Izazinzulu zaseBrithani zenza uphando, zafumanisa ukuba lonke uhlahlo lwabiwo lwentsapho lulawulwa ngumfazi wakhe. Akukona nje kuphela isigqibo sokuhlala apho, yintoni ekuthengiweyo ukuyenza, kodwa kwakhona ukhetha iingubo indoda eza kuzinxiba kunye nokuba luhlobo luni lwe-TV ekubukeni. Kwixesha elizayo elizayo, oko kukuthi, ngowe-2020, uqoqosho lwehlabathi luyakwazi ukulawulwa ngumfazi. Kodwa ngaba oku kwenza ukuba intombi ibe nemihlali? Iyintoni intlozo yomfazi? Nantsi into eyaziwayo kwengqondo uDale Carnegie ecinga ngeminqweno yomntu ngokubanzi: "Phantse bonke abantu abadala abaqhelekileyo bafuna:
1. Impilo nokhuseleko.
2. Ukutya.
3. Ukulala.
4. Imali kunye noko bafumanayo.
5. Ukuthembela kwikamva lakho.
6. Ukonwabelana ngokwesondo.
7. Intlalontle kubantwana bakho.
8. Imivo yokubaluleka kwayo. "
Makhe siqwalasele onke amanqaku. Kakade, ulonwabo luhlala kwimpilo. Unokucinga ngomntu onomomothekayo onenyo lokugula? Ibhinqa ngokukodwa, kuyimfuneko, kuba ibamba yonke indlu. Uyakhumbula okanye ucinge ukuba kwenzekani ukuba unyoko okanye umfazi wakho uya esibhedlele? Iikhredshirts, idilesi yokugqibela ye-sock ecocekileyo, isidlo sasemini kunye nesidlo esivela kwi-sandwiches ... Ukubalula kungapheli. Ngoko kukukhuseleko. Awukwazi ukuhlala "eside kwaye ujabule" ukuba uhlala uyika into ethile. Ubukho bokulala nokulala kufuna umzimba wethu, ngumzimba. Imali nayo ibaluleke kakhulu. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ngoku kutshanje, abasetyhini basolwa ngokuba nomdla. Andiyilungisisi mntu wonke, kodwa ukuba uyayicinga lo mbuzo ngokubhekiselele kulo lonke uluntu, kufuneka kube njalo. Ibhinqa ngokuyinhloko ngumama, uyakhathalela ukuba abantwana bakhe bakhule kwiimeko ezifanelekileyo. Oku akuchazi nje kuphela ngeengcamango, kodwa nangokwenziwa kwe-intuition, uhlobo. Kwezinye iintlobo zeepenguins, ibhinqa likhetha indoda, eyakwazi ukuqokelela inqwaba yamatye. Nokumangalela ngenzuzo?
Ukuhlala nesidima, ngaphandle kokwesaba, kubalulekile ukwenza izicwangciso ngekamva. Ngubani oya kwakha indlu ukuba uyazi ukuba ngonyaka uya kuwela phantsi komhlaba? Ukwaneliseka ngokwesondo ngenye yeemfuno zomntu. Siyaqonda, ukuba umntu ufuna ukutya kakuhle okanye ulale kuze kube ngumhla we-12. Ngoko kutheni umangaliswe kukuba naye ufuna ukufumana isondo. Akukho mfihlelo abaninzi abanokukholelwa ukuba ulonwabo lwentliziyo lwentombi luhlala kubantwana. Kwaye kunjalo ngokwenene.
Ulonwabo lomama lenza umfazi ongokoqobo, enobumba obuninzi. Inkathazo enkulu, zombini intombazana ngokwayo kunye neendawo ezikuyo, ukuba ngenxa yezizathu ezithile wayenako ukuwanelisa isisu sakhe somama. Ngoku, ke, abaninzi abafazi abanqwenela ukuzala abantwana, bachaza oku ngokunyusa umgangatho wamakhondo okanye ukunyamekela umfanekiso. Kodwa, ixesha liya kuza, kwaye baya guquka ngenxa yokukhetha kwabo, kwaye, ngelishwa, kuya kuba sekwephuzile ukutshintsha nantoni na. Enye into yokuba ukuzalwa komntwana kuhlehliselwa ixesha elifutshane, ukwenzela ukuba olo lusapho lube nethuba lokuma. Umntwana ocwangcisiweyo uya kuba novuyo ngokuphindaphindiweyo, kuba ukubonakala kwakhe kwazalwa waza walungiselelwa. Yaye ingongoma yokugqibela kukuqonda oko kubaluleka komntu.
Akukho mntu unokuvuya xa evakalelwa kukuba unendawo engenanto, i-zero ngaphandle kwendandatho. Kutheni silandela imodeli, kutheni sifuna iimoto ezibiza? Ukuze kube lula? Kodwa iibhothi nazo zikhululekile, ngaba uhlala uye kubo? Nayiphi na umatshini angakunikela naphi na ukufunayo. Kodwa ukuba unikwe into enhle kwaye ingenakwenzeka, kodwa inhle, okanye ilula, kodwa ilula, ukhethe, ukuba inkululeko, oyithathayo? Phantse zonke izenzo kweli hlabathi zenziwe ukuze kugcizelele ukubaluleka kwayo. Yintoni eya kuba yinto yolonwabo yowesifazane, ngokwenene, kuphela onokuyiqonda. Kwaye kum indoda enomdla, umntwana, umsebenzi oyintandokazi kwaye uthetha nomhlobo wakho omhle.