Yingakho asifane sicinge ngento yokuba amadoda angakoyika into ethile. Kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba abayikwesaba, vumelana nesiqingatha sabo sokwesaba - oku kubonwa njengobuthathaka, ukwesaba, kunye nesimo esibi. Enye into yokuvuma kumhlobo: "Saya ekhaya izolo, kwaye inja enkulu yaphuma emnyango, andingakwazi ukuzibamba, ukuze ndibaleke, kodwa andizange ndibukeke." Kwaye kungakhathaliseki ukuba kusenokwenzeka njani, i-phobias yamadoda anamhlanje kakhulu. Akunakucingca ingozi kunye nomngcipheko, kungaba yinto ehamba phambili phambi komfazi ...
Ngokubanzi, amadoda awawenazo iirobhothi ezingenayo iimvakalelo, ngoko kucebile ukukhanyela ukuba ne-phobias, kodwa ukulwa nabo kuya kubi nakakhulu. Kwanele ukwazi malunga nokwesaba nokukwazi ukusebenzisa.
Akusiyo imfihlo yokuba phantse bonke abafana abancinci bebumnyama, kwaye xa loloyiko ludlula ngobudala, omnye wesifazane oyikayikayo, ubonakala ngakumbi. Njengomthetho, nge minyaka engamashumi amabini, umntu wesimanje sele eneluhlu lwakhe, oluthe lwazaliswa ngokukhawuleza. Kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba abafazi bahlekisa abantu, bahluke nje kwimibono yabo ebomini.
Ukuba ulwalamano, ngoko kufuneka ulandele ngokunyanisekileyo impendulo yomlingane wakho kwaye uqonde oko akukoyikayo. Ngokwenza oku, ungayilawula kwaye ubonise ukuba awukho nengozi kwaye ukhuselekile.
Phobia 1
Olu loyiko lubonakalisa ngexesha lobudlelwane beqabane. Kwinqanaba lokuqala lolwalamano, unamalungelo amaninzi kunye namathuba, kuba unqumle - uya kulala okanye ungabikho. Ngelo xesha, indoda inentloni kwaye ivakalelwa. Wenza okusemandleni akhe ukuzenza ngathi ulungele ukulinda, ubuninzi obuya kuwufuna, kodwa ekulungeni ukulungelelanisa nayiphi na yesibili. Kuphela apha akakwazi ukuhlaselwa yi-phobia. Oko kukuthi, ukwesaba ukutshatyalaliswa.
Phobia 2
Uninzi lwabameleli besondo esomeleleyo lubonakaliswa ngobudlelwane obusondeleyo, kodwa ngaphambi kokuba ufikelele kubo, kufuneka uqale wenze umntu. I-phobia yamadoda anamhlanje yinkinga yokukhetha iqabane kulobu buhlobo. Ingxaki kukuba bayesaba ukungazitholi, kodwa kunokuba benqatshelwe. Masithi imeko xa umntu ekhetha ixhoba ezimbini kwaye akakwazi ukugqiba ixesha elide apho omnye wabo uya kuvuma. Uloyiko lokuba uya kuchitha ubusuku bonke kumntu oza kuthi ekugqibeleni uthi: "Uvule kakhulu kwaye ndandivuyela ukuthetha, kodwa ndaya ekhaya ngenye." Kwindoda, oku kuthetha - ukutshabalalisa, ukuzingela okuphumelelayo, ukulahleka! Emva koko, enye, apho "wayenqaba khona" ngenxa yeqabane eliye lahluleka, ayengayifumani ngokuchanekileyo. Yingakho abantu besaba ukhetho.
Iphulo: ukuba ubukela umchasi "empini," ziphathe ngokungenakuvinjelwa ngokusemandleni akho, ukuhleka ngokukhawuleza kumahlaya akhe, udlala ngothando kunye nokumomotheka. Musa ukuhlala ekhoneni, uchaza ityala - oku kuya kukunciphisa, oku kukudibanisa nomdlali wakho.
Phobia 3
Amadoda ayesaba ukungala. Nangona ininzi yabo ibonisa ukukhanya, xa befumana intombazana entle, ngoko kanye ngoko konke ukugqithisa kunye nomsindo kuya kuhamba kwindawo ethile. Kwaye kunemizwa kuphela, itywelwa, njengezintambo. Nangona kunjalo, uya kuzama ukuzityhila aze adibanise amahlaya ambalwa, kodwa ukuba unempembelelo yenzalo yakho, ngoko iya kuphazamiseka kwangoko.
Iphulo: musa ukuzenza njengendoda yensimbi, ukuba umfana ubuncinci, ngoko uyamthusa. Summisela kuye kwaye uncedise incoko. Ewe, ukuba uyathula, mhlawumbi uvele ephosa ngokubonakala kwakho.
Phobia 4
Ininzi kubo bonke abantu bayesaba uxanduva kunye nobudlelwane obukhulu. Ngenxa yoko, emva kocansi, bazama ukuhamba ngokukhawuleza kwaye bangaboniyo ukuze ungabi naso ixesha lokubuza: "Siza kuphinda sihlangane nini na?" "Bakholelwa ukuba xa beza kudibana, obani kunye nokuba kuphi-kuya kubo, kwaye unamaqhinga ukuzama ukungena kwimimandla yabo. Kwakhona, ungabonisi uxinzelelo lokubambisana, kuba abantu bayayiqonda njengendlela yokukhanya kwebomvu. Kwaye nokuba ulwalamano lwakho sele selusekwinqanaba lokuqala, musa ukunyanzelisa imicimbi, makwenzeke kumntu wakho. Ngaphandle koko, akukho mtshato!
Phobia 5
Uninzi lwabantu bonke luxabisa inkululeko yabo. Kwaye ukuba bayaqaphela ukuba uqala ukuyincinca kuyo, ngoko uvela kwinqanaba lentombazana oya kwiqela - umhlobo.
Icebo: Eyona nto ingcono kunxulumano xa kukho indawo, ilungelo lokukhetha kunye neeyure ezithile zenkululeko. Ewe, iwashi! Awukwazi ukumnqabela umntu ukuba enze konke akwenzileyo ngaphambi kokudibana nawe, mhlawumbi ungaguqukanga.
Phobia 6
Ibinzana lokuba ubuhlobo besilisa bunamandla kunowesifazana, ngelixa ibhinqa alikho nhlobo, kweli phepha lizilungele ngokupheleleyo. Abameli bezesondo eziqinileyo bayesaba ngenxa yokuba ulahlekelwe ngabahlobo okanye uwaziwa phakathi kwabo ngokuthi "u-henpecked". Banoyika ukuba awuyi kubamkela izihambi. Inxaxheba enkulu apha idlalwa yintsipho yabantu. Bafuna ukubonisa ukuba ngubani umhlobo omhle abazikhethele wona, ukuze abahlobo bawuqonde.
Iseluleko: amaninzi amantombazana azilibala ngeentombi zabo emva kokuba badibana neqabane labo. Le nto iyatshisa indoda, kuba ayilungele ukwenza loo mihlatshelo. Ngoko musa ukulibala malunga nabahlobo bakho, vumela umntu wakho abone ukuba ngaphandle kwakhe unabangani abaninzi.
Phobia 7
Kwakhona indoda iyayika kakhulu ukuba uya kuthatha imali kuye. Yintoni eyamangalisa, le phobia iqhutywe kakhulu kumadoda ngokuchuma. Bayesaba ukudibana nomfazi obona nje njengenjongo yokucebisa. Ukuba unethamsanqa ngokwaneleyo ukudibana naloo mlingani ebomini, khumbula ukuba ngamanye amaxesha uya kukhangela umbuzo ekubuzayo: "Ngaba unayo ngemali?" "U
Phobia 8
Kwakhona, abaninzi abantu besaba ukuba umfazi uya kufuna umntwana. Hayi, oko akuthethi ukuba bachasene nabantwana nonke. Bacinga ukuba abantwana kufuneka baqaliswe emva kweminyaka engama-30. Yaye ukuba ufuna umntwana ngaphambili, unokuyikrokra ukuya kwindawo yokuhlukana.
Ngoko, ngoku uqhelaniswe nezifo eziqhelekileyo zamadoda kwaye wazi indlela yokujongana nazo. Yaye ukuba ufuna ukuva malunga nokutya kwabantu besuka emlonyeni womntu, musa ukuthembela kumlingane wakho, kulungile ukuba uqhagamshelane nomhlobo okanye umzalwana.