Isimo sengqondo, ebonakaliswa yimpawu efana nokudakumba, kumadoda avela kwi-35 ukuya kwe-45 ubudala ubudala. Le meko idibene nokuhlaziywa kwamava kunye nobomi. Inkathazo yobudala obuphakathi kwamadoda yintshintsho kwelinye inqanaba lophuhliso. Ngamanye amaxesha ingxaki ebantwini ayinzima kakhulu, ibe ngezinye iindawo zibuhlungu kakhulu. Indoda ngeli xesha libuzwa imibuzo: yintoni eyenzile, yenzeni na? Yaye ukuba iimpendulo zakhe zingenelisekile, ngoko kunzima kunzima.
Iimpawu zeengxaki kumadoda obudala obuphakathi
Kwindoda eneminyaka ephakathi, ekuqaleni kwenkathazo, utshintsho olunzulu luvela kwindlela yokunxibelelana, ekuziphatheni, kwimilinganiselo, kwiimbono zobomi, njl. Ngenkxwaleko, indoda iyatshintsha kakhulu kangangokuthi abasondeleyo bayamqaphela. Umzekelo, ukudonsa iifutshane ezimfutshane, ngokukhawuleza uyahamba ngokuloba. Ukhumbula ubuncinci bakhe kwaye uyayifaka into entsha, ifikelele ekungabini, okanye ayinakucingela amantombazana amancinci, njl njl.
Kodwa kukho elinye icala lenkathazo yobudala obuphakathi, okwenzeka ngokuphindaphindiweyo kunaphambili. Kukho imeko ecinezelekileyo, uxinzelelo olungenangqiqo kunye nokwesaba okungaqhelekanga. Kwamadoda eneminyaka ephakathi kweminyaka iimeko ezimbi zempilo, ukunganakwa. Uqala ukujikeleza oogqirha, ukuhlola izilonda zakhe. Ukutshintsha ngokugqithiseleyo isimo sengqondo kubafazi. Ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ukuba ufumane inkosikazi encinci ukuba azibonakalise ukuba "uselula." Uqala ngokulahla komntu, ukuqhuma kobugwenxa, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha akafuni ukuthetha. Ubungqina obucacileyo bokuqala kwenkxalabo yexesha eliphakathi kwimeko yokuphila kubangelwa ukuguquka kwemiba, kunye nokusisigxina.
Indlela yokunceda inzima iphile indoda
Akukho mfihlelo yokuba isifo singcono ukunqanda kunokunyanga emva koko. Oku kusebenza kwintlupheko yobudala obuphakathi. Kubalulekile ukubeka esweni umsebenzi womntu wakho. Nika ingqalelo enkulu kwimpumelelo yakhe, ukuba ube nomdla kwishishini. Ukuba akukho nto ikhethekileyo yindoda leyo, musa ukuyihlamba ngenxa yalokhu. Ukuba kukho into engasebenzi, musa ukumxelela ukuba akanalo ubudala.
Ngexesha leengxaki, indoda isengozini kakhulu kwaye iyingozi. Umsebenzi oyintloko wowesifazane ukumkhupha ngaphandle kweli lizwe ngokukhawuleza. Indoda evela kweli lizwe kunzima kakhulu ukuphuma.
Ekuqaleni kwentlekele yobomi, qalisa ukuvuselela indoda yakho ngenkxaso. Mbonise indlela oyithandekayo ngayo kuye, soloko uhlala naye, mxelele ukuba uyinto yonke kuwe. Kubalulekile ukuba indoda iveze ukubaluleka kwayo. Amandla amakhulu alawulwa ngamagama. Thetha kuye kwaye ungazivumeli ukuvalela kuwe. Xa iqalisa ukuphazamiseka kwemizwa, iya kukuxelela konke okusemphefumlweni wakhe. Ngezihlandlo ezinjalo, phulaphulaphula ngenyameko loo ndoda. Emva koko, intliziyo yakhe iya kuba ngcono.
Bonisa loo ndoda indlela oyammnceda ngayo kwaye uziqhenye. Iimpawu nazo zifunekayo ukudlula eli nqanaba kumadoda. Zichitha ubomi bakho ngokuhamba kwiindawo zokuzonwabisa, i-cinema, ikhonkethi, yokutyela. Konke kuxhomekeke ekucingeni kwakho. Unokuphinde ulawule i-sauna, memela abahlobo, uhambe kwindalo, uye ephumleni kwilizwe elitshisayo, njl. Umele uvumele umntu wakho wazi ukuba ubomi kule minyaka buqala nje. Unokucinga ngaluphi na ulonwabo, into ephambili ayiyikuvumela umntu ukuba abuyele kwiimeko ezingathandekiyo.
Nangona isimo sengqondo sabantu, isondo ngumntu obaluleke kakhulu kumzuzu. Kubalulekile ukumnceda ukuvula umoya wesibini kule ntsimi. Ukwenza ubulili kwenzeka ngexesha "ukuphakama", londle ngeemveliso ze-afrodziakami. Ngokuqhelekileyo ukulungiselela ukutya okudandayo.
Iinguqu kumadoda emva kweengxaki zeminyaka ephakathi
Ukuba kunyanzelekile ukuxhasa indoda eneminyaka ephakathi kunye nothando kunye nokunyamekela, ngoko ke ingxaki iya kukhawuleza. Into ebalulekileyo kukuba umnqweno wokuphumelela. Emva kokulwa nesigaba esitsha umntu utshintsho kwiimbono zakhe ebomini. Iba nesibindi, iyanengqiqo, inomthombo wamandla omtsha. Uyaba nobulumko kwaye uyaqonda ukuba ubomi boqobo buqala nje. Kwaye ezininzi kwiimeko, ukuba "waya", uya kubuya kwintsapho.