Uluntu olutsha luguqula ngokukhawuleza, kwaye iziko lentsapho alinaso ixesha. Mhlawumbi, kutheni ke iingqondo zeengqondo zaqala ukuthetha ngongxaki yentsapho. Enyanisweni, bekungekho nselele ukuba ngaba, thina, besifazane, sinobudlelwane obuphathekayo kwintsapho engaphantsi kancinci. Ewe, sinokuthi akukho nto yamandla amabhinqa okutshintsha izinto ezithile, kwaye akunakwenzeka ukutshintsha elinye iqabane, kwaye ngaphandle kwayo akukho nto iya kuphuma. Kodwa kunjalo, indima ephambili ekulondolozeni i-hearth isoloko ikwabafazi. Ngoko makhe sizame ukuqonda oko kuthetha ukuthintela ngobudlelwane nomyeni.
Kwiminyaka emininzi edlulileyo, iintsapho zakhiwe kwimigaqo ehluke ngokupheleleyo kunoko ngoku. Intsapho yadalwa ukuze kube lula ukugcina ifama ehlangeneyo, ukukhulisa abantwana. Umfazi wayebonakala ngokuyinhloko njengomfazi wendlu, nokuba wayesebenza. Akumangalisi kukuba, kwiintsapho ezinjalo kwakungcono ukuba "uphile kwiDomostroi". Kwimanyano enjalo, uthando aluzange lube yinto yokuqala, into ebaluleke ngakumbi yayisivumelwano phakathi kwendoda nomfazi. Ngamanye amaxesha isibini sasiqhubeka siphila kunye nomkhwa, nangona belahlekelwe ukuqonda.
Ngoku uluntu litshintshile ukwenzela ukuba abafazi bafumene ukulingana namadoda kungekhona nje kuphela, kuxhaswa ngobukhulu obufanelekileyo bomvuzo kunye nokuzimela komfazi. Kwaye kunzima ukuba amadoda afikelele ekuhambeni kokutya okutshisayo kunye nenyaniso yokuba umfazi usekupheleni komsebenzi. Kwiingcinga zabantu abaninzi kusekho isingqinisiso sokuba umtshato ofanelekileyo wakhiwe kwiingcinga zobuntsapho.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuhambelana nezikhundla ezilondolozayo kwintsebenziswano nendoda yakhe, akukuphela nje ukuqonda ubunkokheli bakhe kwintsapho. Kukho iingcamango ebantwini malunga nendlela yokuziphatha komyeni kunye nokuziphatha komfazi, kufuneka njani, ukukhulisa abantwana, njl. Kodwa intsapho nganye inomntu ngamnye njengamalungu ayo. Ngoko ke, ukuhambelana nomgca othile wokuziphatha "nge-inertia", ungaphuthelwa into ebalulekileyo kulwalamano. Kwaye ngoku ingxabano iqala, ukunganeliseki, abantwana bengathobeliyo, kwaye abatshatileyo bacinga ngokuqhawula umtshato. Isaziso, ukuxabana nokunganeliseki ngendoda kwadibana nabo kwiintsapho zabazali bethu, kodwa baqhawula ukuqhawula umtshato kuphela nje ngomlinganiselo ogqithiseleyo. Ngoku abantu banokuqhawula ngokuphindaphindiweyo ngenxa yokuba iqabane liyakhathazeka, aliqondi, alinakuyilumkisa, kukho izinto ezimbalwa ezifanayo kunye naye.
Isizathu salo mcimbi asikho ukuba abantu batshintshile, kwaye akulula ukufumana umntu onokwethenjelwa oza kuthi umntu angaphila ubomi. Isizathu kukuba abantu bacinga ngakumbi malunga nomtshato ongaphandle komtshato, ngabaphi abazali, abamelwane, abahlobo baya kucinga. Ukuhambelana nezikhundla ezilondolozayo, siyakulibala ukuba intsingiselo yokuthi "i-conservatism" iyinto "yokuguquguquka." Siyalibala ukuba ngobudlelwane kubalulekile ukulungelelanisa iqabane. Oku akuphikisana nenxaxheba yemveli yabasetyhini kwintsapho kunye noluntu. Kodwa kwimeko enjalo, kuthetha ukuthini ukunyamekela ubuhlobo kunye nomyeni wakho?
I-Conservative ubudlelwane nomyeni wayo inokubakho kwimicimbi yemfundo yabantwana, isondo, indima yentsapho nganye. Okokuqala, i-conservatism ithetha ukuba umfazi akazami ukufumanisa iimfuno zomyeni wakhe (kunye nabantwana), kodwa uzama ukufumana iingcamango ezithile. Ngaphantsi kwe-conservatism yezesondo, iintloni, ihlazo, kunye nokungabikho kwemfundo yesondo zivame ukufihlwa. Ngobudlelwane, i-conservatism ibonakaliswa kwimizamo yokuthobela ukuziphatha kwabo kuphela, kodwa nokuziphatha kwamanye amalungu entsapho amiselwe ngaphandle kwesiqhelo. Kukho rhoqo ukuba amadoda ayengacingi ngandlela-thile ukudibanisa ubudlelwane babo, zama iinxaxheba ezintsha. Kodwa bafazi, ngelishwa, abahlali besazibuza ngabo.
Cinga malunga nokuba uphendule ubomi bakho bentsapho ibe yinto ephazamisayo elandela imithetho kunye nezithethe, okanye mhlawumbi kufanelekile ukuphuhlisa imithetho yakho? Ukuba awuyivuyo into ethile ebuhlotsheni bakho nomyeni wakho, akuyixesha lokuthetha naye ngalo? Indlela yokwazi, mhlawumbi yena ulinde ixesha elide, xa unikela ngcamango entsha.
Kwimeko nayiphi na into, i-conservatism, oku akusiyo isizathu sokuba zakho izakhiwo okanye ukungafuni ukutshintsha into ethile. Akuyimfuneko ukuba ube nolondolozo xa ungayazi indlela yokwakha ubuhlobo bakho nomyeni wakho. Ukuba ufuna ubuhlobo obumanyeneyo kwintsapho, kufuneka ukhumbule ukuba intsapho iyintloko kwincoko. Ukuze udale kwaye ugcine umoya ofudumele kwintsapho, kufuneka udale ubudlelwane ngokusebenzisa intetho kunye neqabane lakho. Emva koko akuyi kuba kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ngubani inkosi yendlu nendlela yokuziphatha ekhitshini okanye ebhedini.