Okokuqala, makhe sixoxe malunga nokuba lukhulu kangakanani umahluko phakathi kweminyaka kunye nendlela ubudala intombazana ngayo. Kuba, ngokwenene, sinokuthi uthando luphantsi kwanoma yibuphi ubudala, kodwa, eneneni, kukho iimeko ezingamkelekanga. Ngokomzekelo, amabali anjalo anokuthiwa kubangelwa ukuba loo nto intombazana eneminyaka elishumi elinesibini ubudala, kwaye umntu sele sele esedlulele emashumi amathathu. Akunakwenzeka ukuba ibali elifana neendaba zeLolita kaNabokov lingabizwa ngokuqhelekileyo. Vumelana nento enokungaqhelekanga phakathi kwendoda enjalo kwaye, enyanisweni, umntwana. Ukuba abantu bathandana kunye nokwakha ubudlelwane, ngoko kufuneka babe neenjongo ezifanayo. Kwaye kulo mzekelo, akukho mbuzo nawuphi na umdla. Cinga ngawe, ungacinga ntoni malunga neminyaka elishumi elinanye. Kungenzeka ukuba, malunga nesikolo esikhatheleyo kunye nendlela yokufumana amabakala amahle, malunga neentombi kunye nabahlobo, ii-discos kunye nokuba abazali abaqondi nhlobo. Indoda eneminyaka engamashumi amane ubudala, malunga noko acingayo? Ucinga ngezoshishino, ukuzola ebusuku ekhaya, malunga nobhiya kunye nokuloba kunye nabahlobo. Ngako oko, ulwalamano olunjalo naluphi na uhlobo alukwazi ukubizwa ngokuthi uthando kwaye ubingelela. Mhlawumbi loo nto intombazana inothando, kuba kukho amadoda akhangeleka kumashumi amane, azibonele kwaye azi ukuba nomdla. Ngaphezu koko, abafazi bahlala befana nabantu abadala, kuba babonakala banobuchule nangobulumko. Oku, ngokuqhelekileyo, yinyaniso, kodwa kungekhona kulo mzekelo. Ngenxa yokuba umntu ufuna ukuzonwabisa, khumbula ulutsha. Mhlawumbi yena unomfazi nabantwana. Kalula, wayekhatywe ngumfazi ofanayo, okanye wayefuna nje ukuthetha "iwayini elincinci".
Intombazana encinane kwindoda enjalo isoloko inomdla wesondo. Ngoko ke, ngokukhawuleza uyamkhathaza, kwaye uyaphela nje, kwaye intombazana iya kulila ixesha elide kunye nolwazi lwayo lokuqala luthando, okokuba, nangona ubudala bakhe, abayi kuba ngumntwana. Ngoko ke, ngokuchanekileyo olu luhlobo lufanele luphephe, kwaye xa ubona ukuba udade, intombi okanye intombi iwele phantsi kule meko, kufuneka wenze konke. Ukumisa olu lwalamano. Nangona intombazana iya kumelana kwaye imemezele ukuba uyayithiya, qonda ukuba ngoku iselula kwaye inothando. Ngokuhamba kwexesha, intombazana ikhula, iyayiqonda yonke into kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo iya kubulela ngokumlondoloza ngexesha elifanelekileyo kwiimeko ezinobungozi.
Kodwa, kukho ezinye iimeko apho umda wobudala ongawudlali indima ekhethekileyo, engaphezulu. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba intombazana ilishumi elinesithoba, kwaye umfana uneminyaka engamashumi amabini anesithoba, lo mmahluko awunakuhlala ukhangelelwa. Sonke siyazi ukuba amantombazana akhula ngaphambili, kwaye abantu baya kuba bulumko emva koko. Ngoko ke, sinokucinga ukuba ngokwenene, kukho iminyaka emithathu ukuya emine phakathi kwabo. Ukongezelela, ukuba umntu unento yokuzonwabisa kunye neminqweno efanayo, ke akukho mbuzo wobudala obuhlukile. Ukuba bobabini bekhokela ubomi obunomdla, umzekelo, bathanda ukuhamba, babe nexesha elidlulileyo kunye nezinto ezinjalo, ngoko, ngokuphindaphindiweyo, bobabini babonakala bebancinci kwaye kuphela abo bazi kakuhle kakhulu bakwazi ukwahlula ukuhluka kweminyaka. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ngamanye amaxesha intombazana inokuthi ibe nento engumntwana, kodwa ukuba ihlakaniphile, iyanelisekanga kwaye ayinakuchukumisa ukwenza ihlazo ngenxa yantoni na, iyanelisekile kwaye ingaphephekanga. Ngobabini, apho bobabini abangaphezu kweshumi elinesibhozo kunye nabangaphantsi kwemashumi amathathu, azikho nabuphi na ukungavumelani okhethekileyo. Kule meko, bobabini intombazana kunye nentombazana bamele abamele isizukulwana esifanayo, kunye nemfundo efanayo, imibono ebomini, umdla, iingxaki kunye nezikhumbuzo eziqhelekileyo zobomi, abantwana kunye nokunye. Ngenxa yoko, kulula kakhulu ukuba bafumane ulwimi oluqhelekileyo, baqondane, bamkele iingxaki ezinokuthi zivulele esinye isiqingatha kwaye zenze ngendlela eya kubanceda, kunokuba zenze ngcono imeko.
Enyanisweni, kunzima izibini ezibini apho intombazana ingaphantsi kwemashumi mathathu, kwaye indoda sele isele malunga ne-40. Kukho kuphela kunokungqubana komdla. Ukongezelela, abazali bakhe banokubhikisha ngokumalunga nobuhlobo kunye nomtshato. Kodwa, ngale ngxaki unokukwazi ukuba zombini indoda kunye nowesifazane baziphatha ngokuchanekileyo. Intombazana ayifanele ibe nomsindo nabazali bayo, imemeza ize ishiye indlu. Indlela efanelekileyo kukuba ukwazi ozithandayo. Inenekazi kufuneka ibonise intlonelo kwintsapho yakhe ukuze bakwazi ukuthetha nokuqonda ukuba ungumfundi ofanelekileyo. Yaye inyaniso yokuba uneminyaka engaphezulu nje, kuba umntu onjalo uqikelele, unokwethenjelwa kwaye, ngaphezu koko, unamandla kwiinyawo zakhe kwisicwangciso sezinto eziphathekayo.
Umahluko kwiminyaka, indoda endala, akufanele ibe yingxaki kulabo abathandanayo kwaye bazimisele ukuphazamisa. Ngokuqinisekileyo, abantu abavela kwizizukulwana ezahlukeneyo abahlali baqondana njalo, kodwa ukuba olu luthando luyinyani, unokuhlala uzama ukuqonda ingxaki, yenza izigqibo ezifanelekileyo kwaye udibanise. Kule meko, indoda kunye nomfazi bangavuma ukuba ezinye izinto ziya kuthethwa ngokwahlukileyo. Umzekelo, indoda iya kudlala igalofu, kwaye umfazi uya ku-nightclub. Into ephambili kukuba ayibahlukanisi kwaye ayiphuli ukuthembela. Ukuba bobabini bayazi ukuba ngaphandle kokuba bathandana kwaye baya kuhlala benyanisekile, ngoko ubuhlobo babo buya kuba namandla kwaye buhlala njalo.