamiso.
Ukuba umfana uzama iimvakalelo ezifanayo kuwe, ngoko ngokuqinisekileyo uyavuma, kwaye ngeendlela zonke uya kukwenza ukuze usuku lwakho lube khona. Ukuba le nsizwa ayikukhathazi, uya kukhanyela ngengqondo, kwaye uya kufumana izizathu ezininzi. Emva koko unokugqiba ukuba lo akuyena umntu wakho, kwaye ukudibana naye akunjalo.
Kunceda kakhulu ukuthatha amanyathelo okuqala ukuya kwintlanganiso. Ngale ndlela, unokuqonda, ukondla ubuso beemvakalelo zezinto zakho zokubonga okanye cha. Kungcono kunokuba uzigcine ulawulwa.