Kutheni sifanele sizame ukuxolela abazali ngezinto zonke? Ngenxa yokuba ngale ndlela wenza ubomi bakho bube lula, ukhulula kwaye uzihlambulule ngokomoya wakho, ukhupha umphefumlo wakho. Ukuxolela kunye nokuxolelana zizinto ezimbini ezihlukeneyo. Unokwenza uxolo kwaye ungaxoleli, kodwa qhubeka unxibe ilitye emphefumlweni wakho, udikelele kwaye uzive uhlungu. Yaye unokuxolela ngokunyanisekileyo uze unqande ukutshabalalisa ngaphakathi. Ukungazange ulahlekise iimvakalelo eziwonakalisayo, umntu akanakuphila ngokuzonwabisa kwaye ujabulele ubomi.
Ezinye iingxaki zezobomi, iingxaki, ukwesaba zibangelwa ukukhuliswa kunye neengxaki zobuntwana. Ukuba umntu uqala ukuvakalelwa kukuba akafundanga kakuhle, uphathwa kakubi, kukho izikhalazo kubazali, ngamanye amaxesha bengazi kakuhle. Kodwa ixesha alibuyanga, ubuntwana abukwazi ukubuyiswa kwaye alitshintshe imicimbi yelo xesha. Ngako oko ukuxolelwa kwazo zonke izikhalazo kunye nokwesaba kubazali bazo kuya kunceda ukuxazulula uninzi lweengxaki zengqondo kunye noluntu.
Okokuqala, kufuneka unqume isigqibo sokuyeka ukubandezeleka, ukufumana intlungu kunye nentlungu. Ngamanye amaxesha, ukuze wenze oku, udinga ubuncinane okwethutyana ukunciphisa umnxibelelwano nomxhaphazi, ngaphantsi kokuthetha.
Ukuba ucinga ukuba uphathwe kakubi kwaye ungalunganga, ngoko kufuneka uthathe zonke iimvakalelo zakho eziphazamisayo uze uzenzele into enokukrakra ngayo, into ongayithandi ngayo abazali bakho. Okokuqala, kufuneka uhluthe i-tangle yeemvakalelo eziyinkimbinkimbi kunye neengcamango ozivelayo kubazali. Ukwenza oku, kufuneka ufune umphefumlo wakho, uxolele intukuthelo, umsindo, ukwesaba, ukungaqondi kunye nezinye iimvakalelo ezahlukahlukeneyo. Ngaphandle kwalokhu, akunakwenzeka ukuxolela. Ukuba ufumana kunzima ukuqonda yonke into yakho, unokucela uncedo kwi-psychologist, ngoncedo lobuchule kuya kuba lula.
Emva kokuhlalutya iimvakalelo zakho, kufuneka uvume ukuba ngaba abazali, kwaye nabo banabantu abaneempawu zabo ezintle nezimbi. Benza iimpazamo zabo kungekhona ngenxa yokungazithandi okanye ukuzondela, kodwa ngenxa yokwesaba ukungaqiniseki njengabazali, ukwenza into engalunganga. Banoyika ukuba abantwana baya kubagweba. Ngokomzekelo, abanye abazali bayabetha abantwana, bathukuthele ngokwabo, baze batshintshe i-blame kunye noxanduva kumntwana, bathetha ukuba ubeka isohlwayo ngumsindo kwaye uthatha abazali bakhe. Uloyiko lokungcoliseki, okwenene, aluvumelani nabazali, kuba kungekudala umntwana uya kuqonda ukuba akanetyala. Kwaye ke abantwana baya kuqala ukuqokelela izikhalazo, kunye nabazali-umva wecala. Ngoko musa ukwenza oku kubantwana. Kodwa, njengoko sele kushiwo, sonke sinabantu nje abathanda ukuzenza iimpazamo. Kwaye kulungile xa umntu ekwazi ukuvuma iimpazamo zakhe aze azilungise.
Naphezu kwayo yonke into, uninzi lwabaomama kunye nootata banqwenela abantwana babo kakuhle, kwaye indlela abayifumayo ngayo into abayifunayo kuxhomekeke kwimibandela eyahlukeneyo - ukususela kwixesha, kwiimpawu zokukhuliswa kunye nohlobo lwabazali ngokwabo, kwiimbono zabo ebomini, njl njl. .
Isigaba esilandelayo sisenzo esisebenzayo. Yenza ezimbini uluhlu. Kwisihlu sokuqala, bhala phantsi oko abazali ababenzileyo kwaye benza kakubi, kwaye yintoni eyakukulimaza, ngombono wakho. Kwaye kuluhlu lwesibini - ngabazali bafanele bathethe ntoni kwaye benze ukuze ubomi bakho bube lula kwaye buyolise ngakumbi. Yenza izintlu ngokwahlukileyo kubaba kunye nonina.
Uluhlu lokuqala lubonisa oko usakhathazekile ngabazali bakho. Kwaye okwesibini - ukuba ulindele ntoni kubo. Uya kufuneka unakekele ukuhlangabezana neemfuno zoluhlu lwesibini okanye uxoxe nabazali bakho uze ubacele ukuba bancede ngale nto.
Inkcazo yobudlova, inzondo nomsindo kuya kuba luncedo kwimpilo yengqondo. Unokuthetha kunye nengcali yeengqondo okanye nomntu omthembayo, kodwa unokuchaza iimvakalelo zakho kunye neemvakalelo ngokubanzi kwiphepha, uze ufunde kwakhona kwaye, umzekelo, utshise. Oku kuya kuba ngumsebenzi osebenzayo.
Musa ukukhawuleza izinto. Ukuxolela akuthethi ukuba ufanele ukulibala ngokukhawuleza umthetho. Musa ukuzenza ngathi akukho nto eyenziwe. Nika ithuba lokudlula, ngelixa uzama ukuxolela.
Zama ukwakha ubudlelwane nabazali ngokuthetha nabo. Usuvele uzifumene iziqalekiso ezinkulu kunye nokwesaba, ngoku uzama ukuthetha ngawo nabazali bakho. Buza kwenzeka ntoni kubo ngoko, indlela abavakalelwa ngayo. Sitshele ngeemvakalelo zakho, amava, amaphupha exesha. Unokufumana ezininzi izinto ezintsha. Mhlawumbi uya kuqonda ukuba kutheni benza ngendlela enye, kwaye ukuxolelwa kuya kuvela. Ukuba ngenxa yesizathu esithile awukwazi ukuxoxa ngxaki kunye nabazali bakho, thetha nengcali yeengqondo.
Ukuxolelwa ngokunyanisekileyo, kubalulekile ukwenza umsebenzi omkhulu kunye nobunzima, kwaye umphumo awuyazi ngaphambili, kuba unomnqweno onyanisekileyo wokuxolela umoni, kodwa awukwazi ukukwazi ukukwenza. Yindlela ende. Nangona kunjalo, ukuxolelwa kuzisa inkululeko kwiintlungu, umsindo, umsindo, ukubandezeleka nokudelelwa. Zama ukuxolela abazali bakho ngaphakathi, bayeke ukucinga malunga nokuba zininzi iinkxwaleko kunye nokwesaba abafake ngaphakathi kuwe, kwaye oku kukuchaphazela njani ngoku. Musa ukuchitha amandla akho kule nto. Khumbula ukuba abazali abahlali ngonaphakade. Ngenye imini kuya kuba nexesha apho abayi kuba khona. Ngaba asikho esinye sezizathu zokuxolela?
Khumbula ukuba nawe uya kuba okanye ngaba sele ungumzali. Ngaba wenza iimpazamo ekukhuliseni abantwana? Zibeke kwizicathulo zabazali bakho. Ngaba ungathanda ukuba abantwana bakho bakuxolele ngenxa yokungaphumeleli kwakho, ukuba ngaba baya kudala? Mamela intliziyo yakho kwaye ube nomusa.
Ukuxolela, siyazinyamekela kunye nempilo yethu, ukuxolelwa kuyaphilisa umphefumlo nomzimba. Ngoku uyazi ukuxolela zonke izikhalazo kunye nokwesaba umzali.