Ukuzikhethela kunye nokwahlukileyo kwabanye kuba nethuba okanye isohlwayo? Yiba kwisangqa sahlobo kunye namantombazana, ncokola, sebenze ...
Nomaphi lapho sihlangana khona ngandlela-thile, kufuneka sifune "ukugqoka imaski", ubuncinci de kubekho ixesha. Sifumana kulo hlobo oluthile lwenjabulo, indawo, ubugcisa. Kodwa ngokwenene ukuba ibe yinto ebaluleke kakhulu kubhinqa ngalinye ...
Isoloko ihlaziyekile, inzame "yaseHollywood", isithunzi esihle kunye nesigqi sokuphila-konke oku kubonakala ngathi kufana nenkcazo ye heroine yefilimu kunowesifazane oyinyaniso. Sineengxaki ezininzi kunye neengxaki, amaphupha awayi kuza kuzaliseka, kunye nexhala. Intlekele yexesha elizayo siyanyanzelwa ukuba sidibana kunye kunye nabahlobo abasondeleyo esiwabelana nabo ngokungathandabuzeki kakhulu.
Ngoko kuvela ukuba asinqabile ukuba sihlale sisodwa, nathi, phantse akukho bahlobo, kungekhona nezihlobo. Emva kwakho konke, ukuba kube yinto ekhethekileyo, eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu kuyo yonke intokazi, kunzima - kufuneka uthobele.
Kucacile ukuba ngezinye iimeko zobomi kulula kakhulu ukuba "ukukhupha i-halo," susa i-entourage engaphezulu kwaye udibanise umhlambi. Ngokukodwa xa kufika ixesha lokutshintsha nokungathandabuzeki, ukuzingca nokungaqiniseki. Sonke siyavuya, "sicinga. "Wonke umntu akanako ukuphosakela," sizithetha ngathi, njengephepha lokukopela ngekhanda. Kwaye sihamba ngokuthula, phantse emlenzeni. Okokuqala esikolweni, ukuzama ukuhambelana nemifuziselo yefestile - sidibana kunye nokubanga, sibeka i-pantyhose, enokuthiwa ngumama onobuchwephesha nje kuphela kubafazi bezobugcisa bexesha elifanayo ...
Sinobalulekileyo, kodwa bafana ...
Emva koko iintombi ziya kwikholeji, nawe nawe. Ngenxa yoko kuyimfuneko. Ewe, kwaye abazali bathi: "Yenza loo nto, ntombi!" Yaye uchitha iminyaka emihlanu, ufunda isifundo esingavumiyo kwaye ufumana imfundo exabisekileyo. Kwaye kuphuma ngaphandle kweendonga zeziko, ngokuqhaqhaqhaqhaqhazela ukuba ngoku oku kuyingcali yakho ebomini! Kwaye ngokwenene ukuba yinto ebaluleke kakhulu kubaluleke kakhulu kumfazi ngamnye - kodwa sihamba ngokusasazwa kwindawo engabonakaliyo yomsebenzi okanye sifuna indawo yobhala oqhelekileyo kumfazi. Yintoni esinokuyithetha ngayo ngokugqithiseleyo xa umphefumlo ubuza, sithemba, sibheka - kwaye silandela isihlwele?
Uza kuphendula, "Kwenzeka njani ukuba ufumane oko uthanda kakhulu!" Ewe, bambalwa abantu bafumana ukukhangela okanye ukukhuphula i-petunias. Kodwa nokuba ngumzekelo wokuba kubaluleke kangakanani ukuba ngamnye umfazi abe okhethekileyo! Ukuba abo bambalwa baye bajamelana - kwaye awuthandi oku kufunda, umfanekiso ogqityiweyo, le nxaxheba yesicwangciso sesibini ngokubuyisela "i-prima" onokuyenza!
Ibhinqa, nangona malungelo akhe amakhulu kwaye, nangona kunjalo, iimbopheleleko ezicatshulwayo, iyaqhubeka ikhona kwiprogram yobukhosi. Kwinkqubo apho akufuneki ukuba yinto ekhethekileyo, apho kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba "njengabantu bonke," ngamnye umfazi kufuneka aphumelele nabanye. Ngethuba lokufunda, tshata "abo bantu" (abafana nabahlobo okanye abazali), ngexesha lokuzala abantwana, nokuba xa bekrokraza enye ye-lemon.
Akuyena wonke umntu ozalelwa kuMozart, kungekhona wonke umntu onokuba yiCurie-Warehouse okanye uGeorge Sandy. Kodwa ungayifumana eyedwa, fumana indlela yobomi oyithandayo. Emva kwakho konke, ukulandela indlela yakho echasene no-akukho, kungekhona isigqibo, kodwa nje ngombono woluntu - ngamandla omfazi ngamnye, kwaye ube ngowona mqathango wokugcina impilo yengqondo.
Hamba ufumane ulonwabo
Inwabe - kungekhona indlu kwaye ingenguye indoda, kungekhona ubomi okanye abantwana. Ulonwabo alubonakali. Ulonwaba luvakalelo olutyelela ngokuphindaphindiweyo. Kwaye uvuyo olukhulu lukwazi ukuliva. Ngamanye amaxesha, kwintlupheko engenakulinganiswa, ukudabuka, ukudandatheka kunye nokudandatheka, yinto evuyisayo esiyiphosayo! Kutheni, kwixesha lethu elinzima, ininzi ikulungiselela "ukucima"?
Ingqungquthela yeso "mpumelelo" yentlalo kukuba kulandelwa ukudideka kunye neurosa, ukuxhatshazwa ngasese, kwaye intombazana engcono ngokukhawuleza iba ngumlotha. Ukuze uzive, ilizwi lakho langaphakathi libaluleke kakhulu! Ungazivumeli ukuba "njengabantu bonke," kuba kubaluleke kakhulu kubo bonke abafazi. Uluntu luhlala lubeka imilinganiselo yalo - kodwa kubalulekile ukukhumbuza ukuba banika kuphela ubomi.
Ngaba ufuna enye?
Ukuba ufuna ukuhlala into engekho nje "uhlala" (kwaye yiloo nto i-maximalists eselula ukuba iphupha ngayo), ukuba awufuni nje ulwalamano - kodwa ummangaliso omncinci wemihla ngemihla - kukho njalo ithuba. Zonke iindlela kunye nazo zonke iindlela zokupheka zikulungele ukubonelela ubomi ngokwabo-kulungele ukuyeka umzuzu, uyeke ukuqhuma. Phuma kwi-footestal, susa imaski, susa eceleni. Apho, apho ukukhanya kweenkontsho kungabonakali, unokukwazi ukucinga ngento encinane.
Ukudlala indima, ukwenza ngokuchanekileyo kulungile. Ukuzithoba kwilizwe lokwenene kuyingozi nje - mhlawumbi kuya kuba yindlovu engalawulekiyo yokugubungela izikhonkwane. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha kufuneka uvumele ukuba ube yinyani, okhethekileyo, ukuba ungalandeli ngendlela efanayo nabanye abantu. Hamba indlela yakho. Kwaye xa ulawulo lucacile, ungakhetha kwiimpahla ezikhethiweyo ezikulo mfo esibhekana nazo. "Umphathi" oqaqambileyo okanye ozimeleyo okanye i-"intyatyambo ebomvu", endiyithandayo yinto ethandekayo - ukhethe kuphela.
U-Moms ucebisa, oogogo bacebisa, oogxa kunye namadoda, abaphathi kunye ne-apothecaries - bonke banombono kwi-akhawunti yethu. Kodwa inyaniso malunga nento esinokuyithanda, njani yayiya kuhlala ngovuyo - kuphela esikwaziyo, ekhethekileyo neyodwa. Kwaye kukho okufana nathi-ngokukodwa.
Kwaye ke ubuhlobo kunye namadoda buya kusekwa, emphefumlweni womphefumlo, indlu-indebe epheleleyo. Emva koko, ukuba uyayazi into oyifunayo kwihlabathi - ihlabathi likulungele ukusinika lesi sandla esivulekile.