Oomama abaninzi bokamva bayaqiniseka: ixesha elimnzima kakhulu liphela ngokuzalwa, kwaye ke kuphela uvuyo lwabazali abalindele. Kodwa enyanisweni, umama osemncinci unokujamelana nokulangazelela, ukungazifumani ngokwaneleyo kunye nokunyanzela umntwana wakhe. Siza kufumanisa oko kukudandatheka kwengqondo emva kokubeleka, nendlela yokunciphisa impembelelo yayo kwimpilo kamama.
NgesiNgesi, ukudakumba kokugqithisa kwesandi kubonisa isigxina, kwaye ngezinye iindlela nokudazisana - Ubomi bentsana. Kodwa akukho nto yokuthandana kwimeko yokudandatheka komama emva kokubeleka. Ukucacisa eli lizwe lilula. Ukuba umama osemncinini uyakhala ngaphandle kwesizathu, ukungakhathazeki, ngokukhawuleza uyakhathala, akafuni ukuthetha nomntwana wakhe kwaye ngenxa yoko njalo uyazigxeka ngokuba ngumama omubi, eli gama lisebenza kulo. Ngokwezifundo zaseYurophu, oomama abangama-80% bawela kule meko emva kwexesha lokuzalwa komntwana. Kwi-10% yabasetyhini, okubizwa ngokuba yi-Baby blues ingaba yindlela yokliniki yokudakumba kwengqondo emva kokubeleka kwaye kwaneengqondo.
Ukugqithiswa okungabonakaliyo kweBoes blues ekubonakalweni kwayo kunzima kakhulu kwenzeka kwi-50s yekhulu lokugqibela. Ngowe-1953, amacala okuxhaphazwa koomama nabantwana abasandul 'ukuzalwa, achaphazela uluntu jikelele jikelele, ayenziwa esidlangalaleni eUnited States. Sisiphi isizathu salokhu? Ngokwezifundo zakutshanje, abafazi banamhlanje baye banciphisa izinga lokuhlanganiswa kwe-hormone oxytocin, evuselela nokulawula inkqubo yokuzalwa, kwaye ikwajongene nokubunjwa kwendalo, apho ikosikazi ekubizweni kwentliziyo igxininiswe ekunyamekeleni umntwana. Esinye isizathu kukuba amaninzi amanqaku ecandelo le-caesarean aqhelekileyo. Uninzi lwabafazi, ngenxa yemisebenzi yokuzalwa, ukuhlakulela uthando lomama, oluyimfuneko kakhulu ekumiseni uqhagamshelwano phakathi konina nomntwana. Kwimeko yecandelo le-caesarean, umfazi akabonakali ukuba abelethe, abanye bakwenza oko. Lo msebenzi odibeneyo, lowo umntwana uhamba kunye nonina kwaye ngowokuqala unxibelelwano oluphambili phakathi kwabo, alukho. Ngokuqhelekileyo umfazi ufanele afunde ukuthanda umntwana wakhe. Oku kungathabatha iinyanga, nokuba neminyaka.
Oogqirha babiza isizathu esiyinhloko sokudandatheka emva kokubeleka kukuguquka kokungenakukupheka komzimba kumzimba wesetyhini. Kwiinyanga ezilishumi elinesithoba, umfazi wazala umntwana phantsi kwentliziyo yakhe. Umzimba wakhe ngokuthe ngcembe uguqulele ubomi kubini, kwaye ngokukhawuleza emva kokuzalwa kukho enye iperestroika! Emva kokuzalwa komntwana, umama kwakhona kufuneka ajonge "ubomi" abazimeleyo. Okokuqala, umlinganiselo wesisombululo somama kunye nomthamo wegazi wehla, kwaye ukunyuswa kwegazi kuyancipha. Okwesibini, ukuveliswa kwamahomoni e-thyroid kuncitshiswa kakhulu. Okwesithathu, inqanaba leprogesterone kunye ne-estrogen lehla ngokukhawuleza emva kokuzalwa, eyona nto ingundoqo yezidumbu zentombi. Ukuchaphazela imeko ngoku i-cardinally umama oselula akakwaziyo - zonke iinguqu zendalo. Omnye ukuzinzisa uhulumeni kuthatha iinyanga ezimbalwa, umntu-ezimbalwa iiveki. Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba le yimeko yesikhashana ebangelwa zizizathu zomzimba. Uze uzigwebe ngeze!
Cishe wonke umntu uyazi malunga nokuzalwa kwabantwana. Inani elikhulu leencwadi, amaphephancwadi kunye namawebhusayithi athetha ngokubeletha. Abaninzi abasetyhini abakhulelweyo bakha into ethile imeko efanelekileyo, ngokubhekiselele kuyo ukuhanjiswa kuzo. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha ubomi bunomngcipheko. Imvakalelo yesiphumo esihle ngokuqinisekileyo ibaluleke kakhulu. Kodwa ngelo xesha, abafazi abaninzi abafuni ukufumana esinye isiphumo semicimbi. Yaye ukuba kukho into engafanelekiyo - izicatshulwa ezibuhlungu, ulwalamandla lokuzalwa, isigaba se-caesarean - icebo elihle liwa phambi kwamehlo ethu. Emva kokuzalwa okunzima, umfazi kuqala uqala ukuzitshintsha ngenxa yokungakwazi ukulawula, esikhundleni sokunceda umntwana wakhe ahlale apha kweli hlabathi, engasecaleni kuye.
Ubomi emva kokuzalwa komntwana yinto enye yeengcamango zepinki. Ngexesha lokukhulelwa, abaninzi abafazi bakha iingcamango malunga nekamva lobomi bentsapho. Ingelosi encinane iyakuthuzisa njani, ihlalise ngokukhawuleza kwisikhumba sayo. Nangona kunjalo, enyanisweni, ingelosi ngenxa ye-colic rhoqo inokufana nomtyholi, ukutholisa kuphela ezandleni zakho. Ukongeza, ukukhala ngokukrakra, ukuba awukho. Kwi-restructuring ye-physiological grandiose, ukungakwazi ukudibanisa okufunwayo kunye nokwenene kunqabileyo. Kwaye ukuba imeko eqhelekileyo, abaninzi bethu banokukwazi ukujamelana neemvakalelo zabo, ngoko kwimeko yokuxinezeleka okuphindwe kabini, umfazi unokuxinezeleka.
Ukuba udibana neengcali, isinyathelo sokuqala kukuhlolwa kwegazi. Kuyimfuneko ukwenzela ukuba ungabandakanyi umbandela wokwenza umsebenzi ongenamsebenzi we-thyroid gland. Emva koko, umfazi uya kuthunyelwa ukucebisa isazi sengqondo, onokumisela amayeza okanye izifundo zeqela le-psychotherapy. Ngokutsho koogqirha, kwimeko yokudakumba kwengqondo emva kokubeleka, le ndlela yokugqibela iyona ndlela iphumelelayo. Nangona kunjalo, iingcali zikholelwa ukuba isabelo seengonyama sempumelelo yokulwa nokuxinezeleka kwangemva kokuphuma kuxhomekeke kwintokazi. Ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba kukho into engalungile kuwe, kubalulekile ukuba uqonde ukuba le yinto yesikhashana, kwaye uzame ukuphefumula kwakhona. Ukuba uqonda imeko ngokuchanekileyo, unokuzama ukujamelana nokuxinezeleka ngokwakho.
Ukuze uphephe ukudandatheka, zama ukufumana iindlela zokuziphilisa ngokukhawuleza ezifanelekile ngexesha lokukhulelwa. Ingaba imizuzu eyi-15 yokulala ubusuku, ukucamngca, isethi yemisebenzi ekhethekileyo, i-aromatherapy okanye imithi yamachiza. Kubalulekile ukuba ngaphambi kokuba ubonakale ebomini bentsana yakho ubafundile ngokugqibeleleyo. Yamkela imeko yakho njengenyaniso. Oko sikufumanayo akulungile okanye kakubi - kuyinjongo enenjongo. Ukudandatheka emva kokubeleka yimeko yendalo, nangona kungabonakali nantoni na, kwaye kuya kufuneka idlule.
Musa ukubuyela kwimpilo yakho yakudala emva kokuzalwa. Zama okungenani ixesha lokuba uzinikezele ngokupheleleyo umntwana. Emva kokuseka uxhulumaniso oluqinileyo kunye nosana olutsha kwiinyanga zokuqala zobomi bakhe, ngokukhawuleza uza kuqala ukufumana "isabelo" esiqinileyo: umntwana ozolileyo, unxibelelwano oluya kukunika imizuzu emincili. Kwakhona fumana isangqa esitsha soqhagamshelwano. Abahlobo bakho abangenamntwana banako
awaziqondi iingxaki zakho, kwaye indoda yakho ethandekayo ayisoloko isakwazi ukungena kwindawo yakho. Eyona nto ingcono kunomama abatsha abajongene neengxaki ezifana nawe. Nangona ungeke ufumane iingcebiso kubo, uya kukwazi ukuba awuwodwa.
Zama ukutya ngokufanelekileyo. Faka ezinye izityalo nemifuno ekudleni. Akufuneki kungekudala emva kokuzalwa komntwana ukuhlala ukutya okunzima. Oku uzilimaza ngokwakho. Qiniseka ukucinga malunga nokuphumla kwakho. Zama ukufumana ixesha lokubhukuda ukwenza kwaye uhambe ndawo ngaphandle komntwana. Ukuba oku akunakwenzeka, hamba kunye nomntwana apho ufuna ukuya khona. Ngokomzekelo, kwi-cafe okanye kwivenkile.
Ngendlela, le ngxaki ayiyinto entsha. Ookhokho bethu bajamelana nayo kwaye bafumana iindlela zabo zokunceda. Emva kokunikezelwa, lo mama osemncinci wayezungezwe ngononophelo kunye nenkxaso evela kwizihlobo ezikufutshane zowesetyhini. Ngokomthetho waseRussia endala, ecaleni kwowesifazane owayesanda kuzala, umbelethisi wayeseveki eziliqela. Wamnceda ngemisebenzi yendlu, wandifundisa indlela yokunyamekela umntwana. Kwaye imisebenzi esemqoka yomama osemncinci yancinci kunye nokunxibelelana kwengqondo nomntwana. Ngelo xesha le ntokazi yayifumana isimo esitsha. Ngoku isiqhelo sokungena indima entsha sinqwenela kwiintsuku ezimbalwa kwikhaya lokubeleka. Emva koko umfazi u buyela "kwihlabathi elikhulu" kwaye uzama ukudibanisa indlela yakhe yokuphila kunye nexanduva elitsha. Ngezizathu ezicacileyo, akukuhle konke ukudibanisa omnye nomnye. Ukongezelela, abanye oomama bakholelwa ukuba bodwa benoxanduva lomntwana. La mabhinqa afakwa kwiinkxalabo zemihla ngemihla emandleni abo nangokwengqondo. Ngokuqhelekileyo iziphumo zolu hlobo lwezakhono zenza umsebenzi wokunciphisa ukuzithemba, ukubonakala kweemvakalelo zokungancedi. Ukuba ngeli xesha liza kumnciphisa inkxaso, ingxaki yokudakumba ingathintela umfazi ngokupheleleyo.
Ukuba ukuqala kobomi bakho kunye nebhokhwe kungaphumelelanga, kuhlanganiswe onke amandla akho kwaye "ukunciphisa umgama" phakathi kwakho nomntwana. Cinga ngomntwana. Yena, eneneni, naye wabona uxinzelelo lokuzalwa waza wadluliswa nawe kuyo yonke intlungu. Yaye kuphela unako ukunciphisa okokuqala kwamava akhe ekubelekeni. Umntwana, njengangaphambili, ufuna uncedo lwakho nenkxaso. I-Gymnastics ne-massage, ezenziwe ngezandla zakho, zininzi ziyakusondeza kumntwana. Yiyo le ndlela yokuba oonyana be-UK basebenzisa iimeko ezidityanisiweyo zabamama abasanda kuzalwa. Ungakulibala ukuphumla nosana lwakho emini. Ingakumbi iyancipha into yokuba ukuba umntwana elele imizuzu eyi-15-20 ezandleni zakho. Kungcono, ukuba ngexesha elifanayo uza kuqhagamshelana nosana 'olusesikhumba ukunqanda'. Oku kuya kubangela ukubunjwa kobudlelwane bakho.
Qalisa idayari yomama omncinane, ubhale phantsi zonke iimpumelelo zomntwana, iimpawu zakho kunye neemvakalelo zakho ngaye. Kuya kuba luncedo kuwe ngamanye amaxesha ukulifunda kwakhona, ufumana amaxesha amnandi. Yiya kwidayari kunye ne-albhamu yesithombe, ulungise kwiimpawu ezimnandi kunye neempembelelo zobomi bakho bentsapho. Oku kuya kunceda ugxininise ngakumbi kwixesha elonwabileyo.
Xhuma kwimicimbi yentsapho yapapa. Yenyuka kunye nezithethe zentsapho kunye nezithethe. Ukongezelela, emehlweni omthandayo uya kufumana umphulaphuli onomusa, ngubani oza kukwazi ukuxelela nje ngeemvakalelo zakho, kodwa nangokwenene imvana yakho imnandi kunye neentente.
Yaye khumbula ukuba nangona usana olusesandleni sakho ungakhokelela ekusebenzeni ngendlela enomdla kakhulu, kuphuculise ubuninzi bomi bemihla ngemihla. Ukwenza oku, kufuneka uhlambulule iimpahla zokuzilungela, isikhwama esinamandla kunye nezindlela zokuthwala umntwana, umzekelo, isalathisi. Ndikholelwe, ezi ngcebiso zivivinywa ngobomi kwaye ziya kunceda unina, ootata nomntwana ukuba abhekane noxinzelelo emva kokubeletha.