Kodwa sifuna ukuthetha kancinci ngenye into namhlanje. Makhe sithethe ngala maxesha xa umntu ezama ukuphepha ukunxibelelana nomfazi. Ekuboneni kokuqala, imeko ingabonakala ingenangqiqo kwaye ihlaziye ngendlela ethile-sonke singabantu abadala, kwaye apha umntu uzama ukuphepha ukunxibelelana kunye nesini esahlukileyo. Yintoni ebangela izenzo ezinjalo kwaye kwintoni umntu azama ukuzikhusela ngokwenza izinto ezinjalo?
Kwaye siqala ngeendlela zokuphila ezinxulumene neendima kunye neendawo ebomini kubantu nabasetyhini. Akukho unyaka omnye nangaphezulu kwekhulu leminyaka sonke sibona ngokugqibeleleyo kwaye siyayiqonda ukuba umntu unqobile nomzingeli, kwaye umfazi ungumgcini wekhaya kunye nekhaya. Kodwa kufuneka uqonde ukuba ukuba kwakunjalo iminyaka engama-200 edlulileyo, ngoku yonke into ayikwazi ukufana nale. Yaye inyaniso yokuba abaninzi abafazi bayabandakanyeka emsebenzini "wesilisa" kunye namadoda - "abafazi" namhlanje abamangalisi mntu. Kodwa, ngokuqinisekileyo, oku kufihla intloko yombuzo othi "Kutheni, ukuba umntu ugwema ukuthetha nomfazi?"
Inyaniso yokuba umfazi uzama kulobu bomi ukujongana nemisebenzi yasekhaya, ikhitshi kunye nabantwana, kodwa uyaqonda kwakhona ukuba amandla akhe njengengcali kwimeko ethile iye yinto eqhelekileyo. Kwaye inyaniso yokuba ibhinqa ifuna ukuphumelela ngokulinganayo kwintsapho kunye nasemsebenzini, ngokuxhalabisa kakhulu abameleli besini esomeleleyo. Kungaba ngcono njani kum ukuba ndiyindoda? Imibuzo enjalo yamandulo, mhlawumbi, ngaphezu kweyodwa yanyuka kwiingcinga zamadoda amaninzi. Yaye inyaniso yokuba indoda ingafunda imicimbi ethile yasekhaya ingabandakanywa nje ngokuba "lo akuwona umsebenzi womntu"
Kwaye ke, xa isiqingatha esinamandla sabantu siqala ukuziva ingozi kubameli beSiqendu esihle ngendlela yokunciphisa idumela labo kunye nesimo sabo-ke ngoko baqala ukuphepha ukudibana nowahlukileyo. Ngaba sele udibana nabantu abavuma ukutshatyalaliswa kwintombi? Nantsi oku.
Xa umntu eqala ukuphepha ukunxibelelana, ngoko ngokutsho kweengcali zengqondo, oku kuthetha ukuba lo mntu, kwindawo yokuqala, usebenza kwizakhiwo zasemandulo. Emva koko, akukho mntu uphelile isistim somuntu sokuzimela.
Kodwa siphila kuluntu. Ngoko ke, apha izizathu kunye neenjongo zitshintshile kancane, ngokungafani nelizilwanyana. Kwaye amadoda amaninzi akakwazi ukuvuma ukuba ukuba umntu ubona umfazi ophumelele kwaye othembekileyo phambi kwakhe, ngoko, njengommiselo, ugweme ukuthetha naye. Oku kuhlazisa kwaye kumthuka, njengoko omnye upolitiki uye wavuma ukuzithetha.
Kwaye abafazi, ngaphezu kokuphumelela, baphinde balahlekelwe ngumfazi wabo . Emva kwakho konke, xa ufika kwipaki yempisi, kufuneka ube yindoda efanayo. Ngaphandle koko uya kuba lixhoba lezi zimpungushe. Ngoko ke, ukufumana impumelelo nempumelelo yomsebenzi, kufuneka uzibuze umbuzo - kodwa ngaba ufanelekile yonke le mpu melelo endalahlekileyo ngexesha elifanayo? Emva koko, ukuba umntu rhoqo, ngokungabikho isizathu esicacileyo, ugweme ukuthetha nawe-oku mhlawumbi ngenxa yesi sizathu.
Emva koko, abaninzi abafazi bayeka umsebenzi we-150% kwizinto zokungabikho komntu okanye kwintsapho yokuphelelwa komntu kwaye ke fumana oko bakufunayo. Uqhagamshelwano nomfazi osemsebenzini nasekhaya, njengowesifazane, ngokwahlukileyo kakhulu kwiimeko ezininzi. Emsebenzini, ibhinqa, ingakumbi ukuba ihlala kwiindawo eziphathekayo, ijika ibe "yimihlaba emgceni" kwaye yimbi ngakumbi kunomphathi ongenakuyifumana kwihlabathi lonke - loo madoda acinga ngayo. Kwaye ukhuseleko lwekhaya kunye noxakeka unokuhlala ungokwemvelo kwaye ukhululekile, kuba akudingeki ukuba uqine kwaye ufune. Iimidlalo ezinjalo zihlala zibonwa kunye nabasetyhini abaninzi.
Yaye yintoni ebonakalayo kwingxoxo nomfazi yindlela yokuziphatha komfazi njengoko ihluke kwintsapho kunye nomsebenzi. Emva kwakho konke, nangona isiqingatha esilungileyo sabantu sisaxhamla kakhulu kwaye sinengqondo, ininzi yabo ayikwazi ukuzilungisela ngokwaso isitayela sokusebenza kwaye ekhaya liziphatha ngendlela efana nomsebenzi. Oku, ngokutsho kweengcali, enye yeengxaki ezinkulu zoluntu olukhoyo, oluchaphazela uhlobo lwentsapho nolwalamano lwangoku.
Njengokuba abanye abantu bethetha, ukuthetha nomfazi ongeyena umfazi kodwa ngexesha elifanayo umphathi wakho ngumhlobo wekiti ne mouse. Emva koko, kuyimfuneko ukunikela ulwazi ngale ndlela ukuze aneliseke, kwaye ungakulibala ukwenza ezinye, nokuba zincinci, ukunconywa kwebhanti.
Nazi ezinye iingongoma eziza kukunceda ukuba uqondisise ngandlela-thile isizathu sokuba amadoda azame ukuphepha ukunxibelelana nabasetyhini. Kwaye ukuba isizathu esona sizathu sokwesaba umfazi ophumeleleyo, kufuneka sikhunjulwe ukuba ulonwabo alulinganiswa nemali okanye impumelelo yomsebenzi. Kukho ezininzi ezizisa uvuyo ebomini bethu - olu luhlobo, uthando, nezihlobo, kunye nezihlobo, kunye nabahlobo. Mhlawumbi lo wesifazane akanelisekile ebomini bakhe kangangokuthi awukwazi ukuyicinga?