Uhambo lukaMendelssohn, umoya oyingqungquthela, ulwandle lweentyantyambo, ukumomotheka, ukuvuyiswa, ukukhanya kweekhamera, ii-camera cameras ezijoliswe kuwe kunye nomthandi wakho. Yaye wena uyinkosikazi yale bhola, inhle, i-airy, iyavuya. Kwaye kwangaphambili - ubusuku bokutshata bokuqala kunye nobusika. Ihlabathi lidwetswe ngemibala yobuninzi, intliziyo iqhuma esibhakabhakeni, kwaye kubonakala ngathi uyona mhle kakhulu kwihlabathi. Usuku oluhle, olulodwa kuphela ebomini, kungakhathaliseki ukuba ngubani owathatyayo ngokuphindwe kabini! Yintoni enokuba yinto enhle kunomhla womtshato?
Kodwa apha kwafika isalute, ezwakala ngomculo kwaye imemeza "ngokukrakra" eli liholide elihle, kwaye washiywa wodwa. Ngoku unentsapho, kunye novuyo, ubunzima, iingxaki kunye noxanduva. Kodwa yintoni enye, ukuba utshatile, kwaye awusekho mfana kunye nentombazana, kodwa abasha abashadile, indoda nomfazi? Yaye uneminyaka emingakanani, akunandaba. Yintoni ebalulekileyo kukuba unye. Kwaye akukho mntu uya kubuza-ingabe kusasa kakhulu? Ulungele? Ngaba uyaqonda nokuba intsapho ibhekisela ntoni? Kuhle, ukuba ngabazali babenomdla kwisigqibo sakho kwaye nangona bengathandanga, abazange baphazamise. Kubi ukuba lixesha elifutshane, kwaye uya kuqonda ukuba wuleza ...
Enyanisweni, uyayazi njani ukuba kusenokwenzeka ukuba unqabile kakhulu, okanye ngaba lixesha lokulibala? Ingaba kukho impendulo kumbuzo: umtshato wokuqala okanye ulungile?
Njengesiqhelo, akukho mpendulo engaqinisekanga. Yonke into kweli lizwe ilinganisekile, kungakhathaliseki ukuba ityala lingava njani. Kwaye umtshato wokuqala usenokuba neenzuzo kunye nokuphazamiseka. Ngako oko, amandla ayo kuxhomekeke kuninzi: zombini ngokuguquguquka, ububele, uthando lwabafazi abaselula, kunye nokuncediswa, ukuxhasa ngenkqubela kunye nabahlobo, kunye neemeko zokuphila, kunye neengeniso zempahla, ishedyuli yomsebenzi. Kuphela, mhlawumbi, inzuzo enkulu kwimitshato yokuqala ingacingwa ukuba, njengomthetho, yinto kuphela yothando. Kwaye, ngoko ke, banamathuba okuhlala ubomi.
Yintoni enye into enokuthi ithathwa ngokuba yinzuzo yemanyano yeentliziyo ezincinci kukuba bobabini banamava obomi obuncinane kunye neentliziyo eziqinileyo, ngoko ke, sibongele kubo bobabini, ngokuchasene nemvelaphi yothando, iimpazamo zomntu othandekayo ziya kuba zingabonakali. Ukongeza, abatsha abatshatileyo abaqhelanga isimo sabo esitsha, ngoko ke, ukunakekelwa kunye noxanduva malunga nomnye kuya kusayi kuba mnandi, kungekhona umthwalo. Oku kuya kuncediswa kakhulu ngolu hlobo olufanelekileyo nolunengqiqo kwinxalenye yabazali abatsha abasanda kutshata. Ukuba isizukulwana esidala sinemvelo kwaye sinengqiqo ekuncedeni abantwana babo ngokungenakuqonda kwaye kuphela xa kuyimfuneko, kwaye ukuba bangathathi intsapho yabo encinci eminzini yabo kwaye bangazami ukusungula ukunyanzelisa kwabo, kuya kubavumela abatshatileyo ukuba bafunde ukuzimela kunye noxanduva lwabo kunye nentanda yabo. Kwaye ngoko, umanyano wabo wokugqibela uza kuba yintsapho eqinile.
Isikhubekiso esiyinhloko kwiingxoxo malunga nesihloko somtshato wokuqala, ngokuqinisekileyo, ukuzalwa komntwana. Apha, iimbono zabaxhasayo kunye nabachasi bahamba malunga nomzuzu oyintloko, kodwa ngeendlela ezichaseneyo. Abokuqala bayaqiniseka ukuba ngokukhawuleza uzala umntwana, kulula ukuphakamisa, kuba uya kuqonda kangcono, kuba sisondele kuye ngenxa yobudala bakhe. Owesibini uxela ukuba abazali abatsha basengabantwana ngokwabo, ngoko ke akudingeki balinde ukuba bathathe isimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo kumntwana, nokuba nomonde wokukhulelwa nokubeletha kuhlobene kakhulu, okanye ukuzithiba, ngaphandle kweyiphi iminyaka yobomi bokuzalwa osenakuzalwa. Ubunzima kukuba bobabini bafanele ngendlela yabo. Yaye iya kuthini - ixhomeke ngokupheleleyo kwiimpawu zabo zabazali abancinci, ukudibanisa kwabo, ukulungelelana kwabo ukuxhaswa ngabanye, kunye kunye nokunciphisa ubunzima kunye nokuhluleka kwamava.
Enye ingxaki enkulu, ebangela ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo kunye nokudandatheka, kuya kuba kukulahlekelwa ngokukhawuleza kunye nokubonakalayo komtshato womntu ngamnye. Kuyaziwa ukuba wonke umntu maxa wambi kufuneka ahlale yedwa ubuncinane iyure okanye ezimbini, phumula, unqamule kwizinto zonke nakubantu bonke. Kuhle okanye kakubi, akusiyo ukuba sinqume. Kodwa ngoku oku kunokudibaniswa ukungaqondi kakuhle kunye nokunganeliseki. Abafazi abasha abangenawo amava okuphila abayimfuneko abanakukwazi ukuzicwangcisa ngokwabo ukuze bafunde, basebenze, benze yonke into ejikeleze indlu, banakekele umthande wabo, baze bafumane ixesha lokuzonwabisa. Oku akuyona inketho kumntu omdala. Enye into kukuba ii-discos nama-nightclub, amaqela kunye neenkampani ezinomsindo zabahlobo emva kweminyaka ethile baya kutsala ngaphantsi kweyona nto yinto engabonakaliyo okanye engabikho nto. Kodwa ebusheni bam oku kuyona nto iphambili yobomi obuqhelekileyo. Kwaye kulungile ukuba iqabane lingashiyi umfazi omncinane wedwa entabeni yeengubo ezingahlambulukanga okanye iingubo ezingcolileyo kwaye akahambanga ukuzonwabisa kumtya kunye nabahlobo. Kubi ukuba benza oku kunye kunye, bejika ikhaya labo ukuba bangene kwindawo yokuzikhusela engabonakaliyo, apho bafika khona ukuchitha ubusuku.
Kubonakala ngokucacileyo ukuba iingxabano ezithandanayo kwi-union yokuqala kunye naso zininzi ngokufanayo. Iinkcukacha zixhomekeke kwimeko ethile: umntu ngokwenene uqala ukutshata kwaye, ngokukodwa, ukuba nabantwana, kwaye umntu ulungele kule ncinane. Into ephambili apha, kungakhathaliseki ukuba isithandwa sothando sithandeka njani, kuxhomekeke ekunyanisekeni kwothando, kuya kuba namandla kunye nobubele, ukulungelelanisa kulutsha ukuba lubophe umtshato kunye noxanduva. Izibalo zibonisa ukuba ipesenteji yowesahlukaniso kwimitshato yokuqala iphezulu kakhulu. Kwaye imbali iyayazi ezininzi iimeko xa imitshato yokuqala yaqala ukuxhamla kobuhlobo bentsapho, buqhutywa kuyo yonke impilo.