Iimvakalelo zihlawulela - yiyona yazo impahla. Ulwimi lwendalo yonke luvumela umntu ukuba aqonde abantu abahlukeneyo belizwe, ubudala, ngesondo. Emva kwakho konke, thina ngokwemvelo sinakho ukufumana iimvakalelo ezifanayo nokuzivakalisa ngokulinganayo. Akumangalisi ukuba, sinokuthi 'siphumelele' kalula. Ookhokho bethu bebazi malunga nale mpawu ekhethekileyo yemvakalelo. Ngamaxesha asekuqaleni kwe-Antiquity, babuthana ngamanyathelo amatye ekhatywayo ukwenzela ukuba bavelele ngeenkwenkwezi zeentlekele, kunye nabanye ababukeli, ukuba bafumane i-catharsis (kwindawo ephezulu yokukhathazeka kwengqondo). Iikhompyutha zobugcisa zanamuhla zinika iimvakalelo kwihlabathi lonke: ii-satellites, ii-antennas ze-parabolic kunye ne-Intanethi -zibulele iimvakalelo ezivela kwinqanaba elisondeleyo, ukusuka kummandla wobomi bodwa kwaye zaqulunqwa ebomini.
Indlela yokuzichonga
Ngoko zithini iimvakalelo zethu? Akukho ubunye obupheleleyo bombono nakwiingcali. Oku, mhlawumbi, nguyena kuphela umqondo ongachazwe ngabafundi beengqondo, kodwa isetyenziswe kaninzi kunezinye. Ukususela ngexesha likaCharles Darwin, abaphandi bavumelana ngento enye: kukho imvakalelo emininzi engundoqo apho bonke abantu emhlabeni bafumana kwaye bavakalisa ngendlela efanayo. Uvuyo, umsindo, ukudabuka, ara, ukumangaliswa, ukunyaniseka - ukuziva, akudingeki ukuba baqeqeshe, banikwa kuthi ukususela ekuqaleni. Ngethuba lokuzalwa, amanethiwekhi amaninzi e-neural ayenziwe kwingqondo yengane, evumela ukuba bavelele, babonakalise kwaye baqonde ezi mpawu. Ezinye izazi zengqondo zicinga nje ngesiseko kuphela seemvakalelo ezine zokuqala, ezinye zongeza ihlazo, ithemba, ukuqhosha. Ukunikezelwa kwesihloko esithi "esisisiseko", imvakalelo kufuneka ibe yinto yonke, ibonakale ekubonweni kokuqala kwaye ibonakale ngokufanayo kwizinga lomzimba. Kufuneka kwakhona kugcinwe kwizihlobo zethu ezisondeleyo - ii-apespodiid apes. Ukongezelela, ukubonakaliswa kwemivakalelo ihlala ihamba ngokukhawuleza kwaye iphilileyo. Umzekelo, uvakalelo olunjengothando aluphenduli yonke le miqondiso. Ngenxa yoko umbuzo ongunaphakade: "Uyandithanda?"
"Ndikhoyo, kuba ndiva ... ndivakalelwa, kwaye ngoko, kunjalo." Ukutshatyalaliswa kweemvakalelo zethu kucacile, basasazeka ngokukhawuleza kunomkhuhlane wesifo. Ukuvakalelwa ngokukhawuleza kwamanye amava abantu ngokungazi kakuhle kusibuyisela kubuntwaneni bethu bokuqala: ezinye iimvakalelo zomntu zithinta umntwana ngokukhawuleza, zimbambe ngokupheleleyo. Ukususela kwiminyaka yethu yokuqala, siyancwina, sibona ukumamatheka komama, sikhala, xa abanye bekhala besondele. Siqala ukuqala ukuzibonakalisa kunye nabo bahleka okanye bahlupheke, sizibeke engqondweni yabo. Sifumelana ngokuzibandakanya ngokubaluleka kwamava. Kodwa ekuphenduleni "wonke umntu wagijima, ndagijima" akukho nto. Ukuqonda izinto eziphambili, kufuneka ukwazi ukucinga ngalokhu ngoxolo, wedwa, wodwa. Yaye le yindlela efanelekileyo yokuphepha umgibe wabanye abantu.
Enyanisekileyo okanye ekhohlisayo?
Kodwa unokumthemba kangakanani? Khumbula ukuba abadlali bayakwazi ukumela, kungekhona ukuvavanya. Kwaye kwimizamo emininzi, izazi zengqondo zivusa lula uvuyo, intlungu okanye umsindo ngokuchanekileyo, ngoncedo lwamafilimu amahle okanye umculo obuhlungu kumavavolontiya *. Imvakalelo yeqiniso ayisoloko ilula ukuba siyiqonde. Xa uJulia oneminyaka engama-32 ubudala eqala ukukhwela ihashe, wazama kathathu ukuluma ihashe,
Iinkcukacha kunye nexhala
Ukumangalisa kukufutshane kunabo bonke iimvakalelo. Ukuyifakela ngokukhawuleza kuza enye - inwabe, uvuyo, umdla. Njengomntwana, umzuzu omfutshane wokumangalisa ungatshintsha ubomi bonke bomntwana. Andizange ndicinge ukuba ukungathandeki ukuba ndiziva ndihlala ndifihla amandla omsindo wam. Iimvakalelo zisitshela ulwazi olubaluleke kakhulu ngathi, kwaye ngoko ke, uthembele kubo, ngokuqinisekileyo, lufanelekile. Kodwa xa kukho into echaphazela kakhulu, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba yintoni le ntetho ithi - ngathi okanye malunga nemeko. Kubalulekile ukwahlula: yintoni exhalabisayo ngoku idibanise namava am ngaphambili, ezinye iimeko zobomi ezidlulileyo, okanye imeko ngokwayo. Thembela kwiimvakalelo zakho zingakhutshwa, ziqeqeshwe, zifunde "ukuzibeka kwiibakaki." Kwaye ukwenza olu lwazi, ziba nesibindi sokukhangela ubunzulu bomphefumlo wakho, ufunde ukuziphatha kakuhle, ukuhlakulela amandla okucinga nokubonisa. Iimvakalelo zihamba nathi ngekhefu kwaye ngelo xesha ziya kutshintshwa kwaye zingalindelekanga, njengezithuba zezulu. Basishukumisela kwaye basishukumisele ukuba senze isenzo, sibasondeza kwabanye abantu kwaye sibasondeza kuthi. Ngomqondo othile, bayasilawula. Emva kwakho konke, akunakwenzeka ukucwangcisa iyure yovuyo emini okanye uzigwebe ngokuthe tye ukuba ufune ukuthukuthela kusihlwa. Impembelelo yemoya kunzima ukulawula, kwaye abathengisi kunye nabathengisi bayaziqonda ngokupheleleyo: bazama ukusebenzisa iinjongo zethu ngenjongo yokwandisa ukuthengisa.
Ngaphandle kwabo akukho nobomi
Ukukhathala kwentlalo, ngamanye amaxesha siphupha ukuphulukana neemvakalelo kanye kanye ... Kodwa ke ubomi bethu buya kuba njani ngaphandle kwabo? Ngaba ubomi bunokwenzeka ngaphandle kwemvakalelo? Ngokutsho kukaCharles Darwin, kwakukho amava enkcubeko okwakusindisa uluntu ekupheleni. Uloyiko, uphawu lokusongela ingozi, luncede ookhokho bethu ngexesha lokuzikhusela kubaxhamli, ukuphazamisa - ukuphepha ukutya okunobungozi, kunye nomsindo ophindwe kabini ukulwa notshaba ... Namhlanje singazicingeli abo banesimo esicacisayo, esichukumisayo sokuthandwa ngakumbi: ukuthetha kubo, kulula ukuqonda into enokuyilindela, indlela yokuziphatha ngayo. Abaphandi bafumanisa ukuba xa ubuchopho bomntu bunobungozi ngenxa yesifo okanye ingozi, ubomi bakhe bemizwelo buphela, kodwa ukucinga kwakhona kunzima. Ngaphandle kwenkanuko, siza kuba ngama-robot, singenalo uvakalelo kunye ne-intuition. Ngoko ke kubaluleke kakhulu, iingcali zengqondo zithi, ukuhlakulela ingqiqo yabo yengqondo, ukukwazi ukuqonda nokubonisa iimvakalelo.
Ukugqithisa okanye ukunqongophala
Ingqiqo yecala evumela ukuba sikwazi ngokuchanekileyo indlela yokuziphatha komzimba kwiimeko ezithile. Siyabulela kuye, siyaziva xa singakwazi ukuthoba ngokungahambiyo kunye nabalingane bethu (ukuba, ngokomzekelo, iqela esilulaphulayo), kwaye xa kulungele ukugcina ukuzinza nokuthula (kwintlanganiso yokusebenza). Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha umonakalo weemvakalelo uqala ukulahleka. Kuthekani ukuba iimvakalelo ziphuma esikolweni okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, ziqhwale? Okokuqala, thetha ngabo - ibali malunga nawe linempembelelo yokwelapha. Kubalulekile ukuzivumela ukuba uphile ubomi esizivelayo. Ngaloo ndlela ke kuya kuba nako ukuhamba kunye noloyiko lwethu, iintlungu kunye nemihlali. " Ukongeza, xa sibonisa iimvakalelo zethu, sijonge ngakumbi - umntu othembela kwabanye, uxelela abanye iimvakalelo zakhe, uhlala elahlela kuye. Kodwa ukunqanda imvakalelo ("Phonsa ekhanda lakho!" "Khubalala!") Awukwazi ukusebenza kwaye ayingozi. Nangona ivakalelo liye laphela kwimiva yethu, ihlala ingenazi nto kwaye iyakuchukumisa eso sifo. Kule nto ayikho into engaphezulu: ukunyanzelwa kwemvakalelo kuphazamisa inkqubo yesantya kwaye kutshabalalisa umzimba wethu. Bahlupheke abo abangazi ukuba baqonde kwaye baveze njani iimvakalelo zabo. Abanye bethu baxhatshazwa ngabantu abathandanayo: "Abantu abayalili" okanye "Kuyinto engafanelekanga ukuba umntu omdala ajabule okanye amangaliswe ngumntwana". Emva koko, ngokudlukisayo, ukuze sifunde indlela yokuzilawula kakuhle, kufuneka siqale siqonde iingcamango zethu, iingcamango, kungekhona imizwa.