Izizathu zokuba kutheni umtshato uqabane:
Amadoda nabasetyhini babonakala benziwe kwiiplanethi ezahlukeneyo-ngoko sihlukile kwiimeko, ukuziphatha kunye nazo zonke ezinye izinto. Kungenxa yolu xhaphako kubudlelwane kukho ixesha elinjalo xa uyeka ukuqonda.
Njengoko uyazi, akukho bantu abalungileyo. Ngamnye wethu uneempazamo zakhe kunye namaphele entloko. Kwaye, ukuba awulungele ukumkela umntu kunye nokudibanisa kwayo kunye nokunciphisa, kuyimvelo ukuba kuvele ukuxabana ngenxa yokunganeliseki neempawu zomntu.
Ewe, kwaye ekugqibeleni, ukuxabana kwintsapho kuvela ngenxa yendlela eyaziwayo yokuphila. Umyeni wam akazange akhuphe inkunkuma. Umfazi wam akazange agxeke ihembe lami elithandayo. Kwaye, ngokubanzi, ufuna ukubukela uchungechunge oluthandayo lweTV "Ubundlobongela kwiSixeko Esikhulu", kunye nomyeni wakhe uSarah Jessica Parrker.
Imigaqo yokuziphatha kwimeko engqubuzanayo.
Kodwa ukuba ingxabano kwintsapho yakho isele ivule ngokugcwele, ndicinga ukuba awuyi kuba nexesha lokuqonda izizathu zayo, kwaye kuya kuba lixesha elide ukubuza: "Ungathini ukuphepha ingxabano kwintsapho?". Kule meko, kubalulekile ukwenza.
Impikiswano nganye ilele ukuba abantu ababini baxabana kwiitoni eziphezulu kwaye bahlala behlambalaza. Kwaye, ukuze uphephe ukuxabana kweentsapho ezikhokelela kwimfazwe ebandayo kwixesha elizayo, kubalulekile ukwazi ukuba:
Ukufumana ubuhlobo, ungazami ukufikelela enyanisweni uze uqonde "ngubani othe tye, ngubani omele uxanduva?". Zama ukufumanisa ukuba kutheni ukungavumelani nokuxubusha.
Ngethuba lokulwa, umphefumlo wakho uqothulwa yimvakalelo eyahlukileyo, nokuba ingumsindo, intukuthelo okanye umona. Kodwa, gcinani ngesandla, musa ukuhlazisa umlingane wakho, nokuba ngaba unetyala kakhulu. Emva koko, ngoku kutshanje, wayeyena mntu othandekayo kunye nothando.
Musa ukugcina intlungu ngaphakathi. Inomhlaba wokuhlawulela ngokukhawuleza emphefumlweni. Kwaye, xa umzuzwana wokuqhuma kufike ukucaphuka kwakho, awusayi kuncedwa nayiphi na icebiso malunga nendlela yokuphepha ukuxabana kwintsapho. Ngoko unokuphepha njani ukuxabana kwintsapho?
Ngoku siye saqwalasela amaqhinga okuziphatha xa impikiswano isele iguqulwe ngokugcwele. Kodwa, masibuyele kwimvelaphi yencoko yethu kwaye sizame ukuqonda oko kufuneka kwenziwe ukwenzela ukuba ugweme ukuxabana kunye neengxabano kwintsapho yakho.
Ukuba ukhutshwe ngumlingane okanye uvele umsindo kuye, zama ukusebenzisa le ndlela: "kubala ukuya kwishumi." Njengoko akunjalo, kodwa ukuba uzama ukuphazamisa kwiingcamango zentukuthelo, ngoko ukuthanda komphefumlo wakho kuya kuzinza. Kwaye, xa oko kwenzeka, unokuzihlola ngenyameko kwaye ngenyameko imeko.
Ewe, kukho izinto ezinjalo ongafanele uxolele, ezihlazisa ukuzithemba kwakho. Kodwa, ngokuphindaphindiweyo, emva kokupholisa emva kokuxabana, izizathu ophikisana ngazo neqabane lakho zibonakala zingenangqiqo kwaye ziyisicwenge.
Khangela izinto ngokuqinisekileyo: uyamthanda umyeni wakho, wamkhetha njengomlingane wobomi ngenxa yokuba uyona mhle. Ewe, sonke senza iimpazamo kunye nempazamo, kodwa siphila abantu kwaye sinelungelo lokwenza iimpazamo. Cinga ukuba kulungele ukuvula imfazwe nomyeni wakho ngenxa yokuba ukhohliwe ukuba umama wakho unesikhumbuzo namhlanje? Okanye wasasaza iisokisi zakhe kulo lonke igumbi, kwaye uvele uhlambuluke entwasahlobo. Funda ukujonga isohlwayo kwaye ukwazi ukuxolela.