Vumelana nomama wakho, ukuba unendawo ehluke ngokupheleleyo - umsebenzi awulula. Ngubani owaziyo indlela engcono ngayo? Yaye ngubani owaziyo indlela uMama ayazi ngayo ubuthathaka bethu? Umama ungcono kunomnye umntu, uyaziwa ukuba yiyiphi iqhosha ekufuneka uyicinezele ekugqibeleni ukuzisa iingxabano ezinzima. Iingcali zengqondo zi nethemba lokuba kusekho iindlela zokuza kwiindawo eziqhelekileyo.
Umthetho wokuqala: Ukwahlula
Akunakwenzeka ukwakha ulwalamano olunyoko kunye nonyoko, ukuba awuhluli kuye. Kakade, isigaba sokuqala senkqubo sele sidlulile - ngexesha lokubeletha. Kodwa ulwahlulo lwangempela luza emva koko. Abanye-ebusheni, abanye - ngamanye amaxesha. Kodwa ke, kutheni umntombi endala ahlukane nomama?
Okokuqala, kunzima kumama ngokwakhe. Kunzima ukuyeka umntanakho, kuba eqinisweni kuthetha ukuba uya kudala kunye nokufa kwakhe. Ngaloo ndlela, abantwana bajika baba "uhlobo lokunciphisa" ngenxa yokoyika. Kule mihla yentsapho ehlala yintsapho ayanele, kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo iba yintlawulo kubazali. Kwaye ixabiso eliphezulu lomntu linika injongo yobomi. Vumelana ukuba ukwesaba kakhulu ukulahlekelwa intsingiselo yobomi-isizathu sokuba uhlala kuyo. Abazali basebenzisa ixesha kunye namandla, ngoko ke xa sikhula, "nje" bafuna ukufumana ixesha labo namandla. Kodwa ukwahlukana kwangempela akukwenzeka xa uhamba kwenye indawo okanye kwisixeko. Awukwazi ukuthetha nabazali bakho iminyaka. Eli sebe lwenzeka xa ulwalamano oluvuthiwe nabazali bakho, apho wonke umntu ehlonipha omnye, ngaphandle kokuzibopha okanye ukuxhaphaza abanye. Ukuhlukana kulula ukwenza xa kukho indoda eseduze. Kuvela ukuba abazali banentsapho yabo, unayo eyakho, izikhundla zitsalwa. Kodwa nakwiimeko ezinjalo kukho ubunzima. Umama akakwazi ukuyeka ngaphandle kokulwa. "Akufaneleki" okanye "Hlala nathi" - amabinzana anjalo ayenzelwe ukulibazisa ukuhlukana. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ungayi kuhlaselwa.
Ukuhlukana nomama akuyikuyeka ukuthetha naye. Oku kuthetha ukuba uhlukaniswe ngexesha ukudibana kwakhona. Kodwa ukuba ungaboni njengomama kunye nomntwana omdala, kodwa njengabesifazane ababini abadala. Ulwahlulo lunzima ngokufanayo koomama kunye neentombi zabo. Ixesha lokuhlukana lidla ngokuhamba neenkundla. Kodwa ngokukratshi, ngokuphindaphindiweyo baxabana, ngakumbi "badibanisa" nabanye. Yaye kunye nolwalamano olusondeleyo phakathi komama nentombi, ixesha elide lokuhlukana liya kuba lusizi. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, amabinzana alandelayo anokunceda ukuva nokuqonda: "Mama, into enokuyenza yinto enokuzonwabisa ngaphandle kwanam" okanye "Mama, nceda ndithembele ukuba ndiphile ubomi. Emva koko, akukho mntu ngaphandle kwam uyazi oko kuza kuba ngcono kum. " Unokuthetha ngokuthe ngantoni malunga nendlela ozivakalelwa ngayo, indlela engafanelekanga ngayo. Ngale nto ungayenza ukumnceda wamkele ukhetho lwakho. Kubalulekile ukuxelela umama wakho ukuba uya kumbulela ukuba uyaziqonda ukhetho lwakho. Kwakhona kubalulekile ukukhumbuza umama wakho ukuba uyaziqhenya ngaye kwaye uyabulela kakhulu into endiyenzele yona.
Ngaphandle kwe-naplyus
Enye into ebalulekileyo ukufikelela kwisivumelwano kunye nomama: kunye naye kufuneka uhlanganyele yonke into ebaluleke kakhulu kuwe. Kwiingxoxo ezinjalo, kubalulekile ukukhetha amagama afanelekileyo kwaye ngokufanelekileyo ugqithisele kunyoko umama wakho. Ukuqonda nokwamkela, kwaye ungagxeki okanye ukhubekise. Kwakhona kubalulekile ukunxibelelana naye ixesha elide - uya kukwazi ukuba usadinga inkxaso yakhe, uya kuziva ukuba kuyimfuneko kuwe. Kwimeko apho ukugwetywa kwenzeka, kuyimfuneko ukuphazamisa. Ngelo xesha, unina kufuneka adalule ngokubanzi iinkcukacha azakufumana. Thetha ngeemvakalelo zakho ngokusobala. Ukuba awukwazi ukulungisa ingxabano ngomlomo, kufuneka uhambe kwaye uwamkele. Izihlandlo ngamanye amaxesha zichaneke ngakumbi kunamaphi amagama ethu.
Jonga ngokujulile
Ngokuqhelekileyo sibona kwaye siyayiva kuphela amagama athile kunye nokuthinteka kuthetha ntoni okwangoku. Kodwa ukuba ukhangela inqobo, kuvela ukuba ngoncedo lwesiqhelo seencwadi, bazama ukudlulisela intsingiselo ehlukileyo ngokupheleleyo. Ngomgudu wokuvuma ukuba kuyimfuneko ukuqonda ukuba yintoni isizathu kule nto okanye kule ngxaki. Mamela uze ukhange ubunzulu begama kunye nezenzo zomama. Kuba ibinzana elithi: "Ndiyazi ukuba bhetele" ingafihlakele "Ndiyesaba ukuba awudingi." Ukuhlambalaza, izigubhu, izibhengezo ngamanye amaxesha kubonakala ngathi bathandekayo kuphela indlela yokusondeza. Kwaye ngokuphindaphindiweyo i-zamoymnymi ingqinisiso, ukungathinteka, njengomthetho, umnqweno wokunyamekela ukufunda umntwana kwaye ufumane ingqwalasela yakhe.
Yibonge
Ngoomama oomama basinika amava abo obomi, inkxaso eninzi yokushisa, okubaluleke kakhulu kuthi. Kwaye abaninzi bahlala bengakwazi ukuvuma ukuba umntwana wabo ukhulile. Ngoku ihlabathi lilungele ukubizwa ngokuthi "intsha". Okwangoku, "ukuthumela umama kude" akunzima. Kodwa kukho enye ingxaki: njani unokufumana indawo yokubulela kunye novelwano phakathi kobudlelwane nalo mntu othandekayo kunye osondeleyo? Into ephambili kukuba kugxininise ukubaluleka kwezi nxu lumano. Nokuba uxabana, khwaza, xhaphaza, - umama uya kuhlala e-mamoy. Emva koko, lo mzalwana unokuba ngumzalwana okanye udade wakho. Ngokuqhelekileyo, oomama banamathemba aphezulu kuthi abanye babo abafanelekanga. Khumbula ukuba kubalulekile ukuba uhlale usapho ngonaphakade, nangona kukho ukungavumelani kunye nemithintelo.