Ewe, ke, ke, sele usuqaqa. Okokuthi, akudingeki ukuba ukhukhumeze ngayo yonke into ongayithenga-ukufumana-ukuba. Ukuqonda oko kubalulekile kuye kwaye oko akufunayo kukuba kubalulekile. Kwaye kufuneka uqonde ngaphambili kunokuba uya kuqonda. Indoda eyashiya iAfrika iminyaka eyi-50 eyadlulayo ayitshintshanga kakhulu. Le ndoda yayisoloko ilungele ukukhawuleza ukuya kwiindawo ezinkulu kunye neentonga zakhe, ukuba kwakungenzeka kuphela emehlweni akhe. Kwaye ngoku siyakwazi ukwenza zonke izenzo ze-idiotic. Ukuba ibhinqa ikhangeleka, kuba indoda iguqula ihlabathi, iyahluka. Umfazi akayikusola zonke iinkxwaleko zethu, uhlala esondele kuye kwaye uwela phantsi kwesandla esishushu. Ewe, ewe, siphumelela imvakalelo embi, kwenzeka-kwaye ayifanelekanga, akunjalo. Kwaye yonke into ibonakala ngcono, ukhangele kwaye ucinga ukuba: "Kodwa akayikhathaleli!" Amanye amadoda afana nokunyuka kwezindlu zabasetyhini. Uhlobo luni lweentombazana, intanda yam, ngokucacileyo, waxuba amahlathi akhe ngeesbraberries. Emva koko ikhukhamba ... Ngamanye amaxesha umntu umjonga njengomama kumntwana okhuphukela emgodini, ngesisa. Lapha wayesekhenkcekile kwaye ehlekisa kakhulu! Ekhaya, indoda iyayazi intombi yakhe ngendlela engaboni ngayo omnye umntu! Kuyafaneleka kakhulu. Awukwazi ukufuna kumfazi ukuba uhlale ehle kakuhle. Kungenxa yokuba iyakhathaza. Ayikwazi ukugqibelela yonke imini nobusuku. Ukuba umntu akakwazi oku, akayi kukwazi ukuhlala nabani na ongaphezu konyaka. Ekuqaleni, ngokuqinisekileyo, lo mfazi uyazifihla kwaye akahambanga ngokusobala emasikeni amabi e-swamp yaseNovemba. Udla nje ukutya, kwaye akawucongi. Indoda nomfazi: ubudlelwane bezesini - isihloko sesicatshulwa.
Ukukhulelwa kumntu akukhuthazi ngokukodwa
Ukwahlukana okukuphela kukuba kwakuyincinci, kodwa ngoku i-pot-bellied. Uthi kuye: apha, khangela, isithende, thintela. Iyintoni isithende? Emva koko uthatha umntwana usezandleni zakho, kwaye intambo yesibindi iya kunikwa ukucima, ngoko uqala ukuziva yonke into. Ndandingumntwana kwaye ndikhumbula zonke ezi zinto ziyimfihlelo, kunye ne-catharsis. Ndineentombi ezimbini-ezilishumi kunye neminyaka emalunga nesithandathu. Kwaye ndihlala ndididekile kwiisokisi zabo kunye namancinci, andiyiqondi indlela abayaziyo ngayo. Baye beza kum namaphepha anzima. Bonke abantu kunye nesimo sengqondo somthengi usoloko esicasulayo. Xa imisebenzi yemoto - kwaye isengathi ngenye indlela ayilungile. Xa ubunzima beemvakalelo belahlekile, amabango aqala: unetyala le nto, kwaye intloko yam ihlala ibuhlungu, nangokuhlwa. Ngoku oku kundikhuphayo kwaye ndiqamba amanga kum, ndiqamba amabali amahle. Akukho buhlobo phakathi kwendoda nomfazi. Okanye: ubuhlobo phakathi kwendoda nomfazi xa efuna yena, kwaye engathandabuzekiyo. Abasetyhini bakulungele ukuba ngabahlobo, kuba indoda indoda. Ndandithandana ixesha elide, wayeqinisekile ukuba sasingabangane nje. Ndandiqonda ukuba kusekuqaleni ukuhlasela. Wayekholelwa ukuba sihamba ngokugqibeleleyo kumhlobo womnye nomnye, simema, xubusha iincwadi, uhlekise into - lo lubuhlobo ... Kwaye ndacinga ukuba le yayingesizathu sokungalali ngesondo. Ngokuqhelekileyo umntu uxoka ukuze aphephe ama-scandals. Xa ufuna ukuchazela ixesha elide kunokuthetha amanga. Ewe, ngubani oya kukukholelwa ukuba ulele ehamba ze kunye nabafazi ababini ebhedini kwaye akazange ucinge ngako? Kodwa kwenzeka ngezinye izikhathi! Apha uxoka: bekungenayo imvakalelo, beyidakamizwa ... Abesifazana abasuka kwimibhangqwana esatshatileyo bayabonwa ngathi njengabafazi bahlobo. Kukhona ikhowudi ethile yendoda, apho ungakwazi ukuwela khona. Kodwa kwiimeko ezininzi le nto ayisithinteli. Ngokwezimvo zam, amadoda angatshatanga angabesetyhini abangaphantsi. Kubasetyhini, oku kudla ngokubambisana namabango angaphezulu. Kwaye amadoda - enenkani. Amadoda athambekele ekuhambeni ngokungathandekiyo umxholo wesithando. Ngamanye amaxesha kwenzeka - kakuhle, kungekhona isigqibo apha, kodwa bonke bayahamba, bahamba, banqwenela into ... Ndiyazi amantombazana amaninzi ahlala yedwa kuba alula kakhulu. Emva kokuba ndihlala iminyaka emininzi mna, andifuni ukuvumela nabani na ebomini bam. Ngenxa yokuba ubani ozayo, kungekudala okanye kamva kuya kubakho iisokisi ezidumileyo kwiinkomfa kwaye zidibanisa kwisibuko kwindawo yokuhlambela. Kwaye kulula ukungabacaphukisi ngenxa yezizathu. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, kukho amantombazana, ebudeni obuhloniphekileyo, aqhubeke elinda isikhulu, amamitha asithoba anesibini, kwikamela elimhlophe. Kunzima kubo. Ngenxa yokuba ikamela eliyihloko, elingamamitha angamashumi asithoba anesibini, kuhlale kukho imigca. Ndiyamazi, uyazi ukuba uyamhle. Ucebile kwaye uzijonga njengomfanelekile. Yaye akayiqondi kakuhle, xa isithandwa esilandelayo sithukuthele ukuba ukhangele kwicala. Akayiqondi isizathu sokuba ahlale nomfazi omnye - unokwenza abaninzi banwabe. Kwaye unceda ngokwenene bonke abafazi bakhe - uthenga amafulethi, iimoto. Oko kukuthi, ukholelwa ukuba: abafazi bayabandezeleka ngenxa yobugovu.
Amadoda ayakhala
Xa ubuhlobo buqala ukuhlukana kwaye wayekulungele ukuyeka yonke into, wayeyiqonda, wahlala phantsi esitini esiphantsi waza wakhala. Ngokunyanisekileyo, ngaphandle kwenjongo. Ewe, wayeka. Kwadlula ixesha baqhaqhaza, baqhekeka. Iinyembezi ziyeka ukuzenza nabasetyhini. Amadoda ayengqiqweni kwaye ayengathandanga ukukhashelwa, njengoko kukholelwa ngokuqhelekileyo. Kodwa kukho phakathi kwethu abaqhankqalazi bemigaqo-nkqubo-apha baya kuthiphanga sonke iifomati. Wonke umntu ohlala kwilizwe uya kuhlala enomdla kumzimba wesifazane omncinci, ngenxa ye-physiology. Umbuzo usengqondweni yakhe kunye nokwanela kokuzithemba. Bonke aba "daddies", ngokusichukumisa esidlangalaleni imbongolo yamantombazana eneminyaka engamashumi amabini ubudala, abayaneleyo. Abesifazana abasetyhini kunye nesithembu samadoda - iintshaba ezigqibeleleyo. Ndigweba ngohlobo lwabahlobo: amaxesha amaninzi abafazi babo babenokuqala ukudinwa ubudlelwane kwaye baqale ukukhangela into ecaleni. Kwaye umlimi wasala ngokuba ngumphumo wokuphuka. Ekubeni ekukrexeza kukho njalo yena kunye naye, kubalulekile ukuba kube nokulingana kule ngxaki, kubayeni nabasetyhini. Ngomfazi, indoda ayisoloko isenzo sezesondo. Unako ukunxibelelana nathi ngaphandle kokucinga malunga nobuhlobo bethu obudlulileyo okanye obunokwenzeka. Kwindoda, umfazi owayesondelene naye kuphela ngumfazi abesondelene naye.