Intukuthelo yintswelo engaqhelekanga. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, oku kulungile (njengoko kubonakala ngathi) ukusabela kwisenzo esingalunganga. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukusuka kwiimvakalelo ezibuhlungu zentukuthelo, sithintela okokuqala thina, kungekhona umoni. Sinokumangalela umntu ngento ethile, phuthuma, xhalabise. Siphinde siphephe kwimemori kwakhona imeko engamnandi. Nangona kunzima ukulibala inkohlakalo, ingcebiso yesazi sengqondo ingabonakali - kuyimfuneko yokwenza oku.
Ukhubekiso okanye akunjalo?
"Andicaphukisi, andiyilibala" - eli ngxelo lilingana nento ongayi kuxolela. Intukuthelo inomvakalelo oya kukushiya kuphela ukuba awuvusi ngokuphindaphindiweyo kwimemori yakho. Ngubani ongakhubekiyo? Ewe, mhlawumbi, akukho. Oku kuvela kuthi ngokwemvelo, ngoko siyakukhusela "I" yethu. Sifune ukuzivakalelwa njengomntu ongavumeli umntu ukuba asilimaze. Kuphela kuphela "kodwa": lo mva, ukukhusela, unokukutshabalalisa wena ngokwakho. Emva kwakho konke, ukusabela kokuqala kukuphendula ngendlela efanayo, kwaye le ngqapheli yengqondo ikwacetyiswa ukuba ungayenza naliphi na ixesha!
Nsuku zonke thina ebomini bethu sidibana nabantu abanemibono eyahlukileyo, ixabiso. Ngamanye amaxesha, yintoni eyamkelekileyo kuthi, musa ukuvumela abanye ukuba baphile ebomini bethu. Unqwenela umntu ukuba ancede kwaye ucinge ukuba oku kuqhelekileyo, kuba ungekho nto kumntu. Kodwa kwelinye, isenzo sakho sasiyingozi yengqondo. Emva koko, wayelindele uncedo. Kule meko, ungatsho ukuba akufanele ulindele into ethile kwabanye, ayiyi kuba necala. Esinye sezizathu zentshukumo yabanye ngokwenene silindele ukuba umntu enze okufanayo njengoko sicinga ukuba kulungile, ngokwemivo yethu, ukukhuliswa kwethu. Kodwa wonke umntu unenyaniso yakhe, ngoko kufanelekile xa ihlabathi lilungiswe kangaka?
Nangona kunjalo kukho izikhalazo ezahlukileyo. Yinto enye xa uqhutyelwa kwi-crazy crush kwibhasi. Awunelisekile, kodwa akunakwenzeka ukuba uphukiswe yilo, kuba uqonda kakuhle ukuba le nto ayikho injongo. Ngokuqinisekileyo, esinye isabela kuwe, umzekelo, ukuziphatha kakubi kwabantu abasondeleyo. Intukuthelo, intlungu, umnqweno wokuziphindezela - le nto iyingcipheko yale mivakalelo esinayo. Kodwa zanele ukunqanda amandla kunye nolonwabo lobomi. Ukuba uvumela ulwaphulo luya kubhukuda ngokukhululekileyo, ngoko ixesha kuya kuba nzima ukujamelana nalo kwaye kunzima.
Uxolelo lwenene luyenzeka ebomini bethu ngokungapheliyo. Esinye sezizathu zokuba simele sikhohlwe umthetho kukuba yinto esenza ngayo ngaphambili kuthatha intshaba. Ngaloo ndlela, sithatha indawo yendima yomntu ophulukeneyo nomqhubi. Kubonakala ngathi kufuneka kube lula, kuba siziphindezele. Kodwa uvakalelwa kukuba usizi alushiyi. Ewe, yonke into yokuba impindezelo ayinanto yokwenza imfesane yokuphulukisa, xa sifumene oko, siyaziva sisonwabile.
Ukuxolela, okukunika inkululeko engaphakathi, kuza kuwe xa uqaphela ukuba awuyijaji. Ngoko, akunyanga kuwe ukuba wenze isigwebo kumntu. Ingqiqo yentukuthelo ayinamsebenzi, kwaye kwixhoba layo liyakwazi ukwenza into enesihawu. Ndicinga ukuba awudingi oku.
Xolela uze u libale
Ulibale iirhugi ngaphandle kokugcina. Ngokungathandabuzekiyo, kulula kakhulu ukukhonkxa ummangalelwa kumgaqo kwaye kungathiwa kwinto enomnandi. Enyanisweni, ngokunjalo sisondeza amanxeba ethu. Kwaye ngamanye amaxesha sinokubangela izihlandlo zokubetha abanye - ngaloo ndlela ziziva ziphakamileyo kubo. Ngoko, kufuneka uxolele, okanye ungaxoleli nonke kwaye ufunde ukuhlala nalo mva. Kodwa izazi zengqondo zicebisa ukuba zihambelane neyokuqala. Umgangatho apha awukho.
Uxolelo, olugxilwe kwilonda lakho, njengesifo esingaphendulwanga, luya kubenza luzive ngokukhawuleza. Ekugqibeleni unokuqala ukucinga malunga nobuqaqawuli bakho, kwaye emva koko loo mbono yokuba into enomusa wakho ngenxa yakho ithotywe. Kwaye umoni akakwazi ukucinga. Kwaye ukudala izinto ngokuqonda kwakho, kwakhona kwakhona ungabangela enye inxeba. Kutheni ke, ukuhlakulela le moya kwaye uchithe ixesha lakho kwishishini elingenanto nelingenakubonga. Masifunde ukuxolela. Lungiselela ukuba inkqubela yokusukela entukuthelweni ekuxolelweni ayiyi kukhawuleza. Kwaye oko kusitshilo.
- Into yokuqala ofuna ukuyiqala kunye nokuqonda izizathu zokungqubana. Kwaye ngokukhawuleza wenza i-molehill yendlovu. Ngokwempikiswano kunye nemvakalelo, akusoloko ikwazi ukuwamkela ngokwaneleyo imeko. Hlalani nedwa, zama ukunciphisa nokuhlaziya kwakhona imeko. Ungakwazi ukubhala izinto ezithile ephepheni, le nkqubo iya kunceda ukubheka oko kwenzekayo kwicala.
- Ukukhulula iimvakalelo zakho ezintle. Kuphela into yokutshiza kufuneka ingaba ngabantu abakujikelezile! Kulungele ukuya kwimidlalo okanye imisebenzi yokudala. Eyona ndlela ingcono ukuqokelela isikhalazo, kodwa ukuveza yonke into ngexesha. Kodwa kungakhathaliseki ukuba kukuphi, ukuphilisa kuza ngokuqonda. Kwimeko yethu, ukuqonda ukuba ucaphukile kwaye ucaphukile.
- Zibuze ukuba kutheni ungavumeli ukuxolelwa. Emva kwakho konke, ukuba kunzulu, izizathu ziyakwazi ukuzimela. Ngokomzekelo, cacisa izizathu zokungaphumeleli kwabo, umoni uya kubeka ityala kuyo yonke into. Okanye ukhulise ukuzithemba kwakho, okwenza omnye umntu azive enetyala. Uyaphenduka, kodwa awuxoleli. Zivume kuwe kwisisiseko esiyinyaniso sentshutshiso yakho enokuqhubekayo, kuphela kule ngxaki unokuthetha "ngokubuyisela".
- Zama ukuqonda umxhaphazi wakho. Mhlawumbi akazange afune ukukulimaza, kwaye ke kukho imeko. Okanye wazama ukukudlulisela into ongaziwayo. Ukulinganisa imeko engqubuzanayo kwiingcamango zakho kwaye uzame ukuwujonga ngumboneleli ongaphandle. Utshintsho oluvela kwiminqweno yokuziphindezela ekuxolelweni luya kuhlakulela kuwe ukuvakalelwa kakuhle-uvelwano. Oko kukuthi, zama kwiingcamango nezenzo zomnye umntu. Ukuba ingozi yenziwe kuwe ngenjongo, ke akukho mntu ucela ukuba uthande okanye wenze umngane wakho omhle. Kuphela ngokuxolela, okuvela kuyo kuba lula kuwe kuphela.
- Ndikholelwe, awuyi kulahlekelwa nantoni na ukuba unquma ukuhamba kuqala ekuxolelaneni. Emva koko, kucacile ukuba ukuba awukwazi ukulibala umthetho, ngoko umntu uthetha into kuwe. Awunakuqiniseka ukuba umoni lowo akakucinezeli ngetyala kwaye ukwesaba ukuza kuwe. Thatha isinyathelo sokuqala, ngoko kuya kuba lula kuwo wonke umntu kwaye, okokuqala, kuwe.
- Ungakulibali ukuba kuwo wonke umntu kukho zombini amacandelo anobungozi. Xa sinomsindo, into enhle ivaliwe yesikrini. Kwaye kwintloko yam iimeko ezenzileyo zangaphambili zenziwa. Ukuba ufuna umntu ukuba axolele, gxininisa kwiimpawu ezilungileyo zomntu owenzayo. Makhe avule kuwe, kwaye ngubani owaziyo, mhlawumbi uya kufumana amaninzi amnandi kunye amasha.
- Kwakhona, ukuxolelwa kubalulekile kuwe. Musa ukwenza isenzo sokuphana kwesi senzo, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo siyakuthanda. Okukugqibela kuya kuba yinkcazo yokuba ugqibe ukuhlala kunye neengcamango ngaphandle kokuphulwa.
- Kukho neemeko ezibonakala zingenakwenzeka ukuxolela. Kwaye i-elixir yokuqala yokubuyisana siyayibuyisela. Kodwa impindezelo yinto enye yokuzama ukuzithokozisa ukuzikhukhumeza kwakho. Oku akunjalo! Kwaye ngokuphambene - umgca onokukubophelela kumntu owenza isono ixesha elide. Emva kokuba uziqhelise, ekugqibeleni uza kukhululwa ebukhosini uze ufumane inkululeko engaphakathi ekulindele ixesha elide. Ukuba uyazi ukuxolela abanye, ngoko ufanele uxolelwe.
Elinye iphuzu elibalulekileyo: yazi indlela yokuxolela. Ukuguquka nosizi ngenxa yeempazamo zangaphambili akukho nto. Lo ngumqondiso wesimo esibuthathaka. Ngobulumko bafumana iimpazamo. Bonke abantu abanalo isono, kwaye asikho. Ukuba unqumle ukulibala intlungu yakho kanye nonke, kufuneka uphulaphule iingcebiso zeengqondo zengqondo. Emva koko inkqubo yokuxolela iza kudlula ngokukhawuleza kwaye ingenabuhlungu kwiimvakalelo ezimele.