Uthando lweT Triangle - umzekelo wobudlelwane, obunokuqwalaselwa njengeklasikhi. Ngaba unokucinga ukuba i-cinema yehlabathi, inkolelo, imbali yomhlaba okanye iimeko ezithembekileyo zembali ngaphandle kwesi sibalo sothando-geometric? Hayi! Kuba ngaphandle kwayo, njengokuba kungekho ngaphandle kwesiqhamo kwisitya: esitsha, esityebileyo, esingenakulungiswa. Akusiyo kuphela inkcubeko, kodwa yonke impilo yethu, iya kuba yintlupheko kakhulu ngaphandle kwabathengisi abahamba phambili be-triangles njenge-"Quiet Flows Don", "I-Love and Doves", "iGatsby Enkulu", kwaye ngokufanelekileyo ngaphandle kokuthandana ne "ezintathu". Kodwa yinto enye ukufumana ukutshisa kwefuthe kunye namaqhawe e-movie, i-popcorn yokufuna i-chewing, kunye nenye enye-ukuba ibe "yeyona ngongoma" kwidrama yakho yothando. Kodwa ngaba kufanelekile ukubiza ulwalamano apho sinyanzeliswa ukuba sikhule ukuze silondoloze uthando lwethu? Mhlawumbi simele sijonge imeko engekho "kwikona", kodwa ngaphandle? Mhlawumbi ke kuyacaca ukuba inxantathu yothando nje ngumdlalo apho lowo owaziyo imigaqo yayo iwina!
Ubani omele uxanduva kunye nento yokwenza?
Umxholo wexantathu yothando uthinteke kakhulu ngabasetyhini. Ngabo bahlala bejika kwiingcali zengqondo kunye neengxaki zothando, apho kubonakala khona umlingani. Yena, yena kunye nomthandi wakhe-unxantathu oyingqungquthela, apho, njengommiselo, "inxinano ebuthathaka" yomfazi uziva. Kuba ngamaxesha onke, iindwendwe zazibhekwa njengezilwanyana, kwaye abafazi babexhoba kwiimeko ezikhoyo. Nayi impendulo kumbuzo othi ngubani na omele? I-blame - umthandi, indoda-engenangqondo, kunye nomfazi wayo-"imvana ehlwempu"! Ngoko ke kuyimfuneko ngokwemithetho yolu hlobo, kwaye ngoko inkundla enkulu kakhulu kwihlabathi ithathe isigqibo-inkundla yoluntu. Yintoni endiyenzayo? Kulo mbuzo, uluntu lubuye lube nesigwebo esiqinileyo: ukuqhuba inkosikazi, ukuxolela umyeni wakhe nokumnyanzela ukuba amthande umfazi wakhe, aze anike umfazi igama elihloniphekileyo elithi "uMartyr Omkhulu"! Ukuba utshintshe i-angle yeembono, kwaye uzame ukujonga imeko ngokuhlekisa, ke umkhusane wokwahlula uwa kunye nenkozo yenyaniso ibonakala. Akukho mntu unetyala kunye nabantu abalungileyo! Kodwa kukho uluvo lukawonkewonke kunye neengcamango eziye zaba yinxalenye ebalulekileyo yengqondo yethu, kwaye apho sikholwe khona, njengokuba sisenza izigqibo. Kodwa kuthekani ukuba sijonge imeko leyo kungekhona njengentlekele yendawo yonke, kodwa njengethuba lokuguquka "kwi-link" ebuncinci ibe yinkosikazi yale meko? Ngaba ucinga ukuba kunzima? Akunjalo! Ukuba uyazi kakuhle imimiselo yomdlalo apho ubomi obanikezele "amakhadi" emithathu, uya kukwazi ukwakha isicwangciso sakho esizilumko sokubuyela kwendoda kwisifuba sentsapho. Kodwa kunokwenzeka ukuba phakathi "nomdlalo" uya kufumana ukuba ufumene into ebaluleke ngakumbi - uthando nokuzihlonela. Kwaye ke, kholwa mna, umyeni wakho uya kulahla "ikhoneni" elongeziweyo kwaye uya kuphazamisa indlela yokuwa nomthandane nomfazi wakhe, owathi, uyavela, uyazi ukuba ngumlwanyana."Inkolelo yeStool" okanye kutheni kukho inxantathu yothando
Ungayinqoba njani inxantathu yothando?
Ulawulo lomdlalo wenombolo 1: Ukwakha isicwangciso
Ukuba ubhala phantsi kweli nqaku, ngoko, mhlawumbi, usemagqabini xa usondele kakhulu ukufumanisa ukuba ubani omele ityala lelinxantathu yothando, kodwa lixesha lokufumana impendulo yokungawaniki ubuthongo, kwaye kukho umbuzo othi: "Yintoni endiyenzayo?" Ngaphambi kokuba kuyo yonke into, kufuneka uqhube incoko engqinileyo kunye nokuqonda, ufuna ukulungele okanye ujabule? Ukuba ulungile, ngoko kufuneka uqeshe abacuphi ngokukhawuleza ukuba ukhangele i-clock-clock ye-husband yakho, abagculeli - ukuhlawula zonke iiphasiwedi zakhe kunye nomqeqeshi webhokisi-ukuthumela umncintiswano. Kodwa, xa uvula ukuzingela kubathandi, qiniseka kakhulu kuwe, uphendule le mibuzo: "Ndiya kuthini na inyaniso?" Kwaye "Ngaba ndikulungele ukutshabalalisa ubudlelwane nomyeni wam?" Emva kokubhenca, izigqibo eziphathekayo kunye nezenzo ezifanayo kufuneka zilandele. Ukuba uqaphela yonke ingozi, kunye nomnqweno wakho uqhawulo-mtshato, uze uphume kwi-warpath uze ubonise ukufaneleka kwakho.Ulawulo lomdlalo wenombolo 2: Ukufuna izizathu
Kukhona enye indlela kwiimeko apho wena nomyeni wakho nivuya kunye kunye. Ukuba uxabisa ubudlelwane obuye baqinisekiswa ngokuphindaphindiweyo ngokuxhasa ngokunyanisekileyo, ukuthatha inxaxheba kunye nothando, olubiza kakhulu kunanoma yiyiphi inzondo - yeka ukumba! Ukukhangela akufuneki inkosikazi, kodwa izizathu ezenza unxantathu. Ukuba awukwazi ukujongana nezizathu, kodwa uya kuphelisa imiphumo, i-mistress, ngoko uchitha amandla akho-enye, enye, njalo njalo iya kutshintsha enye. Kwaye ngamnye olandelayo uya kuba mncinci kwaye angabi nantoni. "Ukucwaninga" ukufumana izizathu ozifunayo ukuqala nawe! Yintoni engagqibayo? Yintoni ongayibonangayo? Yintoni engagqibayo? Inzondo, kholwa kwam, ngokukhawuleza okanye kamva ngokwayo iya kuhlaselwa kwiimigibe zezintombi zentombi kunye nezindlela zokuthanda. Akunakwenzeka, ukuthatha umyeni wakhe kwintsapho kwaye evuya ngokuthokoza ngesimo esiphezulu somfazi, uyaqonda ukuba ngokuthatha indawo yomfazi, ukhulula umninazana wakhe. Kule meko, ayiyi kuba yinto engapheli ixesha elide.Ulawulo lomdlalo wenombolo 3: Siyabhala kwakhona "iiprogram"
Ukubeka phambili ngokufanelekileyo isicwangciso esikhethiweyo. Kufuneka uqonde ukuba kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ungabuyisela umyeni olahlekileyo ukuba uphume kwintathunxwa ngumqhubi, kwaye ungabi ngaphezu komncintiswano - kodwa uphumelele emehlweni akho, nangaphezu kokwesaba kwakho, ubunzima kunye nokuphelelwa ngumsebenzi. Bafihla phantsi kwezinto ezithandwayo, uluntu "loluntu" kunye neembono zabantu abangacelwayo, kodwa ohlala esazi indlela yokulungisa. Susa engqondweni yakho izimo zengqondo ezikuloo nto kwimfazwe yakudala kwixantathu yeklasi. Phinda ubhale kwakhona "iiprogram" apho uhlaselwe yindoda yindoda, umyeni uyisisulu sezilwanyana ezikhohlakeleyo, kwaye ngokubanzi - "onke amadoda ayakho ..."! Umthetho ongeyomgangatho, kwaye ngokudala njengomhlaba wothando lwamabutho ufumana izisombululo ezintsha kunye nezilula. Endaweni yokusebenzisa amandla kunye namandla ukufumana abantu abanetyala kunye nokuziphindezela, bachithe kwi-intando yakho. Bhalisela umdaniso - ngokukhethekileyo unomdla, cela umphathi wakho ukuhamba kwezoshishino - ngokukhethekileyo kude, thandana-ngokukhethekileyo kuwe!Endaweni yokusebenzisa amandla kunye namandla ukufumana abantu abanetyala kunye nokuziphindezela, bachithe kwi-intando yakho. Bhalisela umdaniso - ngokukhethekileyo unomdla, cela umphathi wakho ukuhamba kwezoshishino - ngokukhethekileyo kude, thandana-ngokukhethekileyo kuwe!