Ukungathembeki.
Ngabantu abanjalo kunzima kakhulu ukuvumelana nangakumbi kwizinto ezilula kwaye eziqondakalayo. Abantu abaxhomekeke kwimibono engathembekiyo yobomi, baya kukhanyela ngokukhawuleza, kunokuqala ukujonga ingqalelo yento. Kodwa ziyakuchukumiseka. Ukwenza oku, kufuneka uqinisekise umntu ukuba isiphakamiso sakho sinamanani amaninzi kunamashishini. Nika imizekelo ecacileyo, ngokukhawuleza, kodwa uchaze ngokucacileyo imbono yakho. Iinyani ezinyani ozizisayo, ngokukhawuleza uza kuphumelela ukuzithemba.
Yonke ivumelana!
Kubonakala ngathi into embi kukuba umntu uyavumelana nayo yonke into, unokuthini na? Zikulungele ukulawula kwaye zixhaphaze nje. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha kukho imeko apho kubalulekile ukwazi i-opinion of the interlocutor. Indlela yokufezekisa kwisidalwa esingenasiphelo esenzileyo, kungekhona poddakivaniya? Ukwenza oku, kubalulekile ukugxila kwisenzo kwincoko. Thatha ixesha elincinci ukuba uxoxe ngobume beengxaki, gxi ninisa ukuba ixesha kunye neziphumo ezibalulekileyo zibalulekile kuwe. Mhlawumbi, umntu ongenenkathazo enjalo kufuneka ahlolwe kwaye akhuthazwe ukuba enze ezinye izenzo, kodwa kunokwenzeka ukufezekisa kuye okufunwayo.
Andiyi kuthetha nto!
Mhlawumbi, enye yezona zihlandlo ezinzima kakhulu zonxibelelwano ziza xa ufuna ukuqonda isinqumo sekhonkrithi, kwaye umdibaniselwano ngazo zonke iindlela unokuphephelela uxanduva kwaye akasho ukuthi "ewe" okanye "hayi". Inokuxhomekeka kwizigaba ezibalulekileyo zobomi kunye nomsebenzi wakho, kodwa akulula ngaso sonke isikhathi ukugqithisa udonga othulileyo. Ukuze uthethe umntu onjalo ovaliweyo kwaye ufumene oko akwenzileyo engqondweni, kufuneka usebenze ngokuqhubekayo kunye ngobumnene. Ungawufaki umnxibelelwano ngezicelo, ungabandakanyi naluphi na uxhaphalo kwaye nakuphi na umcimbi ungamxinzezeli. Buza imibuzo ehamba phambili, sitshele into ebalulekileyo kuwe, yintoni impendulo eya kuba yinto enhle kuwe kwaye kutheni. Kodwa ungazami ukuthetha nomnxibelelwano, mnike ithuba lokuthetha.
Uyabhuqa.
Kwenzeka ukuba phakathi kwalabo sifuna ukuthetha nabo, kukho abantu abanentlangano enengqondo ebonakalayo ebonakala ngathi bayakhutshwa yiyo yonke into. Nantoni na oyenzayo, kubangela ukungazinzi nokuhlupheka, nokuba nantoni na ukuthethayo, akusoloko kunjalo. Le ndlela ibonisa ubukho bezinto ezininzi ezinzima. Iqhinga elifanelekileyo ekujonganeni nomntu onobuhlungu akuvumelekanga ukuba ahlazeke. Qala ingxoxo ngokudumisa, unciphisa onke amanqaku abukhali kwisifundo sengxoxo kwaye ujonge amaninzi amaninzi kunokwenzeka kwizinto ozinikelayo. Ukuba uqaphele ukuba umnxibelelwano uvuselela kwakhona kwaye ukulungele ukugqitywa ngamangqina, ufike phambi kwakhe kunye nesinye isiluleko. Ungesabi ukwenza umntu omnandi, othintekayo, kuba xa eqala ukuthembela kuwe, bonke abantwana bakhe bayadabuka. Into ephambili kukuba nawe kufuneka uzive ekhuselekile.
Ukunganeliseki.
Kunzima ukunxibelelana nabantu abahlala benganeliseki ngento ethile. Uza kuye ukuxazulula enye ethile okanye ingxaki yakho, kwaye endaweni yesicombululo esakhayo ufumana umlambo ongapheliyo ngezikhalazo malunga nento efanelekileyo kwaye ayisebenzisi. Abantu abanjalo bavame ukukhalaza ngobomi, kodwa banqwenela ukuzama ukwenza utshintsho okanye bajonge imeko ukusuka kwelinye icala. Thatha izinto ezandleni zakho. Ungavumeli incoko ihambe kwisihloko onomdla kuyo, cacisa amabango ephikisana lakho kwaye uphinde ubonise iindlela zokusombulula umba. Ngokomzekelo wakho, bonisa ukuba imeko ezingekho phantsi kwezinto zingekho ngaphantsi kunokuba zibonakala, kwaye zonke iingxaki ezinzima kunye nobunzima zinganqotshwa ngokupheleleyo. Kungenzeka ukuba, xa ujongene nabantu abanjalo, kukukuba ube ngumcimbi osebenzayo, kodwa kulungile ukuba unokufumana ummangali ukuba enze.
Ukungabikho.
Uza kumntu onjalo encokolayo, into ebaluleke kakhulu kuwe, kodwa ukhubekile ekungabandakanyi kubanda. Imvakalelo yodwa enokubangelwa ngumntu onjalo ayikude. Abaninzi baqhawule ngqo phambi kwabantu abanjalo, kodwa banokukhethwa ngokukhethiweyo. Okokuqala, zama ukufumana uluvo lwakhe kulo mbuzo okanye lo mbuzo. Yenza isiphakamiso sakho ukuze umnxibelelwano angenalo ithuba lokuphendula: "Andikhathalele". Xa uluvo lwakhe lubonakaliswa, vumelana naye okanye ngamanye amanqaku, nokuba ngaba ucinga ngokungafaniyo. Kwaye ke ke unikeze ukhetho lwakho, ulungelelanisa izimvo zakho kwaye ugxininise iingenelo ezibonakalayo kule ndlela yokusombulula ingxaki. Into ephambili xa uthetha nabangenamdla, bangela umdla wokuqala, qalisa ingxoxo ngenqaku elihle uze uzame ukungacinezeli.
Enyanisweni, kukho abantu abaninzi kwaye bonke bahluke, ngamanye amaxesha sinokuqhagamshelana lula kunye nalabo abathandwayo abaxoshekile kwaye banomdla, ngamanye amaxesha kunzima ukuba sivumelane nangabantu abanomdla kakhulu. Ukuze ukwazi ukuguqula nayiphi na imeko ngendlela elungileyo, funda ukubona okungaphezulu kunokuba ulale phezu komhlaba. Ukuqwalasela iimpawu zokuziphatha komntu, kwiinkalo zayo ezinobuthakathaka kwaye ezinamandla, kwaye uzame ukusebenzisa iimbono zakho ngobumnene nangengqiqo. Akukho nto iphosakeleyo ngokuthetha nabantu ngokusekelwe kwiimpawu zabo, into eyoyikisayo kukuba idlala imidlalo kunye nezinye iimvakalelo zabantu, ekubeni iinzame ezinjalo ziphela ngokungafezeki ngokupheleleyo kwimizamo yokuseka unxibelelwano.