Kukho ixesha elide lugxininiso lokuba injongo ephambili yabasetyhini ukuzala abantwana kunye nokubandakanyeka ekukhulisweni kwabo, ngelixa indoda isebenza kwaye inikezela intsapho yonke. Ngexesha elide kakhulu, ezininzi izibini zakhayo, zihambelana nomgaqo onjalo. Kodwa! Njengoko uyazi, yonke into ebomi iyatshintsha - le meko ishintshile.
Oomama abaninzi banamhlanje banyanzelekile ukuba baye emsebenzini ngokukhawuleza emva kokuzalwa komntwana. Wonke umntu unenjongo yakhe, eqinisweni. Omnye ubambelela kwisithuba okanye angenakukhanyela kumphathi, abanye banomdla kwizinto eziphathekayo kulo mbandela, okwesithathu esibalulekileyo yimo. Kukho nawuphi na, ukuphuma kwangoko ukuya emsebenzini kungabangela ukuphuhliswa koomama onzima.
Asiyi kukhohlisa thina okanye abanye. Ukudibanisa intsapho kunye nomsebenzi ophumelelayo kunzima kakhulu, ngaphezu koko, akuwona wonke umama okwazi ukukwenza. Cinga kwakhona ubuchule bakho nesimo sengqondo sokusebenza. Ngaba uya kukwazi ukushiya ishedyuli ekhutshweyo, uthatha umsebenzi wexeshana ekhaya? Ukuba akunjalo, ube nesineke sengelosi uze ufunde iingcebiso zethu. Izakhelo ezichanekileyo ziyakunceda ukuphepha iingxaki ezinzima.
Shintsha indlela yokucinga
Ukuba uhanjelwe ngcamango yokuba awukwazi ukujamelana ngokupheleleyo nemisebenzi yakho yomama, ukuba unike umntwana wakho ixesha elincinci, awukwazi lutho ngalunye ngaye kwaye uhlushwa kukuzisola ... Yeka! Ngomntwana wakho, uhlale ukhona kwaye uya kuba ngumntu osondeleyo, othandekayo nothando onokuhlala elindayo, ehlala efuna. Ekugqibeleni, ngethuba leentlanganiso ezimfutshane ezinqabileyo kunokwenzeka ukuba uqhagamshelane nomntwana osondeleyo kunye nomntwana, oya kuba sisiseko esiqinileyo sobudlelwane obuthembayo phakathi kwakho.
Khumbula, imeko yakho yempilo kunye nemizwelo idluliselwa kumntwana. Ngamava akho, awukhathazi nje kuphela, kodwa nakuye, oko kunokubangela ukunyaniseka, imizwa, iingxaki zokutya nokulala. Musa ukukhokelela kule nto. Kukho enye elula kakhulu, kodwa ngelo xesha, isenzo esisebenza kakuhle sengqondo esiya kuba yimeko efana ne "lifebuoy". Phinda ibinzana: "Ndingumama ongcono kunye omhle kumntwana wami" ade ahlale engqondweni yakho engqondweni, indlela yokucinga, izenzo kunye nesimo sengqondo kwiimeko ezithile zobomi.
Musa ukuyeka ukuncelisa
Ukuncwina kukunxibelelana okufutshane phakathi konina nomntwana. Yintoni esinokuyithetha malunga neenzuzo zezempilo kunye nokukhuseleka komntwana. Ubisi lwesisu alukwazi ukutshintshwa ngokupheleleyo naluphi na umxube wezinto ezinje kunye nezindleko. Kuya kuba mnandi xa ulawula ukulondla.
Amama amaninzi akholelwa ukuba ayikwazi ukudibaniswa nokuphila okusebenzayo. Kukho ukungqinelana! Ubisi lukaMama unempahla ekhethekileyo, kwaye ngoko ke ingagcinwa malunga neeyure eziyi-8 kwiqondo lokushisa lokubanda, iintsuku ezi-3 kwiqrijini kunye neenyanga ezintathu kwifriji. Ngokwenza njalo, iya kugcina iimpawu zayo zobunjani. Akunjalo? Ukuba olu khetho aluhambisani nawe, kukho esinye isisombululo. Kwezinye iidolophu, kuye kwavela iinkonzo ezizodwa zokuthutha, ngokukhawuleza ziphendule imfuno yakho ukuhambisa ubisi kwindawo efunwayo. Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba le nkonzo ifumana ingqwalasela engakumbi kumama omashishini.
Musa ukukhangela abanetyala
Abanye oomama abancinci, abaya kuba ngumsebenzi onyanzelekileyo, bazama ukusola umyeni wakhe yonke into. Emva koko, ingcamango kukuba kufuneka asebenze, aphelise kwaye axhase ngokupheleleyo intsapho, kwaye nawe, unako ukuziphatha okupheleleyo ukuhlala ekhefu ukunyamekela umntwana. Mhlawumbi yonke into iyinyaniso, kodwa kuphela ukuba imeko ekhona ebomini yakho isele ikhona, akulula ukuba uyamkele? Kutheni ukhangele inetyala, uqokelele intukuthelo, ukudideka, ulungiselele ngoku kutshabalalisa kunye nokutshatyalaliswa kobuhlobo? Abantwana bafanele bakhule emoyeni wothando, ukuqonda kunye kunye nentuthuzelo yengqondo.
Bonisa umdla ngakumbi ebomini bomntwana
Ukushiya umntwana kunye noyihlo, ugogo okanye unina, xa ubuyela ekhaya, ubuze malunga neenguqu ezincinci ezenzeke kumntwana ngosuku oludlulileyo, ukusuka ekubomvu ukuya esile kunye nokuphela kokutya kwakhe, walala waza waya kwindlu yangasese. Oku kuya kukuvumela ukuba ujonge ngokubanzi ukukhula nophuhliso lomntwana, ngoko ke ungakhathazeki kangako. Yaye makabe abantu abadala bevela kwimeko yengane bayamxelela ukuba unomama omhle anawo.
Ixesha elikhululekile lishiya intsapho
Yenza yonke imizamo ukusebenza, unganika kuphela ixesha. Ixesha elikhululekile lomyeni wakho nabantwana bakho. Yisebenzise nabo ngeeyure nakusihlwa, ngeveki kwaye niqiniseke ukuba nishiye. Ukwakha izicwangciso ezidibeneyo. Thembisa kumntwana kuphela oko unokukufeza, ngaphandle koko uya kulahlekelwa yithemba lakhe kwaye uphuphe intambo efanelekileyo kakhulu yokuqonda.
Musa ukukhuthaza imvume
Iphutha eliqhelekileyo lomama wezoshishino kukumthintela "isohlwayo" ngokuvunyelwa. Umama, uzive phambi kwetyala unetyala, kwiintlanganiso ezinqabileyo kunye naye ukwesaba ukuchasa iinqwenela zakhe kwaye akamvumeli nto. Umntwana uqaphela ngokukhawuleza iphuzu elibuthathaka kwaye ulisebenzise ukuze athabathele, ngamanye amaxesha asebenzise ngokubhekiselele kwi-blackmail. Isicwangciso sakho semfundo akufanele sichasane nesicwangciso sokufundisa abo abantwana bachitha ixesha elide.
Izipho ezingaphantsi - amagama anomusa
Okubaluleke ngakumbi ukuba umntwana udlala nomama, kunokuba athile izinto eziphathekayo. Unina oomashishini abaninzi "bahlawula" kubantwana babo. Musa ukwenza loo mpazamo! Akuyimfuneko kuwo wonke amathuba okubhubhisa izitolo zokudlala zezingane, endaweni yokuhamba, njengoko kucetywayo, ukunikezela kwenye indawo kunye nokukhawuleza ukusebenza. Konke oku kulungelekanga kakhulu, okokuqala kukho konke, imiphumo. Xa umntwana ekhula, uya kubona kuwe kuphela umthombo wokwaneliseka ngezinto eziphathekayo. Zama ukuqalisa umnxibelelwano nomntwana kungekhona ngoncedo lwezipho, kodwa ngoncedo lwamagama anomusa kunye nezenzo.
Ukwenza ukhetho phakathi komsebenzi kunye nomntwana, ungazenzeli umnqamlezo. Akukho mntu uya kuxabisa amaxhoba abo. Umntwana ufuna umama onwabileyo, engathandeki, engenelisekanga kwaye enganelisekanga. Ukuba umsebenzi uyonwabile wena, kwaye intsapho inomdla obumnandi, ngoko umntwana uya kuvuya.
Iingcamango zengqondo
Emva kokuba uqhubekele kwinqanaba elithile lobomi, ngaba yinto yezoshishino okanye imisebenzi yasekhaya, umfazi akakwazi ukuzivakalelwa ngokwenene kwaye uyavumelana. Ngamnye wethu uhlala edlala indima emininzi (umama, umfazi, umhlobo, umlingani, umqeshi ...), kwaye bonke bafanele babe ngabalinganayo. Ngaphandle kwalokhu, asiyi kukwazi ukukhula nokukhula ngokomoya. Ngokuphathelele umsebenzi othile, funda indlela yokuyibeka ngokufanelekileyo, ungesabi ukunikezela igunya, kwaye ubeke ixesha ngokucacileyo. Ukuba ubonise ukuba usuku lwakho lomsebenzi luphela ngo-18: 00, ngoko ngeli xesha kufuneka uhambe eofisini kwaye uye kubantwana abajonge phambili ukubuya kwakho. Konke oku akulula, kodwa kuyaphumelela. Kufuneka uqaphele injongo kunye nesibangela sezenzo zakho, ngoko uya kukwazi ukuza kwiziphumo ezifunwayo.