Ubudlelwane obuzaliswe ngokuthandana, ngokwamadoda anamhlanje, ayifuni ngokupheleleyo abafazi banamhlanje. Ndiza kubhala into eninzi abafazi abayiyithandayo. Abasetyhini ngokwabo baxanduva lokuba abantu banamhlanje bajonga ukuba uthando aluyinto engadingekile, oluqhayisayo kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo lusasalela lwangaphambili. Oku kubangelwe kukuba ininzi yabasetyhini banamhlanje baye bafikeleleka kalula. Ewe, ukuba udibane nomfazi onjalo kwaye uqaphela ukuba kufuneka ahlulwe, umntu okhoyo namhlanje uya kufumana lula ukufikelela, ukuba ubani ongenakukukhathalela, unike iintyatyambo, ubhale izinkondlo. Kubuhlungu gqitha, kodwa amaninzi amabhinqa, ngokukodwa amantombazana amantombazana, ngoku anetyhukile kunye ne-rose, okanye yimbi kakhulu - ibhotile ye-vodka, kwaye ngokukhawuleza awele kumntu olele embhedeni. Kwaye loo ntombazana enesidenge kakhulu, kakhulu. Ngaloo ndlela, kunye nenani elikhulu elinamantombazana afumaneka lula kumntu, kuluvila nje ukunyamekela umfazi ongenakufikeleleka, xa ujikeleze ugcwele "ukuphanga okulula." Abasetyhini, bagqibe izigqibo. Ukuba sasingenakufikeleleka kakhulu kumadoda, ngoko baya kuba neenkuthazo zokusinqoba nokusinqoba.
Nangona, akusiyo yonke into edabukisayo. I-Romance ikhoyo kwihlabathi lethu lanamhlanje, kwaye kukho amadoda amthandana kakhulu, kodwa awaninzi. Konke okufanayo, ukuthandana ngoluvo kwimbono yamadoda anamhlanje, uhlobene ngokusondelene nobulili. Indoda iya kuxabisa isidlo sothando ngokukhanyisa ikhandlela kwaye iyakumkhumbula kuphela xa yonke into iphela kwisondo. Oku kufuneka kuhlale kukhunjulwa kwaye ungalindeli umntu ukuba azuze isibhakabhaka esibhakabhaka, ukuba emva koko ungenzi uthando phantsi kwezi nkwenkwezi. Ngokwamadoda, ngumthunzi wesondo, okhulayo owenza umcimbi wothando. Phantse wonke umntu uya kuthatha i-romance njengesondo kwiselwandle okanye umlambo, ngesondo kwisimo esibi kakhulu, umzekelo, kwi-elevator, elunxwemeni, epakini. Oku kufuneka kuhlale khunjulwa, kuba la mabhinqa angamaqondo angcolileyo, kwaye kumntu umbala wothando lomcimbi ungenakwenzeka ngaphandle kombala wesondo.
Ukuba indoda yakho ayikude yothando, kufuneka uyiqhubele kuyo. Unokuthatha inyathelo lakho kwaye ulungiselele isidlo sokuthandana ngokukhanyisa ikhandlela okanye ukuhamba ecaleni lolwandle lolwandle, okanye ipikiniki phakathi kwendawo yengqolowa, kwaye uqedele esi siganeko ngesondo esihle. Emva koko unokubakhokelela kumntu wakho ukuba uya kuvuya gqitha ukuba wathatha inyathelo kwaye wakwenza izinto ezimangalisayo, wanika iintyatyambo rhoqo, wahlalisa ubusuku bothando. Kuzo zonke izenzo zothando, nokuba kwakungekho mkhulu kunye nekhethekileyo, umntu kufuneka akhuthazwe, adunyiswe aze agcinwe ukumkhumbuza ukuba kwakumnandi kuwe kwaye kukuvuyisa. Indoda eyakuthandayo iya kufuna ukukholisa wena, ngokuphindaphindiweyo, ukuba ubona ukuba kubaluleke kangakanani kuwe, kwaye ukuba izenzo zakhe zothando zithinta kakhulu ubuhlobo bakho.
Ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ukuba amadoda angayiqondi amacebo kuwo onke, ngoko kuya kufuneka uxelele wakho umthandayo ngokukhawuleza ukuba ngaphandle kokuthandana ongenakukwazi, ukuba ngaphandle kwakhe ubuhlobo bakho buba buhlungu, kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo, uthando lwakho luyimfuneko ebalulekileyo. Indoda enjalo kufuneka icacise ngokucacileyo ukuba ingabonisa njani uthando, mxelele yonke into ofuna ukuba enzele yona. Ndixelele ngokuthe ngqo, oko kubalulekile kuwe kwaye kufuneka ufumane iintyatyambo ngaphandle kweeholide, kodwa ngenxa yoko, amathoyizi athambileyo, amakhadibhodi amnandi, njl. Ngokuqhelekileyo, kufuneka uchaze ukuba zithini izenzo zokwazisa ekuqondeni kwakho. Oku kunokuba nempembelelo enkulu, kuba umntu wakho akakwazi ukuqikelela ukuba oku kubaluleke kakhulu kuwe.