Ubundlobongela kwiintsapho buchaphazeleka kakhulu ngabafazi nabantwana. Ukukhusela umama, abantwana bangena phantsi kwesandla esishushu. Ngokwezibalo, abafazi bajoliswe kubudlova kwi-70% yamatyala.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, abafazi banentloni yokuthetha ngeziganeko ezifanayo zobomi babo kwiintsapho okanye ngabahlobo, ngoko umbuzo wokutshutshiswa kwintsapho uvele ufikelele xa umfazi ekhuliswe kakhulu ngenxa yokubetha, okanye umlingane uthinte umntwana nzima. Kuyadabukisayo, kodwa nje kuphela izenzo ezinokuthi zenze i ntombazana ibe yinhloko kwaye imncede ithathe amanyathelo okuzikhusela yena kunye nabantwana.
Nangona kunjalo, kwinani elikhulu laloo matyala, abafazi baqhubeka beyinyamezela isimo sengqondo esinjalo, besilungisa ukungahambi ngamagama - "iqulethe", "le ndawo yindawo yakhe yokuhlala", "umntwana uyadinga uyise", kwaye kukho izizathu ezimbi kakhulu - "ukubetha kuthetha ukuthandwa." Kuya kuba mnandi ukujonga emehlweni omntu owayecinga ukuza nale nto.
Ukuguqula ikhowudi yezobugebengu kunokumangaliswa, kuba akucaci ukuba ngubani okhuselayo, ukuba umfazi kunye nabantwana bahlala bengakhuselekanga kwiimeko zobudlova basekhaya ngumyeni wakhe noyise. Ikhowudi inikeza isohlwayo xa kwenzeka ukuba ugonyamelo ngumntu ongaphandle, kodwa ukuba ilungu lentsapho, ke amagunya akakwazi ukwenza nantoni na. Bhekisela kwiingxaki yokuba ezi ngxaki zekhaya, kwaye intsapho iyakwazi ukuzichaza. Ewe, amalungu omndeni ngokwawo ayaqonda ukuba umntu athunyelwe kwenye ihlabathi.
Abaninzi abasetyhini abanqwenela ukufumana uhlobo oluthile lokukhusela bona kunye nabantwana babo, musa ukubona nayiphi enye indlela yokuphuma, indlela yokubulala umoni. Ngokuqhelekileyo, onke amaxesha azama ukubiza ii-arhente zokunyanzeliswa komthetho ekugqibeleni. Nangona ukuba isigwebo sithathwa kwisikhululo se-remand, sisakhululwa emva kwexeshana.
Into ebalulekileyo kukuba xa umfazi, ngokwemiqathango yonke, ephumelela ekufumaneni inkundla, umntu kufuneka anike ubungqina kuphela, kwaye umoni uya kuhlulwa inkululeko ixesha elide, kwaye akayi kuphinda amhlekise yena kunye nabantwana, kodwa hayi! Umfazi unesihawu ngomlingane wakhe ongenamdla "Unokuba njani uhlwempu ngaphandle kwesidlo sasekhaya? Uya kufumana izifo ezininzi apho! " Ngenxa yokuba unenceba, iqabane licela isigwebo esinemigomo, okanye iyenqabe isicelo ngokupheleleyo, kwaye emva kokukhululwa kwimeko kwintsapho ayitshintshi.
Amaziko okuphazamiseka avula ngokubanzi ukunceda kwiimeko ezinje, kodwa inani labo alinakufikelela kubo bonke abafazi abafuna uncedo. Kwaye iingcali zale phrofayili ayanele. Yintoni enokuyenza ukukhusela ukuhleka okunjalo?
Ndiyazazi i-tape ebomvu, ndiza kuhlala eSochi. Ubundlobongela ngaphezu komfazi wakhe lukhula kwizigaba eziliqela. Okokuqala, indoda ibhekise kuye kakuhle, ithetha amagama amathenda, inika izimbali zeentyatyambo kunye nezinto. Emva koko kulandela umtshato owonwabileyo, abasandul 'ukutshata bavutha uvuyo kwaye akukho nto kodwa uthando. Oku kulandelayo kukuzalwa komntwana. Emva kolu nqanaba, umntu kufuneka abone inguqu kwisimo sengqondo nokuziphatha kwabathembekileyo.
Kwimbini yokuqala, umntu uyabacaphukisa ngakumbi, angathuka, atye izitya. Iimbangela zomsindo ziyakwazi ezahlukeneyo - isobho asiyikuhlwaya, ixesha alizange lihlambe iisokisi, lingasuswanga kwindla.
Ngokuhamba kwexesha, isikhundla saso sigaba sesibini. Apha, indoda inokubamba izandla zayo, zitshintshe.
Isigaba sesithathu sibonakaliswe kukuba ukuhlaselwa kuya kuba luncedo kwimihla ngemihla yobomi bentsapho. Ngenxa yokunyamezela, kukhona into eyenzekayo. Emva kwesenzo esinobundlobongela, umlingane ongenamdla ucela ukuxolelwa, aze aguqe aze afunge ukuba ixesha liphela. Umfazi uxolela kwaye umhla olandelayo uhlawule ngokutsha.
Njalo ixesha lophando luphindaphinda kwaye imithetho iyanzima.
Ukuba umyeni ubetha umfazi wakhe, ke kukho enye indlela eqinisekileyo yokuphuma kule meko. Leli nqanaba lokuqala okanye lesibini ukuqonda kwiimeko zomfazi zogonyamelo kunye nokuhamba. Ukuya kumanyathelo okunzima kunzima kakhulu kwisigaba sokuqala, xa ibhinqa ifumana izizathu zolu hlobo - lo msebenzi ungabangelwa ngumsebenzi onzima, ubudlelwane obunzima kunye nezihlobo, ubunzima bezezimali, njl. Ibhinqa licinga kwiimeko ezinje, ukuba kuyimfuneko yokuphila kwaye yonke into iya kuba yinto efanayo. Kwaye naliphi na umzamo wokushiya, loo ntokazi iya kuhlanjululwa ngokukhawuleza ngeentyantyambo, amehlo azinikeleyo kunye neenyembezi ziya kujonga, athi "xolele", kwaye umfazi akanako ukumelana. Ngokuqhelekileyo imeko ibonakala kwinqanaba lesibini.
Abasetyhini bafumana izizathu zokuziphatha kogonyamelo komyeni wakhe, ukuvala amehlo akhe ekugqibeleni ukuba izinto aziyi kuzuza ngakumbi, kodwa zibi kakhulu. Kuthiwani ukuba umyeni uyabetha umfazi kwaye kukho indlela yokukhusela abantwana kunye nabo ngokwabo?
Abantwana abaqapheliyo izizathu eziqinisekileyo abazali abafungayo, bafuna into kuphela - ukuba ubawo nonina baphile ngoxolo kwaye musa ukumemeza omnye nomnye. Kodwa xa bebona ukuba indawo yobundlobongela ibonakala phambi kwamehlo abo, baya kuhlala bekhusela icala elinobudlova. Ngokukhawuleza xa umntwana ezama ukukhusela umama wakhe, ezama ukuzinqumla emlwaneni, unokukhawuleza ukuphonswa emva komnye ukuphela kwegumbi. Imiphumo yale nto - abafana bayakhula kunye nenkathazo enkulu, ukuba abanakukhusela nabani na kulo mpilo, kwaye amantombazana ayakuphepha umtshato.
Xa ukuxabana kuhluthwa, kubalulekile ukuba ugweme loo ndawo, apho iindawo eziyintsipho kunye nezinto ezibukhali zifumaneka. Kwakhona ugweme ukuhlamba kunye nekhitshi. Njalo gcina iqhosha elongezelelweyo lezitshixo ezisuka kwindlu kunye nemoto ukwenzela ukuba ungaphumelela kwindlu naliphi na ixesha kwaye ushiye. Hlala endaweni ephephile yakho ipasipoti, imali efunekayo kunye nawaphi na amaxwebhu onokuyifuna ngaphandle kwekhaya lakho. Sincoma ukuba ulungiselele kunye nezihlobo okanye abahlobo ukuba banokukunika indawo yokukhusela kwiimeko ezinjalo. Naliphi na idatha ebonisa ukuba indawo yakho iya kubhujiswa. Xoxa nabamelwane bakho malunga nokuba bakuva ingxolo kunye nokukrokra kwindlu yakho, makabenze ngokukhawuleza babize amapolisa.
Kwiimeko apho umyeni ebetha umfazi wakhe, akusoloko kuthi umntu omele. Ngelixa umfazi evumela ukuba zenzeke izinto ezinjalo zendlu, imeko ayiyi kutshintsha kwikamva. Nangona kunjalo, ngezinye iimeko nabantwana abanako ukufumana isisiseko esaneleyo sokuphuma kuloo mntu.
Akunamapolisa, abantu okanye umthetho awukwazi ukukhusela umfazi ekubetheni, ade azimisele ukuzikhusela. Kwaye kuphela umfazi onokumisela umphumo weziganeko ezinjalo. Kwaye ngokugcwele kuphela kumfazi, kuxhomekeka ukuba umntwana uya kukhula into efanayo okanye ayikho. Emva kwakho konke, ungalibali ukuba olo hlobo lugonyamelo luba nezizathu zalo.