Ngubani esibiza ngokuba ngumntu olula
Lowo "akasithinteli" ngeengxaki zakhe, akayicombululi iingxaki zakhe kwiindleko zethu kwaye akazithethi, ebonisa ukuba sisisidenge. Esi sisona saso sigxina. Kwaye kubonakala ngathi umntu olula uhamba oko sikuphumelelanga nento esiyifunayo - imiyalelo enenzuzo, ukunyaniseka kwindoda, ubuhlobo besifazana, indlu ephakathi, indlu elwandle, abantwana abanomntwana kunye noninazala. Kwaye siyakuthandana nale mpawu okanye simkhwele, singakwazi ukuba njani kwaye uhlawula njani le nto. Kulula ukuthetha naye, kuba asiva izikhalazo malunga nokufa kwakhe kuye. Indoda elula ayichithisi imvakalelo yakhe embi kuthi, akaxhomekanga kuthi intlungu yakhe, ayiyi kuguquka umsi womnyama phambi kwethu, kwaye akayikutshitshisa ukunyaniseka, njengamaveli encwadi kaDostoevsky. "Ukukhanya" komntu okhanyayo kungumntu othe tye-unemibono nemigomo, akayikumisela iinjongo zakhe kwindoda kwaye akayikuthintela abanye ukuba baphile njengoko babona kufanelekile. Umntu olula unenkani kakhulu - kodwa kuphela kwiimeko ezikhethekileyo. Kungaba bubuqili kwaye kungakhathaliseki. Kodwa ukunyaniseka komntu ongeyonto engathinteli mntu - uyamthinta kunye nezo mpawu zabanye abangakwazi ukuzilungisa ngokulula. Umzekelo womntu olula nguKsenia Sobchak. Abaninzi bathi ihlawulwa yimpumelelo yayo ngokukhawuleza kwimibandela yakudala - uyise wayenguMeya waseSt. Petersburg. Enyanisweni, umsebenzi we-Sobchak ubonakala lula ngoba awunakubeka uxinzelelo kwabanye malunga nobunzima obunzima kunye noxanduva lwakhe "lolo msebenzi wokwenza izinto." Waphumelela kwiyunivesithi ehloniphekileyo eRussia - MGIMO, waba ngumbingeleli obalaseleyo kumabonwakude nakumarediyo, wathatha i-interview yeGQ, wabhala amanqaku kunye neencwadi, wahlalutya iimpahla kwi-magazine ethi "Ubulili kunye neSixeko." Kwaye konke oku kwenza ukuba kudlale kwaye, njengoko kunjalo, ngendlela. Ewe, uthanda ukuthusa abaphulaphuli. Kodwa ngubani owathi umntu olula kufuneka abe ngumzekelo wokuziphatha komphakathi? Akukho mntu! U-Xenia uyazihlaziya ngokuzikhethela aze azithelekise "ngesidlo semilenze yamagqabi", esingafuni wonke umntu. Ukwahlekisa iingubo ezingenanto kunye neendlela ezihlekisayo zabameli beRussia beau world. Ewe, iingubo azikhuli esikhumbeni, unokutshintsha izindlu zangasese, iimpawu ziyakulungiswa. Kodwa ngokwam, andizange ndimbambe ngokungathanga ngokungafanelekanga ngenxa yomonakalo womntu okanye ngaphaya kwezi zici ezingenakulawula: ubuzwe, ukunqongophala kwetalente. Ukuqinisekiswa okuqhelekileyo kokukhululeka kwe-Xenia - unabangani abaninzi nabahlobo abalungileyo. Akayena nje abahlobo kunye nabo, uthatha udliwano-ndlebe nabo kwaye ubhala iincwadi! Kwaye oku malunga nokukhululeka komlingiswa kuthi, okufanelekileyo kwengelosi. Abafana bangathathwa ngokudlala ngothando kunye nocansi. Omnye umfazi akazibopheli ngokwakhe, uyaphendula ngokunyamezela kunye nokupha. Inkwenkwezi engabonakaliyo uTina Kandelaki ithi "kulula ukuba ngumhlobo kunye no-Xenia" - uthetha kakuhle kwaye unceda kakhulu. Abakwa-Ksenia abaqashileyo nabaqeshi bahamba kakuhle. Ngesinye isikhathi ngekati elikhulu elimnyama lagijima phakathi kwakhe nonina. Kodwa u-Xenia akazange amxelele ngaye kuluntu. Ukudibana kwamanqaku abo kwakulula ukuwabelana, ukwazi indlela ezithakazelisayo ngayo iinkcukacha zothando lomnye. Kwaye malunga neengxabano zasekhaya zazithe cwaka - inzima inyanzelisa, iphazamise abanye.
Kutheni kulula ukuba umntu olula aphile
Uyamnceda kulabo abakujikelezile kwaye uyamenywa ngokukhawuleza ukuba atyelele, wamenywa ukuba asebenze aze ahambe kunye. Ukukhanya kukumvumela ukuba atshintshe amaqhinga akhe ngokuxhomekeke kwimeko kwaye uphumelele. Cinga ukuba awuzange wabuze nabani na into, kuba kwakungekho mfuneko, kodwa kwakudingeka ukuba ugcine indawo yomsebenzi ngexesha lekhefu lokubeleka - cela ubuhlungu kunye nokuqhubeka, kwaye akukho nto kuwe ayiyi kuphuka kwaye ayiyi kuqubuka. Ndazijonga njengomfazi ozimeleyo, andizange ndithathe isinyithi ezandleni zam, andizange ndibeke ipoyipi ephoyiweyo kwisitofu, kwaye ngoku ndiyathandana kwaye ndifuna ukwenza into endiyithandekayo kwintanda yam. Awuyi kunyuka kwibhotile kwaye ungaboni - "indlela endandiyifumene ngayo kwaye ndayifundiswa, ndaxhomekeka, ndihlaziswa, ngensimbi kunye nasekhitshini." Uyaqonda ukuba zonke ezi meko zidlulileyo. Ngoko kutheni ihla? Uthando luya kutshintshwa ngothando olungapheliyo, kwaye ke umkhonzi uza kubonakala kwindlu. Okanye iya kutshabalalisa, kwaye loo ndoda iya kuhamba-kwaye i-trousers nayo iya kuthatha. Kwaye njengabo bonke abantu abalula uzinamathele kwixesha elingapheliyo - mayeke. Kuya kuba nomnye. Awulwi nobomi - buhamba nawe kumlambo.
Ngubani oyindoda enzima?
Indoda enzima ixinezela kuthi, inzima kuye. Kwaye intloko yakhe ivela kuye, njengoko ikhula iingxaki ezingaphendululwanga, umbono wakhe ongathandekiyo wehlabathi kunye neemvakalelo zakhe. Uhlala egxininisa intengo ephezulu anikwayo. Uyaziqinisekisa kwaye asebenze ngokubambisa abanye ngaphandle kobubele kunye nokunyaniseka. Ngamanye amaxesha utyundela inyaniso yesisu ngokunyanisekileyo ukuba akukho ndawo yokuhlala. Uhlala enenkani kwaye unxininisa ngokwakhe, kwinto ezincinci. Ukunxibelelana naye - kungathi imoto ikhulula. Ndifuna ukubaleka kuye kwaye ndize ndihlangane kwakhona. Ngaphandle koko, umntu onzima unetalente, ukhaliphile, unomusa kwaye uziphatha kakuhle. Abagxeki kunye nababukeli bayamhlonela umdlali weFaina Ranevskaya, ukulila indlela encinane adlala ngayo iindima ezintle, uzive uxolo ngenkohlakalo yakhe ebomini bakhe kunye nobudala bakhe obudala obudala-ngaphandle kweglasi yamanzi engabikho mntu wamnika yona. Batshutshisa uRanevskaya ngenxa yokuba bengakhathazeki ngengqondo eqaqambileyo. Kodwa zonke iingxaki uRanevskaya azingekho kwiqondo elibukhali, kodwa ukusuka kwindoda enzima-enzima, njengobunzima bomzimba, umlingiswa. URanevskaya wayengumhlobo oqinileyo nobuhle kunye neenkwenkwezi ze-movie uLyubov Orlova, wayiboleka loo mali waza wayidla endlwini yakhe. Kwaye ngelizwi elikhulu: "U-Orlova ngumdlali obalaseleyo. Into enye ayiphuthayo yakhe-ilizwi lakhe. Xa ehlabelela, kubonakala ngathi umntu uphonsa kwisitya esingenanto. " Ilizwi lalo libuthathaka kwaye likhwaza. Kodwa akusekho u-perekovat, ngoko kutheni umkhathaza intombi kubagula-ngenxa yegama elibomvu okanye ngenxa yomona? ULuvv Orlova Ranevskaya wabuhlonipha ngeetalente zakhe kwaye uthembeke kuye, kodwa ezinye izihlobo ezivela eRanevskaya zanyuka. Akunakwenzeka ukuba umlawuli uya kunika umdlali wendima ebalulekileyo ukuba, ngokuphendula wathi: "Faina, udla yonke icebo lam ngeenkolelo zakho!" Uthi: "Ndivakalelwa kukuba ndizele ukuphanga." Ngoko uRanevskaya wathetha nomphathi omkhulu waseRashiya uZavadsky. Wayengacingi ukuba kuyimfuneko ukuba anqobe umlinganiso wakhe onzima kwaye akazange azithobezele ukuchaza. Umlawuli wagqiba ukukhamuluka esithi: "Phumani kwi-theater!" Waphendula wathi: "Phuma kumbukiso!" Bahlala bexhomekeke kuyo: umlawuli omkhulu kunye nomdlali omncinci uyaqonda ukuba abanakuhlala ngaphandle komnye. Kodwa i-sediment yahlala. Kwaye ukuba uZavadsky akakwazanga ukunikela indima kaRanevskaya, akazange akhiphe, ukuze angangcikizwa nguye, ahlaselwe ngokuphindaphindiweyo aze athunyelwe. Umdlali omhle wokudlala umdlalo uViktor Rozov, umbhali womdlalo odumile obizwa ngokuba ngu "Everlasting Living", owayedla ngoRanevskaya: "Umdlalo wam wokugqibela wawuphumelele! Kwakukho imfazwe yangempela phambi kwebhokisi yeofisi! "URanevskaya wathi:" Abantu babekwazi njani ukubuyisela imali? "Ngaphandle koko, wayenomqondo olula, ngokuthe ngqo nangengqiqo njengomntwana. Kwaye akukho nto ekhethekileyo kwidilesi yomntu ongenakucinga. Ndineentombi, into enjengeRanevskaya. Ndiyazi ukuba ndifuna uncedo, uza kuza kum ebusuku obini. Kodwa ngaphambi kokuba adibane naye kwi-cafe yokunxibelelana ngobuhlobo, umntu kufuneka agxininise, aqoke amandla aze aqinise iinqwelo ezichasene nezixhobo zakhe kunye nokunganeliseki ngonaphakade kunye neentliziyo zabantu.
Baphi abantu abanobukhulu nabanzima
Abazalwanga, baba. Ngokwenzululwazi, sizalelwa ngaphandle komntu. Ekuzalweni, kunokuphela komzimba - unobundlobongela, njengesiqhwala, okanye ukudabuka ngokuzithelekileyo, njengento enyibilikisayo, ngokukhawuleza kunye ne-agile njenge-sanguine, okanye iphosa, njenge-phlegmatic. Sifumana ubuchule kunye nokuthambekela-umzekelo, ukuthanda izulu nokufunda izinto ezintsha okanye ukufundisa nokufundisa. Kwaye konke oko. Umdlali esiwufumanayo ngexesha lobomi. Emva kwakho konke, umlingani isimo sethu sengqondo kuthi nakwabanye, kunye nemikhwa yethu. Isiseko sibeke umama kunye noyise, de kube umntwana abuyele ezisibhozo. Emva koko uphenjelelwa isikolo kunye nezihlobo. Abanye bethu bafumana ithuba elihle kakhulu kubazali bethu: umntwana othembekileyo nothandekayo uhlala kwabanye, akacinezeli abanye, akayikumisela uluvo lwakhe kunoma ubani kwaye enze, njengoko ebona kufanelekile. Kwaye abanye bayakrokra uxolo kunye nokungahoywa koluntu. Kwimeko nayiphi na imeko, eneminyaka elishumi elinesihlanu okanye elishumi elinesibhozo, abanye abantu sele besivimbe ekubeni senze. Kwaye sikhululekile ngokupheleleyo kwiimpembelelo zabanye. Nanku yamkelekile ukumemeza: "Yintoni ekhulile-eyakhulile!" Kwaye ubomi bam bonke, ukuba akunjalo, ukukhalaza ngabazali nakwesikolo: Andifundanga kwaye ndafundiswa. Kodwa eqinisweni kuyisicatshulwa-nto esilungileyo. Xa uneminyaka engamashumi amabini ubudala, uhlobo aluchaphazeli abanye - abazali, indoda, abahlobo. Umama wentombi endala, kunye nayo yonke into enomnqweno, ayifuni ekuhlaleni kwakhe. Indoda ayiyi kumenza i-sensitive, intombazana iyasebenza. Ubushushu bakhe buyakushintshwa yedwa phantsi kweempembelelo zakhe ngokwabo nangobomi. Sinikwe ukwenza uhlamvu lwethu lulula okanye lunzima. Ukhetho lwethu.
Ukuze ususe, kufuneka ulinganise ubuncinane
Kukho ixesha elithile ebomini xa sisendleleni ehamba phambili phambi kwesithintelo. Yintoni endiyenzayo ukuba ndiyithembele: ukuba ilula kwaye ikhuphuke ngaphezu kwayo - okanye ilukhuni kwaye iqhube igalelo kuyo? Ukuze ukhule, kufuneka ulahle i-ballast. Yaye le nto ibuhlungu kakhulu. Ndimele ndilahle izinto ezininzi ezintle entliziyweni yam: "Ndihlala ndihamba", "Ndiyisela kuphela itiye yeqhamo", "Ndivuka ngo-10 ekuseni." Yaye yintoni ifu legazi eliyigazi eliwela kwicandelo le-ballast: "Ndihlala ndixelela inyaniso", "Ndiyakukhusela ubulungisa", "Uthando luhlala lulungile!". Ngexesha elifanayo ulahla intsikelelo ezintliziyweni zasekhaya: "Sasihlala sigubha uNyaka omtsha kunye nosapho" okanye "Intsapho enkulu inamandla amakhulu". Ucinga ngokugqithiseleyo izilo zakho zangaphakathi - umzekelo, umnqweno wokukhuthaza ukwesaba kwabanye kunye nokuzonwabisa. Kwaye ucinga ukuba ingaba le nto ifihliwe kwisiqu ukuze ungasabani nantoni na, okanye ukuba uyayigcina intamo. Eyokuqala kunzima, okwesibini ayinakwenzeka. Ekugqibeleni, uphonsele ngaphandle konke okusemgangathweni, ukulungele ukufumana imikhwa emitsha nokuqonda ezinye iinkqubo zabantu, uyakwazi ukujonga ubomi obuvela kwimibono eyahlukileyo, awuyikwesabisa nantoni na ukusilela kwakho kunye nokungabikho. Kwaye, njengengelosi, uphuma ngaphezu kwehlabathi kwaye ubona: akudingeki ukuba uvelise nantoni na kumphathi kulo msebenzi - ixesha lokukhangela elitsha, kwaye akukho nto yokucaphukisa nomhlobo - ixesha lokumxolela ngenxa yephutha elibi. Kwaye nantsi apha kwiofisi entsha apho uxabiseke kakhulu, kwaye intombazana exolelwe iyancenga ihlombe lakho kwaye ikufungele ubungqina obungunaphakade. Ukulungelelanisa kufuneka uhlawule ngento yokuba uzihlafuna kwaye uhlaziya rhoqo. Ngamanye amaxesha uyaxolisa ngokugqithiseleyo yonke into owaphula ngayo. Nangona ukuba umkhuba omubi ukutshaya phezu kombe wekhofi. Kwaye ngamanye amaxesha, emva kokuyeka kakhulu, uziva uphelile kwaye ufikelela kwiZen epheleleyo, xa kubonakala ngathi akukho nto ibalulekile. Kwaye ke kuyimfuneko ukuxabana nomntu ukuze ube nzima. Impawu zakho ezimbi, zifakwe kwisifuba esingokomfuziselo, kwikhoneni lokuqaphela, ngokukhawuleza zidinga ukurhoxiswa, kwaye kufuneka ubambe iqhosha eliqiniweyo ukuze zingaphumi, zichithe amandla akho kunye neentliziyo zakho, zibangele ubuhlungu kunye nokunganakwa ngamanye amaxesha. Kwaye ke kufuneka ukhulule "i-monster" yakho inkululeko, ukuze ungaqhubeki kuxinzelelo. Ngako oko, enye yezona zibhinqa ezigqithiseleyo endingazibona ebomini bam, intandokazi yendalo yonke kunye nenkoqobo yangempela, ngezinye izihlandlo ivumela ukukhanya kwezinto ezintle ukuba iindlebe zakhe zitshise ezindlebeni zabantu bonke. Enyanisweni, ukhetha ukufakaza nje kuphela abo bathenjwayo kwaye banamandla ngokwaneleyo ukumelana nobushushu bakhe kwaye bangadani. Ubuthakathaka, unamahloni kunye nothando oluvela kuye alufumaneki.
Ingxaki enkulu yindoda enzima
Akunakwenzeka kunoma ubani. Kwaye ihlaselwa rhoqo ngabanye abantu. Indoda ekhanyayo yabaleka phezu kwabo kwaye, ukuba akafuni ukwenza oko ngenjongo, akazange amthinte nabani na, kwaye indoda enzima yayidlulela kuyo. Kucacile ukuba abantu bayathukuthela, xhathisa, babeke iintonga zabo kwivili, bebambelele. Kwaye umntu onzima uhlala elwa nomntu okanye ukhuselwe kumntu. Ngamanye amaxesha indoda enzima ibonisa abanye ubunzima kunye nobuqhetseba bomlingiswa wakhe: "Ndiyongendawo kwaye ndibuhlungu" -kuziqhenya ngokukhethekileyo: "Andiyi kuhamba nobuntu bam" -zeze amlindele ngasese izilo zakhe ukuba zithande naye. Kodwa siyizizwe zasemzini, njengomthetho, ongenabubele. Sinabo. Kwaye siyaziphepha abantu abanzima.
Umfazi njenge-champagne - amathumba, kodwa akafudumala
Ayikho impendulo engafanelekanga yoluhlobo lomntu olungcono. Mhlawumbi, kuba ibhinqa yonke into iyadingeka ngakumbi. Ngokomntu, kubonakala kum ukuba isilumko esinzima sisamkelekile kumntu kwaye akanakukhathazeka kumfazi. Umntu onobubele obunzima, u-zanudlivo-ongenamathemba-unamathele-okanye unobunzima-obungenangqondo-onobuqili, njengoDkt House, mhlawumbi emsebenzini uyaphumelela, kwaye siyabahlonela, abahlobo bayayixabisa. Ibhinqa liya kuza kuye, ngubani oya kulungelelanisa naye, kwaye uya kuvuya ebomini bakhe bentsapho. Kwaye ngokuphathelele uthando lwendalo yonke-indoda ayinomdla kuyo. Kwaye kwintombazana kukho kufuneka kube nokukhanya, kukhwankqisayo: kuza, yaphefumlela wonke umntu, yalala, yalala-yaza yahamba. Kwaye abaphefumlelweyo abaphantsi kunye nobuso obukhanyayo basebenza yonke imini. Ibhinqa elikhanyayo likulungele ukukhokela abaxhasayo, abahlobo kunye nezihlobo ngenxa yesandla sakhe, ukudansa, ukukholisa nokuthokoza. Amadoda afana nala mabhinqa, abahlobo babo batyelelwe kubo. Kwaye kuthi kubaluleke kakhulu - ukuba sithande ... Siningi kakhulu ininzi. Ubume obunzima bhinqa ngumqobo omkhulu kumtshato. Kwaye akukho buhle buya kumhlawulela, kuba abantu abavumelani nabasetyhini. Bayasinyamezela - kwindawo ethile. Kwaye yonke into, umtshato okanye ukunakekelwa. U-Naomi Campbell - ubuhle be-panther-ayengadingekile kunoma ubani, ekubeni umlinganiswa wakhe unzima kwaye unganelisekanga: waphonsa ifowuni ephathekayo kubakhonzi, ipaparazzi yambetha ngesikhwama, yazama ukukhangela amehlo akhe ngenxa yempahla elahlekileyo. Andizange nditshatile, nangona sele ndiyitshintshile iminyaka yeshumi, kwaye kungekhona ngenxa yokuba andifuni - kungokuthi akukho mntu uyithatha. Ngaphandle kokuba uMninimzi waseMoscow u-Doronin adibanise kunye naye-kwaye awuhlalise kwindlu eyahlukileyo ukuba ahlale ehleli.