Ulwalamano nabazali aluhlali lukhula njengoko singathanda. Kwaye kunzima kakhulu, ukuba unina okanye utata ngumntu onobubele. Kwimeko apho abantu baqala ukukhwaza nokufunga, ukubonisa ukuba umbono wabo uba nzima nakakhulu. Kodwa ukuba unqatshelwe ngumama unganakunyulwa ngandlela-thile, uyise akadluli inombolo enjalo. Kungenxa yoko kuyimfuneko ukwazi indlela yokuseka ubudlelwane nootata onokukhawuleza.
Ukuze uqonde indlela yokuseka ubudlelwane kunye nootata abanomshushu, kubalulekile ukuqonda iingqondo zabo kwaye bakwazi ukuziphatha ngokuchanekileyo. Iziqwenga zidla ngokuba ngabantu abasetyenziselwa ukuba ngabaphathi kunye nokulawula yonke into kunye nayo yonke into. Naluphi na ukungathobeli, bakhawuleza baphelelwe ngumsindo, baqale ukumemeza nokufunga.
Yazi indlela yokuphikisa
Ukuba oku kwenzeka ntoni kuyihlo, kufuneka ufunde indlela ongaphenduli ngayo ukukhala ngokunyuka kwempendulo ngelizwi. Ukuze kusekwe ubudlelwane, akukho mzekelo ungena kumbambano. Xa uyise eqala ukumemeza nokuqalekisa, vele uhlale ethule. Makhe akhulule umbane aze abonise yonke into ayifunayo, kungekudala okanye kamva uya kuzincama. Emva koko, khumbula konke akutshoyo nokwakha ingxoxo ngendlela elandelayo. Mxelele ukuba ulungile, nangona kunjalo ... emva koko kufuneka uvelise iingxabano zakho. Khawukhumbule nje ukuba ngomntu onomsindo omele ufune ukuthetha ngokuchanekileyo kwaye eqinisweni. Musa "ukusasaza ingcamango yomthi." Uhlobo olunjalo lwabantu lukhawuleza xa lubona ukuba umntu akakwazi ukufikelela kwindawo leyo. Ngoko ke, ukuqala ingxoxo kunye noyihlo kulo mbuzo okanye lo mbuzo, neengxabano ezaneleyo kwindawo yakho yokugcina ukukhusela indawo yakho yokujonga kwaye ungamvumeli ukuba ahambe.
Awukwazi ukunceda ibhizinisi lokumemeza.
Khumbula njalo ukuba akunakwenzeka ukuseka ubudlelwane nomntu onjalo ukuba uyaphendula ngokukhala. Kule meko, uqala uhlobo lomzabalazo apho ubaba, njengomntu olawulayo, akakwazi ukukwazi ukulahlekelwa. Ngenxa yoko, uya kumemeza kwaye ufunge, kwaye injongo yaloo nto ayiyi kuxazulula ingxabano, kodwa ukuphumelela kule nto sele isilwa engenangqiqo.
Ukuba uyihlo ngumntu onomsindo othe wuleza, akufanele ufune ukuba ngumtshaba wakho. Khumbula ukuba akabi ngenxa yokuba unqwenela ububi, kodwa ngenxa yokuzithemba kwakhe ukuba wenza kakuhle umntwana wakhe. Ngoko ke, ukuba awukwazi ukuyihlolisa uyihlo ngeengxabano okanye awukwazi nje ukuba uzibonakalise njani ngokuzenzekelayo, zama ukuzenza ngeemvakalelo zakhe. Xa eqala ukumemeza, endaweni yokuphendula ngendlela efanayo, thintela uyihlo, uthi uyamthanda.
Okokuqala, lo mkhuba awunakulindela ngexesha lokuxabana kunye neengxabano, ngoko ikhupha umntu kwiimeko eziqhelekileyo kwaye inika amathuba amaninzi okuyiqinisekisa. Ukongezelela, ukuqonda ukuba umntwana uyakuthanda, kukukwenza uphumule ngisho nabantu abanokukhawuleza kakhulu.
Ukugcina uxolo
Nangona kunjalo, musa ukulibala malunga neemeko ezinjalo, xa uyise onomsindo ngokukhawuleza akafuni ukuva naziphi na iingxabano kwaye ukholelwa ukuba kukho izimvo ezimbini kuphela: zakhe kunye nokungalunganga. Abantu abanjalo baququzelele umbuso wobumbano ekhaya kwaye banomdla wokuqinisekisa ukuba wonke umntu uphila ngokubhekiselele kumqulu owenziwe ngawo. Kungcono ukuba ungabambisani noyise onjalo. Ukuba uyaqonda ukuba awukwazi ukumkholisa, ukuze angabhubhisi ubudlelwane kukho into eyodwa kuphela - ukuhlala uthula. Kule meko, kuyimfuneko ukuthetha oko utata ofuna ukukuva, aze enze ngendlela yakhe. Ewe, umntu akakwazi ukubiza imodeli yokuziphatha eyiyo okanye yokuziphatha, kodwa kwezinye iintsapho, abantwana abanakho ukhetho. Into ephambili kukuba uzame ukungathethi, kodwa ukuthula. Oko kukuthi, nangona ungazibuza malunga nantoni na, akudingeki ukuba udale amabali uze udlale phambi koyihlo intombi efanelekileyo. Into efanelekileyo kukuba ungagxininisa kwizinto ezinokubangela ukucaphukiswa kwipapa. Kule meko, ubuhlobo bakho buya kuphucula kwaye uya kuyeka ukufunga. Kwaye ukuze uqonde ukusebenzisana noyihlo ukuphucula, zama ukuba nomdla ngakumbi ebomini bakhe kunye neengxaki. Xa ebona ukuba uyabaluleka kwaye uyathandwa, uTata, ekugqibeleni, unokunciphisa kwaye ayeke ukukrokra malunga nantoni na.