Baobani - aba bantu "abafazi bomphefumlo" abangaqondakaliyo? Akunabo nje abo banomdla ukuthetha. Unokuxoxa nomhlobo, kunye neentombi zexesha elide. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha udibana nomntu-kwaye ...
Umlingane womphefumlo awuhlali nje emva kweglasi yesithathu. Enyanisweni, ukuthanda nokufudumala komnye umntu (ngokuphindaphindiweyo - ngokukhawuleza), ezinye iinkqubo ziphendula. Kwaye kukuhle ukwazi ukuba oku kwenzeka ntoni nawe. Kwaye ke iyure ayinjalo, umntu oqilileyo kunye nokunyamekela uya kuzuza ...
Ngoko, walumkisa-ke, uxhobile.
Abantu basoloko besabela njani:
- Idatha yangaphandle. Akunakulinganiswa nesihlobo, umngane wobuntwana - kwaye ngoku siyathemba umntu oyintloko, ukulungele ukuxelela iimfihlelo zethu, ukuxelela malunga nesondlo. Bangakwazi "ukudlala" ngokukhawuleza kwimilo yeelishi kwintetho yamehlo.
- Indlela yokuthetha. Akukho nto i-NLP-ers ehlawula ingqwalasela enkulu ekwakheni amabinzana kunye nokukwazi ukulandelela indlela othetha ngayo. Ukuba uqeqesha ixesha elide, unokwazi ukulawula le nkqubo, kwaye kulula ukuba "ngokwakho ebhodini" kumntu ngexesha elifutshane. Kwaye uya kumangaliswa kwaye avuyiswe-bathi, indlela endiyifumana ngayo ukufumana umlingane womphefumlo!
- Ukwazi ukuphulaphula. Kuyamangalisa, kodwa akukho mntu oyedwa ophawulayo: kubalulekile ukubamba ubanda kwaye ulahlekelwe lizwi lakho, ngokukhawuleza ukuba ube ngumhlobo omnandi, kwaye wonke umntu ulungele ukudibana nomntu wakho umlingane womphefumlo. Oku kwenzekayo kuyaqondakala.
Sonke sizama ukulondoloza ixesha. Ngokukhawuleza senza ukucoca, sijamelana nomsebenzi njalo njalo. Kodwa "ukusindisa" ngokuqhelekileyo luxanduva lokunciphisa inani leenxalenye esizibonayo. Ngoko kwintetho-ezama ukuzithumela umxhasi wombono, ungenalo ixesha lokuphulaphula kakuhle.
Ukuthula okanye ukunyaniseka komntu osebenza naye ngokuqhelekileyo kubonwa njengesikhuthazo sokuthetha, kwaye ngoku siyamangaliswa ukuba kuvela njani, kukuhle ukudibana nomntu ophefumulayo. Yaye yonke into kukuba sijolise kuyo. - Into eqhelekileyo. Sibumbene kungekuphela nje ngomdla - kodwa kunokuba nembono efana nehlabathi, iimpawu zokuziphatha kunye nexabiso. Ukuba umntu uzimisele ukuxhasa, okanye wabelane ngombono wakho wembono - le sicelo ngokuthe ngqo "somphefumlo womphefumlo".
- Ukuqonda ngaphandle kwamagama . Ewe, oko kwenzeka. Musa nje ukuzikhohlisa kulo mbandela. Ngokusoloko ukuthula ngokunyanisekileyo ukuthula "ngamnye wakhe, kodwa kubonakala ngathi kunye kunye sicinga." Sivame "ukuqiqa" ngomnye umntu, malunga noko acinga, ngokusekelwe ekuqondeni kwakhe, ukuqonda, iinkcukacha. Ngoko, ngokuqinisekileyo "sicinga" ngomnye. Kwaye abantu abahloniphekileyo abakwenzayo kungekhona kwi-anecdote eyaziwayo malunga nogogo, umkhulu, i-spoon kwaye "uphinde ucinge ngento embi!"
- Ukuphendula ngokuchanekileyo / kwisigqibo esifanelekileyo. Ngelishwa, ibinzana elithi "Yeka indlela endiyifumana ngayo ukufumana umlingane womphefumlo!" Ufihla umnqweno wobugovu wokulungisa umhlaba. Kwaye kwintetho, kuboniswa ngolu hlobo lulandelayo. Umntu ugqiba amaqonga akho, wenza izigqibo ezifanayo okanye izimvo. Kubonakala ngathi apha - umphefumlo, oqonda yonke into!
Ngubani onokuba "umoya wobubele"?
Nqabile kakhulu ukuba isihlobo siqonda "ukususela kwisiqingatha-magama, ukusuka kwisiqingatha-mbono." Kufuneka sibeke oku. Ukuqonda ukuba izibophelelo zegazi - azithethi ngokuthe ngqo "ukunyaniseka", abantu banomhlobo okanye baxoxisana kakhulu nabahlobo.
Umntu unokuba ngumntu othuthayo kunye nomsebenzi, ummelwane owayebonakala eyazi kakuhle kwaye engalindelanga into entsha kuye. Umhlobo okanye umngane wabantwana, ngokuchaseneyo, ukuba "bonke bezintshisekelo zabo", banokutshutshisa kunye nokungaqondi.
Isilumkiso sabaqalayo kunye namadoda amadala e-front "yokomoya"
Ukunikezelwa ngamaphuzu adlulileyo, zama ukunyengwa malunga nomnxibelelwano wakho. Kwaye nangomso, ngokukhawuleza uthi uyazihlambalaza - ungadikibala. Ngexesha elide lokukhohlisa liba lincinci - amava achaphazela. Kodwa imiphefumlo enxulumene nayo, evuyisa kakhulu ukuhlangana kunye nethuba, iyinyanisekileyo, kwaye ubuhlobo buba bunzulu.