Ibhinqa lidalwa lesibingelelo ngcaciso. Uhlale ehlala kumntu: abantwana, indoda, intsapho, ikamva eliqaqambileyo ... Ngaba ucinga njalo? Emva koko nawe, apha. Isihloko sengxoxo yindlela yokuyeka ukuxakraza kwaye ufunde indlela yokuzithandayo. Masifunde kunye.
SHEAMS
Ngokuqinisekileyo, abaninzi bethu bafazi basinakucinga kakhulu iingcinga zethu nsuku zonke: sikhathalele indlu kunye nemindeni, iingxaki zomsebenzi .... Kodwa mayeke ukuhamba kwempilo yemihla ngemihla kwaye sicinge ngento enkulu, into ephambili. Kwaye into ebaluleke kakhulu ebomini thina. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba iimbali-mlando zibhekiselele kwiixesha elidlulileyo, kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni indima enikwe yona umntu, ihlabathi ligcinwe, ligcina kwaye liza kuqhubeka linamathela kubasetyhini.
Kwaye akukho malunga ne-megalomania. Sitshele, ngokunyaniseka, ngubani ngaphandle kwethu okwazi ukuzala umntwana? Ngubani, ngaphandle kwethu, okwazi ukusijikeleza ngononophelo kunye nenkathalo kunye nazo zonke iindlobano, eziphathiswe kuthi: indoda, abantwana, abazali asebekhulile, izilwanyana ezinemilenze emine, iintombi ezingenasondlo, iintombi ezingenasiphako kunye nabangaphantsi koomoya? Nantsi, yile nto!
Oku akuthethi ukuba uthando, olulawula ihlabathi-isini lesini. U-Eva, ukhokho wethu, wayezithanda, kwaye wasihlalisa. Amadoda, ngokuqinisekileyo, uyazi oku kunzulu. Kule ngoma ithi: "Ewe, ngubani oya kuthixelela ukuba intwasahlobo ifikile, kakuhle, ngubani oya kusiphazamisa nokulala, oya kuvuselela uthando ezintliziyweni zethu, oya kusenza sikholwe kwakhona kumaphupha ethu, ngubani oya kumanga nathi kanye, oza kubelana nathi kunye kunye ngonaphakade? .. "Futhi ukusuka kwingoma awukwazi ukulahla amagama.
Kodwa, uyabona, ukuze unqume ukuxakraza kwaye ufunde indlela yokunika uthando olukhulu kangangokuba ukwanele wonke umntu ojikelezile, udinga amandla. Unamandla amaninzi. Kwaye kufuneka siqokelele ezi zinto, singalindelanga ukuba umntu uza kuza kusinceda kule nto. Mhlawumbi umntu uya kunceda. Kodwa akukho ziqinisekiso.
UKUBHALA ABASIFAZINI
Kodwa ubunzima obukhulu kukuba sikwazi ukuchitha, oko kukuthi, ukunika amandla ethu, uthando kunye nolwazi kwabanye, sinokukugqiba, kodwa ukuqokelela ... kwaye ngokukodwa le nzu lulwazi inikwe abafazi baseRashiya. Ngoko sikhuliswa ngaphezu kweenkulungwane kangangokuba kulula ukuba singene kwindlu ekhulayo yokuthabatha ikati lakhe eliyintandokazi, kwaye ke, elele ekunyamekelweni okukhulu, kuxubusha ngengqiqo oko kuza kwenzeka kubantwana ukuba oogqirha bengasindisi, kunokuba beqala ukucinga malunga nexabiso lobomi bakhe. Kulula ukukhawuleza kwisitofu esivela emnyango ngaphandle kokutshintsha iimpahla emva komsebenzi ukunyusa izindlu ezingenakunzima ezingazange zikhathaze nokuba zibeke iiplate, emva koko, ukusuka kwi-30-35 ubudala ubudala, zinexinzelelo lokugungqa ngonaphakade kunye neentsholongwane ezidiniweyo, ngaphezu kwexesha kunye nokucacisa ukuba unokutya xa usebenza. Ngoko kulula ukuba kuthi, kodwa kungcono, kubandakanye nabanye.
Ngendlela, ngaba ufunde ngokucophelela umyalelo wokusebenzisa imaski ye-oxygen kwiindiza? Ngoko, kubhaliwe kumnyama nomhlophe: umama kufuneka aqale ukubeka imaski phezu kwakhe, aze alondoloze umntwana! Oku kukufunda indlela yokuguqa nokuzixabisa, ngokwenene, kwenza ubomi ngokwabo.
Ngako oko umthetho wokuqala: Into ebalulekileyo kukuphinda yonke imihla yakho ingcamango yakho kwisibuko: "Ndisekhaya ndedwa!" Ngamanye amazwi, ukuba awuzinyamekeli, fundisa ukuzithandayo, akunakwenzeka ukuba kwenziwe ngomnye umntu. Nangona kunjalo, xa umda wemikhosi yakho iphelile, ngubani oya kukunyamekela abathandekayo bakho? Ngako oko, ukuze uqinisekise ukuba abantwana, abazali, amadoda, intombi, kunye nabalingane kakuhle, makube kuhle kuwe kuqala!
Umthetho omibini. Phantse njalo (ngaphandle kweemeko ezibaluleke kakhulu) sinalo ixesha lokubala ukuya ku-5 okanye ukuya kwe-10, kwaye kwakhona sizibuze: Ngaba kunengqiqo ukuba ndiyenze?
Umthetho wesithathu: ukuba ngaphambi kokuthatha isigqibo, unethuba lokucinga ngokucophelela, uthathe iphepha kunye neepeni. I-Leaflet kwisiqingatha: kwikholamu enye uluhlu kunye nekholomu lithembisa ntoni ukuphunyezwa kwesi sigqibo, kwaye kwelinye - yonke into imbi. Isigqibo siya kubonakala.
JONGELA EMZINI
Amava kwamanye amazwe awasoloko amkelwa. Ubunxibelelwano kwiingqondo zomthonyama luyaneliswa ngobuneliseko kunye nomoya woxolo kwengqondo, oko kuyimfuneko phakathi kwezixinzelelo kunye nezenzo zangoku. Kodwa indlela eYurophu naseMerika amantombazana afundiswa ukuba athande kwaye azihloniphe ngokwawo kwi-diapers, luxabiseke ngokwenene. I-diaper enhle kwaye igqoke ingabonakali kuphela iso kwaye ihlakulela intle, kodwa yenza abanye bayithokozise umntwana. Kwaye umkhwa wokuva kunye nokwamkela ukuncoma kuyinto enhle.
Jonga amabhinqa ethu: bangaphi abangaphendula ngokuphendula kwibinzana: "Ukhangeleka namhlanje!" Phendula: "Ndiyabonga, ndiyazi"? Hayi. Eminye ingqungquthela, njengokungathi babanjwe into engcolileyo, abanye bathuthuzela ngokukhawuleza kangangokuthi abazange bafumane ukulala ngokwaneleyo namhlanje okanye bafake kwi-blouse engalunganga. Yaye yonke into yokuba umama wayedla ngokusithi ebuntwaneni bakhe: "Wena ubuhle bam!" Kwangathi kukho into enjenge: "Phuma kwisibuko, kusencinane ukuba ukhangele!" Kodwa ibhinqa kufuneka lizithande, kubandakanywa ebuntwaneni bakhe, kungenjalo ingozi iphezulu kakhulu icandelo elithile libe yihashe eliqhutywayo.
Emva koko, kwiminyaka engama-20 edlulileyo, abafazi baseRashiya, beya phesheya, babemangalisa kakhulu, bebona emagumbini amantombazana amancinci amachiza, imithi yokucoca, kunye nokunye. Kutheni? Ewe, ngoko, ukuba ufunde ukuzinyamekela kumntwana, kwaye ungayi kuhamba ubomi bam ngobunzima beentendelezo kunye neenwele ezinqambileyo, ungene kwisikhwebu esinzima! Ukuze "ungayiboni ubuso" imizuzu emihlanu phakathi kokutshiza kwekhati kumyeni wakhe nokuthunga kwiincinki kwonyana wakhe. Ngaba amadoda angaphezu kwethu, abafazi, abafanelekile ukushiya indlu kakuhle?
IMIGAQO YEMIGAQO
Nangona kunjalo, ebuntwaneni asiyi kubuya, ngaphandle kokuba inzala yethu iya kuphakanyiswa ngokuhloniphekileyo. Ngoko masifunde ukufumana imigaqo emitsha.
Okokuqala, ukuze uthande kwaye uzihloniphe, yima ngokukhawuleza:
• Yidla isigamu-esidliwe ngumyeni nabantwana, kwaye ubanike iinqununu ezingcono ngonaphakade.
• Ukugqiba indlu engapheliyo. Nangona unethuba elinjalo - ngumsebenzi wabo.
• Ukungafuni ukuthenga into efunekayo okanye enqwenelekayo ukuze ukholise abathandekayo.
• Ukucima ubuthongo ekhaya okanye emsebenzini (ngaphandle kokuba yintsapho yentsapho yakho).
• Shintsha iiplani zakho (kubandakanywa nehlabathi jikelele, njengokuqeqesha, umsebenzi onomdla, njl.) Ukukholisa umntu, kungekhona.
• Ukugculela ngawe (kuba abantu abasondelene nathi basiphatha ngendlela esiziphatha ngayo).
• Ukungafuni ukunika uncedo.
• Ukumangaliswa kwaye ukuphikisana xa unconywa okanye udumisa umsebenzi wakho, nokuba yintoni na.
Kunoko, zama ukufumana ixesha rhoqo:
• Ukuphumla emva komsebenzi ubuncinane ubunesiqingatha seyure uze uhlambe ngaphambi kokuqalisa imisebenzi yendlu yasemini.
• Hlala ngokukhawuleza phambi kwesibuko uze uthethe ngcamango yakho, bhetele ukucinga ukuba uyathandwa.
• Ubuncinane ngeveki ukwenza iinkqubo zokuzicoca ekhaya okanye kwi-salon.
• Funda iincwadi zakho ezizithandayo okanye ubukele i-movie.
• Pheka ngqo izitya ozithandayo.
• Ukudibana neentombi zakho ezizithandayo okanye abantu obaziyo.
• Ukuchitha iveki njengoko kucetywayo.
• Ugqoke kwaye uziphathe njengokuba ulahlwa yintliziyo yakho, kungekhona i-whims yomyeni okanye umkhwekazi.
Ewe, okokuqala ukukwenza ezi zinto kuya kuba nzima. Kodwa imikhwa ibizwa ngokokuba ukuziphatha ngendlela entsha ofuna ukuyifumana ngayo. Ngamaxesha onke into ethile ngaphakathi kwakho iya kumelana nomntwana, ukhumbuze ngokwakho, kutheni unqume ukuba uthathe isinyathelo esinjalo? Ngenxa yokuba uwedwa. Kodwa uzama ukugcina impilo yakho noxolo lwengqondo ngenxa yabaninzi. Le njongo ephakamileyo, kwaye kufuneka iqhubeke ilandela. Kwaye ke, fumana ukuvisisana kwangaphakathi, kuba uyeka ukuxakraza kwaye ufunde ukuzithandayo.
Naphezulu. Yonke imo engqongileyo yintliziyo yakho iyaqonda ukuba kuwe, kwaye kuphela kuwe, ukuxhomekeka kwabo ngokuqhubekayo kuxhomekeke. Ngokuqhelekileyo ubakhumbuza ukuba baya kulahleka, ukuba uyahluleka. Kwaye ngokukhawuleza baya kuqala ukuxabisa nokukuxabisa.