Imiphumo yokuziphatha kakubi
Umntu ngamnye unezizathu zakhe zengqondo zonyango. Bonke abagqithisileyo bezengqondo okanye abadumileyo bazama ukubeka phambili ukuqikelela ukuba kuphi na "indlela yokulwa". Kukho amaqela angama-3 awaziwayo ngobundlobongela:
- Ukunyanyiswa njengemvelo. Inani leengqondo zengqondo zikholelwa ukuba ukuziphatha komntu okugwenxa kwenzeka ngokukhawuleza. Ukugqithisa kunceda ekuqhubekekeni, kuqhuba imisebenzi emithathu eyintloko - umzabalazo wezinto zokutya kunye nensimu, ukukhuselwa kwenzalo kunye nokuphuculwa kwe-gene pool. Amandla ashukumisayo avela kumntu rhoqo, aqokelela aze agqitywe. Enyanisweni, umda wabo bonke unabo, kodwa nayiphi na indlela ukuqhutyelwa kweentlanzi kukukhokelela ekuchaseni ekuziphatheni. Kukholelwa ukuba ulwalamano lunokuzuza ilifa ngumntu ovela kubazingeli bakhe. Indalo yokuzingela, ngokungathandabuzekiyo, kukunyanzeliswa kukutshatyalaliswa, iimfazwe kunye nobundlobongela. Ngoko ke, sinokuthi ukushukunyiswa kwabantu kubangenakugwema, ngaphezu koko, kunzima ukulawula.
- Ukunyanzelisa ngenxa yokungaqiniseki ukuzalisekisa iimfuno zabo. Kule meko, ingxaki ikhona kwelinye: ngamnye wethu ujongene nokungahambi kwesizathu esithile sokufezekisa yonke iminqweno yakhe, ngenxa yoko, phantse kukho ulawulo kunye nomsindo. Ezi mpawu zomntu zijoliswe kubo, kwizinto okanye kwabanye abantu. Ngamanye amaxesha ubugwenxa bubonakalisa ngolu hlobo: umntu uphosa umntu, unokumemeza ngumphambukeli, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha uqala ukulila: "Ndinezono zonke izinto mna kwaye akukho ukuxolelwa kum!". Ngelishwa, le ndlela yokuphendula iba ngumkhwa, ingakumbi ukuba isetyenziswa rhoqo. Ukongezelela, indlela enjalo yokuphendula ayinakunceda ukuxazulula ingxaki kunye / okanye ukunqoba izithintelo ezigqithisileyo.
- Inkcaso njengesiqhamo sokufunda. Yonke into esiyifunayo ebuntwaneni kubantu abadala: ixeliswe ngendlela yokutya, ukuthetha, ukuziphatha nokugqoka. Ngokufanayo, sifunde ngokubukela abantu abadala, ukuziphatha kakubi: sibone indlela abazali bethu abahlala bekrazula ngayo abantu abajikelezile, kwaye omnye nomnye, sikhumbula ukuziphatha okunjalo nje kuphela. Kukho ezinye izinto ezandisa ukwanda kobundlobongela ngexesha lobudala: ukuhlaselwa rhoqo kunye / okanye ukugxeka inxalenye yabantu abadala, unyango olwamkelekileyo, kunye neminye imiyalelo ngqo: "Mnike utshintsho. Ingaba uncinci? ". Umntu okhulayo kwimeko enjalo kunzima ukuhlala enomnandi, othulekileyo kwaye okhulayo. Kodwa kule meko unethuba lokufunda indlela yokulawula urhulumente wakhe onobudlova. Olu buchule lunokuphuhliswa xa ubona abantu abakwazi ukuzinza ngokukhawuleza nayiphi na ingxabano. Ukuze ube sishukumisayo, unokuzikhuthaza ukuba nantoni na ngokubonakaliswa komntu ngamnye kunye nokuthobeka.
Yintoni enokuchaphazela ulwaphulo
Ngoko, intsingiselo yengqondo yechukulo esiyichithayo.Ixinzelelo lufumaneka kuwo wonke umntu kwaye kukho izizathu ezininzi kunye neenjongo ezibonisa ukuba zikhona. Kodwa kukho izinto ezinokunyusa ukuziphatha okubi, okwenza kube yingozi nakakhulu. Umzekelo, iimpawu zemfundo nenkcubeko, iimpawu ezithile zobuntu, iimpawu zolu meko. Ulungelelaniso kwilizwe elinobudlova linyanzeliswe kakhulu kwiimeko zoluntu, kuquka iinkqubo zenkcubeko. Iimveli zenkcubeko indlela abanye abajonga ngayo ukuziphatha okubi. Ngokomzekelo, enye inkcubeko ikhuthaza ugonyamelo, ngelixa elinye ligxeka inkohlakalo. Amajelo ashukumisa kakhulu umntu, ohlala esasaza ulwazi malunga nokuqhuma kunye nokusongela, ubundlobongela. Ngokuqhelekileyo, umntu uyazibona njengento eqhelekileyo, leyo eyandisa ukwanda kobudlova.
Ukutyekela ukuziphatha okunjalo kuchatshazelwa yimeko yomntu wonke. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba umntwana ukhulile kwintsapho engaphelelanga, ngoko kwenzeka ukuba uya kuba nobutsha kwabanye abantu kubanzi ngokwaneleyo. Nangona kunjalo, ngokuchasene noko, intsapho igcwele kwaye inabantwana abaninzi. Ukubandakanya kwiintsapho ezinjalo zixhomekeke kubudlelwane phakathi kwabantwana: ukuba zihlala zingenelela kwaye zifungele, ziya kuba nefuthe kwaye zikhohlise xa zikhula. Ubume bentsapho bubangele negalelo kule nkinga: ukuba abantwana bahlupheke kangakanani, ngaba abazali baninzi baphazamise njani kubomi babantwana, ukungquzulana phakathi kwabantwana, indlela abazali abangayihambelani ngayo, xa bebeka isiyalo kunye nemithetho. Nangona kunjalo, akukhona nje ngezinto ezidlala ixesha elide.
Ngamanye amaxesha kukho imeko enjalo ukuba akunakwenzeka ukuhlala uzolile. Kwiimeko ezinje, njengomthetho, siyaxhalabisa, ngamanye amaxesha senza izimo ezinokungazinyameki. Ubukho babantu abangaphandle kwimeko enjalo kuphela enokunciphisa ukunyaniseka kwezinto. Kukho amaqela abantu abangela kuphela uhlobo lobugwenxa kumntu. Ngokomzekelo, umfazi osandul 'umyeni wakhe, ukudibana namadoda, into efana nomyeni wakhe owayengumyeni, ufuna ukwenza into embi.
Abanye bangacatshukiswa ziimpawu zenyama zeemeko, umzekelo, ingxolo, ukunyuka, ukushisa, umoya ongcolileyo, ukuxhamla. Kodwa into ephambili yinto ebalulekileyo. Ezinye iinkalo zomdlali ziyakwazi ukwandisa amathuba okugonyana nantoni na, nokuba yinto engabalulekanga, imeko. Ezi ziquka ukuvakalelwa kwengqondo kunye nokunyaniseka, ukuxhalaba okukhulu, ukulangazelela impumelelo, ukuqinisekiswa, umnqweno wokuthatha uxanduva kwizinto ezenzekayo.