Ngokuqinisekileyo wena nomyeni wakho ninembopheleleko yendima entsha kubazali kwaye niphakamise ikhosi ekhethekileyo esikolweni koomama nabazali. Imisebenzi enjalo ayibalulekanga, kuba awuyiqondi nje kuphela ingcamango (indlela yokunyamekela umntwana osandul 'ukuzalwa, indlela yokutya umama), kodwa usebenzise (ukuphefumula, ukuhlaziya okuphumayo). Inceda kakhulu ekuzaleni! Nangona kunjalo, namhlanje, ngaphezu kolwazi kunye nezakhono, unako abancedi abanokwenene. Akunjalo ngendoda ethandekayo (akunakwenzeka ukuba ubani uya kumangaliswa kubukho bakhe ekuzalweni), kodwa malunga nendoda ebizwa ngokuba yi-muzzle (kwisiNgesi doula).
Oda Odena
Ngomnyaka we-1956, kwisibhedlele esiqhelekileyo eFransi, kwakukho unogqirha ogqithisileyo u-Michel Auden, ophethe ubuchule obunzima. Bazukisa nogqirha. Ngoku u-Auden uyaziwa kwihlabathi lonke! Wabhala iincwadi ezilishumi elinambini ("Ukuzalelwa ngokuvuya", "Ukuzalwa ngokutsha", "Impilo yeprayimari" nabanye), ezipapashwe ngeelwimi ezingama-21! Kodwa akukona nje kuphela oku kuhambelana noMichel Auden. Emazweni ahlukeneyo, umFrentshi waziwa njengendoda eyaziwa njengamadoda, kwiminyaka yee-1970, yazisa amachibi okubhukuda, amagumbi aneempahla zasekhaya kunye ... izifundo ze-muzzle, abafazi, ababizelwe ukunceda ekuzalweni, kwindlela yokubeleka.
Yintoni eyenza umgqomo?
Igama elithi "dula" lithetha iqabane eliyingcali ekuzalweni, eliye lazala, kodwa ngoku liyazi indlela yokuququzelela le nkqubo kumama ozayo. Kwaye le ntombi ayifuni ukuba nemfundo yezokwelapha. Into ephambili kukuba namava akhe kunye nomnqweno wokunceda. Kwaye ekubeni iDula eqonda ngokucacileyo intsingiselo yazo zonke izinto ezenzekayo, nguye yena osebenzisana neengcali (ugqirha, unesi-heesthesiologist, umbelethisi), uya kukuxelela ngokuchanekileyo, "guqulela" amagama angenakuqondakalayo yezokwelapha, achaze, ahlalise. Ngomncedisi onjalo, awuyi kuba nexhala lokuba xa ufuna nantoni na, abahlengikazi baya kuxakeka nomnye umfazi ekubelekeni. Umsebenzi we-muzzle kukubonelela ngenkxaso yomzimba, yenyama kunye nolwazi kumfazi obelethayo. Enyanisweni, i-muzzle yenza indima edibanisayo phakathi kokubeletha ibhinqa kunye nabantu abatsha kunye ... kuququzelela ukulwa, iinzame zomama wesikhathi esizayo. Njani? Ngooncedo lwezakhono zabo. U-Dula uyazi iindlela zokuphumla, uyazi ukusebenzisa i-acupressure massage (zombini ukuphumula kunye nokuvuselelwa kwabasebenzi), ubonisa ukuba yiphi indawo yomzimba ilungele ukuthatha ngexesha ngalinye lokuzalwa ukwenzela ukunciphisa intlungu, ukhumbuza ubugcisa bokuphefumula ... Nangona kumnandi Ukuhambelana komculo kuyayinyamekela!
Okwesithathu akuyonto!
Ngaba ucinga ukuba xa uhamba ekuzalweni kombhobho, indoda yakho ayifuni ukuba khona? Ndikholelwe, ubukho bokuba "umlingiswa" omnye awuyikubandakanyi ubukho bomnye. Yaye ukuba ngaba wena kunye nomthandayo wakho bekulungele ngokwengqondo kubazali bezalamane, akukho nto inokuthintela ekubeni uthathe isigqibo kunye ... uthathe isigxina esifanelekileyo, esinamava kwiinkampani. Akuyi kuba yinto yesithathu! Akunjalo, loo ntokazi ayiyi kuthatha yona, ishiye umyeni wakho abe ngumbonisi. U-Dula uya kumxelela into enokuyenza ngethuba linye, vumela, inkxaso. Oku kubalulekile, kuba uyise ozayo uyakhathazeka kakhulu! Kwaye, nakumntwana wakho. Thatha ingqalelo kwaye ungabi mfuneko kakhulu kuye! Ndiyabulela kuwe, ndoda, u-dula, ugqirha kunye nombelethisi, kuvela intlanzi ebalulekileyo? Vuyiswa! Kwaye siphuthuma ukukwazisa ukuba ngeeyure ezimbalwa uza kuba phantsi kokugcinwa okuthembekileyo. I-Dula izokukunceda ukunamathela encinane kwisifuba (kwaye ngexesha elifanayo liya kukuxelela indlela yokwenza ngayo kwixesha elizayo), liza kulandelelanisa ukuphathwa kwezonyango kwaye ... shiya ukuze ubuyele kwikholi yakho yokuqala, kuba udibaniso lomntu luya kuhlala ixesha elide.