"Ngoku uthanda inkululeko - ngoxa usemncinci," Umhlobo wesikolo sikaLena wandixelela, nditshintsha ukuba nditshatile ukutshata nomfundi wethu oqhelekileyo uVladik. - kunye neminye iminyaka emi-5-6-kwaye yile nto! Kuwe abafana abayi kukhishwa, kuya kuba yinto engcolileyo ukuya kwii-discos ... Akukho mntu uza kutshata kwakhona. Ngaba awusabi ukodwa?
"Ngoko," ndagqiba, "ndiseneminyaka engama-5-6. Kwaye ngoku uzibeka phantsi kwaye ukhiye.
Iminyaka elishumi idlulile ukususela ngoko. Yimangalisa njengoko kubonakala ngathi, ndiselula. Abafana, nangona kunjalo, abasagqithanga: bathatha isikhundla samadoda afanelekileyo (ngelishwa, ahlale engenzi lutho). Kwi-disco kwaye ngokwenene awuhambi (ngaphandle kweendawo zokungcebeleka), kodwa iminyaka engama-10 kweli lizwe libonakala kwaye liphindaphinda kakhulu ii-nightclub kunye neendawo zokutyela ezilula, apho umntu omdala, umfazi ozimele uya kuhamba ... Lenka andizange ndibone isicwangciso seminyaka emihlanu. abantwana, kwaye ndibahlobo abahlobo, ukusebenza kunye nezinto ezininzi. UVadik I ndidibana rhoqo rhoqo kwenye yee-nightclub. Uza apho kunye nomlingane (njengokuba ndiqonda, uLena akazi). Kwaye andiyiqondi yonke loo mbuzo: unesizungu okanye unonwabo lomfazi wanamhlanje? Kodwa ...
Ngaba ndiloyiko lonwabo? Njengomxholo-ngokusemgangathweni ndiyesaba, kodwa andiyikholelwa ngokwenene kuyo. Oko kukuthi, inene, sinokucinga ngolu hlobo: umnyango unxibekile, ifowuni yaxinwa, kwaye ngaphantsi kweefestile, njengenhlanhla yayiya kuba nayo, akukho namnye uyahamba-angakhulumi okanye akuncede ... Ndiya kufunda iincwadi iintsuku ezintathu okanye ndilele, Ndiyathemba ukuba umntu ovela kwizihlobo, abahlobo okanye abaqeshwa bayakhumbula ukuba andizange ndibize ixesha elide (andizange ndingene kwincoko, andizange ndithathe le nqaku ngexesha). Baye bandifumana. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ubunzima kwi-metropolis yanamhlanje. Kwaye kwidolophu encinci akunakwenzeka, kwaye nakwiidolophana. Kuba ngexesha lethu nawuphi na umsebenzi unxibelelwano. Futhi ufunde-unxibelelwano, kunye nesisombululo seengxaki zemihla ngemihla - kunye nokunxibelelana (nangona kungenjalo kulungile). Kwaye khawucinge ngolu hlobo - kwindlu edibeneyo - umfazi otshatileyo. Myeni, masithi, wahamba nohambo kunye nomnye osebenza naye ... Okanye, makulungele, naye makangeniswa kwihostlu. Makhe sitsho nokuba kwintsuku ezintathu iintsapho zixhalabile ... Nangona kungenakwenzeka, kuba abafazi abatshatileyo abanxibelelwano neentsapho kaninzi, kwaye ukungabikho kwakho kwemihla emithathu kungeyikuba ngumqondiso we-alamu. Ngeveki oogxa baya kuqala ukukhathazeka. Baza kubiza ifowuni yakho enqanyuliweyo yonke imihla, kwaye ke baya kuthatha isigqibo: "Ukuba kukho into enkwantyazekayo, indoda yakhe yayiya kubiza!", Bayakubeka isabelo sakho komnye umntu, baya kukhwelisa kumvuzo wabo - kwaye baya kuzincama. Abahlobo baya kuqalisa ukugqibela (ukuba basesekho), kodwa bagweba ngokucacileyo ukuba ababini abayi kulahlekelwa, baya kubuyela kwi shishini labo. Yaye iya kuba yedwa, ingenasimo, ingenakunqandwa. Nangona ehostlini uyaphiliswa nomyeni wakho.
Izizathu zokuba nomona.
Amantombazana asekhaya, aphakanyiswe kwizithethe zokwakhiwa kwendlu, abizwa ngokuba ngumntu ongatshatanga. Bakholelwa ngokunyanisekileyo ukuba kufuneka i-loneliness ihlupheke, kwaye uzame ukutshata nomntu othile. I-Khayyamov eyaziwayo "kungcono ukulambela kunokuba nayiphi na into yokutya, kwaye kungcono ukuba yedwa kunomntu" - oku akunjalo kuthi. Akunjalo! Andiyibongoli ukukhusela izibopho zomtshato. Ukuba abantu abakwazi ukuhlala ngaphandle komnye, ngoko, kufuneka ukuba babe kunye. Kodwa umtshato ngomgaqo "wokuba" ... Ukunyaniseka uphendule ngokwakho umbuzo: uthini umfazi otshatileyo, unokuthini na?
Impendulo iyazibonakalisa: umyeni. Kwaye ngokuthe ngqo?
1. Unomntu onokuthetha naye emva komsebenzi. Ow it! Akusiyo into yokuba izazi zeengqondo zicebise: ungakhathazeki ngomntu emva komsebenzi, makhe aphumle ... Kwaye indoda efanayo iya kuphelelwa amandla ngenxa yokuba umfazi "uxhoma" kwifowuni. Kwaye awunanto yokuba yinto embi: xhoma kwifowuni njengoko ufuna - ubuncinane kunye nentombi, ubuncinane kunye nomthandi.
2. Unomntu onokunyamekela. I ngxabano. Kodwa ukuba uyakukhathaza ngokwenene, thola inkabi.
3. Indoda izisa imali endlwini. Akunjalo! Amadoda anamhlanje ahlala ephuma endlwini ayenayo umfazi wabo. Yaye ngubani na okhusela ekusebenzeni nasekuzuzeni?
4. Ngomyeni akuyikrakra ukuhamba ngezitrato zobusuku: ubeka umgca kumgudu kunoma ubani ocaphukisa umfazi wakhe. Okokuqala, ixesha elide umfazi esatshatileyo, ngokuthe gqolo ufanele ahambe ngezitalato zobusuku: abafazi beentsapho abangekho kwimibutho. Kwaye okwesibini, i-superm ngokuvamile ayitshati, kwaye amadoda-ke! - njengommiselo, ungagqithisi. Ngoko kuwe - ujabule kwaye ukhululekile-amathuba amaninzi ukuhamba ngesitalato sasebusuku ngaphantsi kwesibambiso kunye nesigxina se-muscular, esinakho ukunikezela ngomlomo kumntu.
5. Umyeni ofanelekileyo wesondo ngokuqhelekileyo. Abafazi abatshatileyo bahlala bexhatshazwa ngokwesini kwaye abanakwenza nantoni na: umyeni wakhe ufuna ubuncinci ngeminyaka. Ngokungafani nabo, awuvumelekanga ukuba ubuze ebusuku ngomhlobo, mema umntu osebenza naye ukuba atyelele okanye uthenge isidlidli.
6. Abafana emsebenzini abaxoxani nomfazi otshatileyo ngamehlo ... Esinye isizathu sokuvuya ukuba akazange adibanise nawuphi na kula madoda.
7. Akuyi kuba namnye undinike iglasi yamanzi ekudala! O ukukhala okungunaphakade kwabasetyhini ngamaxesha onke! .. Ngokomlinganiselo, umfazi waseRussia uhlala iminyaka engama-14 ubude kunomntu. Ngoko ngeglasi kunokwenzeka ukuba kuyimfuneko ukugijima kuyo.
Indlela yokusebenzisa ilungu?
• Ukuzixhalabisa akunjalo. Abantu abasondeleyo kufuneka bafunde indlela yokuthetha nabo kunye nokuzonwabisa. Ukuba emva komsebenzi kunye nokufumanisa ubudlelwane kunye nabahlobo bakho unomuva wokufuna ukukhala kumntu obomi ubomi (xelela ihlaya, buza umbuzo kwintsimi yefilosofi ye-quantum), unako ukuxhoma kwiiklabhu zabathandi bebhiya (abaqokeleli bezitampu, abathandekayo bakaStalin), okanye unxibelelwano kwi-intanethi kunye noprofesa. Eton University.
• Ukuzixhalabisa akuyona imeko yinjongo. Oku kungakwazi ukuthetha. Ungalokothi uphazamise ubudlelwane kunye nezihlobo kunye nabahlobo bobuncinci: amadoda afike aze ahambe, kodwa ahlala.
• Ukuzixhalabisa kuluhlu olubanzi lonxibelelwano. Ukuba awubophelwa yimbopheleleko, ke akufanele ube phantsi kwanoma ubani na uguqula indlela ovakalelwa ngayo okanye uthanda.
• Ukuxhalabisa kukungabikho kwengxoxo. Ufunde ukuthetha, umntu ukhohliwe ukucinga. Ngokukhawuleza xa efika ngcamango, ukhawuleza ukuphosa abanye iingcamango zakhe ... Kodwa ukuba kwakungekho nabanye abantu, ingcamango yayiza kuhlala yam entloko kwaye ikhule ibe yayizikhulu zengcamango okanye ingcali yesayensi. Umntu owaziyo ukucinga, akayikukhathazeka.
• Ukuxhalaba yindlela yokudumisa. Kungenxa yokuba ukuba sele usuphendule iingcinga zakho ngokwaneleyo kwintloko yakho yedwa - hlala phantsi kwaye ubhale phantsi. Abaninzi kakhulu abasetyhini - abavela kuZinaida Gippius ukuya eAlexandra Marinina - bazenzela igama kunye neenzuzo zabo kwiincwadi.
• Ukuzixhalabisa kuyithuba lokwakha umsebenzi kunye nokufumana imali. Kungenxa yokuba ukuba ucinga ngomsebenzi emsebenzini, kwaye kungekhona malunga nokuba uthenge i-sausage, ngaba oogunyaziwe baya kuphawula.
Ngaba uyazisola ngokuba usengatshatanga? Ukuba zonke izihlobo sele zikhokhwe apho, kwaye nonke nilapha? .. Kodwa uyazi ukuba yonke into ichazwe ngasentla yinyaniso. Kwaye ukuphikisana apha akubalulekanga, ukuba akunakulungi ukuzisola ngokuphindaphindiweyo. Nangona ngamanye amaxesha ndingathanda. Kodwa ukuba, ngokwazi konke oku, ungazive uvakalelwa isilwanyana esisisithulu kwaye ufuna ukulila ngenyanga okanye ukukhawuleza ukubiza inkonzo yokuthandana - jonga kwikhalenda. Mhlawumbi unesifo sengqondo sokuqala.