Iingxaki ekuphuhliseni ubudlelwane phakathi kwamadoda nabasetyhini

Inzululwazi ezininzi ziye zazama ukufunda iingxaki ekuphuhliseni ubudlelwane phakathi kwamadoda nabasetyhini. Izazi-nkcubeko, izazi-mlando, i-anthropologists kunye nabadlali beegografi banomdla ekuqondeni into engaba yinto ebalulekileyo ebusini bomtshato.

Ngenxa yoko, iipundits zikhethe iingcamango ezininzi zokuqonda ukuba yintoni - ingxaki kwiintsebenziswano kunye nendlela yokujongana nayo.

Kuze kube ngoku, ezinye iingcali zikholelwa kwingcamango ye "push". Kuphawulwe ukuba iimvavanyo ezinzulu ebomini kwindoda kunye nomfazi, njengokufa kwezizalwane, izifo, ukubanjwa okanye ukunyaniseka, kunokucima ubudlelwane obuqinileyo. Nangona kunjalo, iminyaka emva kokuvela kweengcamango eziphambili njengesizathu sokungahambelani, kubakho ukucaciswa okubalulekileyo: akuyiyo yonke imilinganiselo yeesibini ezidibeneyo. Ezinye izithandana ziza kunye ngexesha leengxabano kunye neengxaki.

Ngoko ngokuhamba kwexesha, kwengqondo kunye nakwizentlalo, kwakukho iingcamango "zokuphuhlisa inkqubo." Ngoku iinzululwazi ziye zazama ukubonisa ukuba naluphi na ulwalamano olusuka ekubeni novelwano olulula kumthanda, kwaye emva koko ubuyele kwindlela esuka ekuthandeni ukuya ekukhunjeni nasekukhungeni. Le ngqungquthela iphinde iphosakele. Iingxaki ekuphuhliseni ubudlelwane, njengoko zivela, zigqitywe ngabanye abatshatileyo. Oku kuthetha ukuba ngoko, akukho mgca oqhelekileyo wokuphuhliswa kobudlelwane kuzo zonke izibini zothando.

Iingcamango zentlupheko yokuphuhliswa kwekhalenda ziqhutyelwa kwizengqondo zentsapho. Oko kukuthi, kukho izinto ezinobungozi, ezinokuthi zenzeke kwiimeko zentsapho, apho zonke izibini zingabakho ukungqubuzana okanye ukungaqondani. Kungatsholwa ukuba bonke abaphandi banamhlanje bentsapho kunye nobudlelwane basebenzayo ngaphakathi kwesikhokelo seenkcukacha zekhalenda zeengxaki. Kuphela nje ingxaki yokuphuhliswa kobudlelwane phakathi kwamadoda nabasetyhini iqwalaselwa ngokucacileyo - kwisiseko seengcamango zonke. Ewe, ezinye iindwendwe azikwazi ukumelana nezilingo ezinzima. Ewe, ezinye izibini zihamba ngokudakalisa iimvakalelo kunye nokuphuhliswa kobudlelwane. Kwaye, iindawo zokuqhuma kunye nezihlandlo ezinokuthi ziqhubise ngokugqithisileyo zichaneke ngokugqithisileyo zichongwe ngokugqithisileyo ngabazinzulu. Kodwa konke oku akufanele kusebenziswe ngokungacatshangwanga kwiqela elilodwa.

Kuya kuba luncedo ngakumbi ukuqonda ukuba yintoni ebangela ukuba kube neengxaki, kwaye yintoni eyanciphisa umngcipheko wokuphuhliswa kobuhlobo obubi. Sichaza kuphela izizathu ezimbalwa zokuba ulwalamano lwentsebenziswano.

Isakhiwo sokuqala nesona siqhelekileyo sabantu abalahlekelwa yintando ngobugovu. Ngethuba lethu, ukuzingca kuhamba ngendlela, kukhuthazwa ngumabonwakude kunye neziqheno "zeengonyama zehlabathi." Ubomi bokwenene, ukuzingca kubangqina ukwakha ubudlelwane. "Mxelele yonke into oyicingayo, ungamvumeli ukuba asebenze, afunde indlela yokuzithethelela, indlela yokufumana umntu ukuba enze oku okanye oko," - isiluleko esinjalo kunomaphi na umagazini we-glossy. Kodwa imanyano yeegoists ezimbini yinto ezinzileyo. Ukuba ufuna ukuthabatha, unganiki nto ngokubuyisela, ngoko awufanele ulindele ubudlelwane obuqinile. Ukuphuhliswa kobudlelwane obubalulekileyo kubalulekile ukuba ukwazi ukunika umntu onomthandayo ixesha, ukwabelana naye ngononophelo, ukuthatha inxaxheba ekuxazululeni iingxaki zakhe.

Isibini sesiganeko esasasazekayo, esonakalisa ubudlelwane phakathi kwebini, yimpikiswano yemali. Ngokukodwa kakubi ekuphuhliseni ubudlelwane kukufumaneka kweemali-mboleko eziqhelekileyo, iimali-mboleko okanye amatyala amakhulu kubahlobo. Abantu bathatha imali ukuphucula ubomi babo bemihla ngemihla, ukuphucula izimo zabo zokuhlala iintsapho zabo, kwaye bangenzi thuzelo olukhulu, kungekhona nje ngobudlelwane bobubele kwintsapho. Inkxwaleko yezoqoqosho ehlabathini lonke iyanciphisa igalelo elibi le nkalo, kodwa ukuba ungumntu othandekayo, cinga ngekhulu ngaphambi kokuba wabelane naye uxanduva lokuboleka imali. Ewe, kwaye umxhomekeke ekubeni wakhwela emngxoweni wetyala ngenxa yee-whims yakho, nayo, ayikufanelekanga.

Okwesithathu esibaluleke kakhulu ekukhuseleni kweengxaki malunga nokungenelela kwabazali beli qabane. Kunzima kakhulu kulabo baxhomekeke kubazali babo ngemali okanye baphoqelelwe ukuba bahlale nabo. Ngenkcubeko yaseRussia, alas, abazali bafikelela ekuqeshweni kwabo bantwana bazama ukubanceda ngeengcebiso okanye ngezinto eziphathekayo. Kwaye ngokusoloko ukugcinwa kwabo kuba ngumsebenzi ogqithiseleyo, okona kwindlela eyingozi kakhulu ekuchaphazela ubudlelwane phakathi kwendoda nomfazi.

Isizathu sesine senkxalabo phakathi kobudlelwane buninzi kunye noxinzelelo. Umhlali wanamhlanje osebenza kwi-metropolis usebenza kakhulu kangangokuba ngamanye amaxesha uya ekhaya kuphela ukulala iiyure ezimbalwa. Akakwazi ukubona umfazi okanye abantwana bakhe ngeveki okanye kwinyanga. Kakade ke, kule meko, kungekhona kwiingxoxo eziqinileyo okanye ngesondo sokuqala. Phakathi kwezithandani kukho ukuhlukanisa, okokuba, xa kungakhange kuthethwe ngayo, kunokukhokelela ekutshatyalaliswa kwesi sibini. Ngokuqinisekileyo, kubandakanya ukukhathala nokucaphukisa, kunye neziganeko ezinqabileyo, ezinokubangela omnye okanye bobabini ukutshatyalaliswa okanye ukuguquka. Kwaye ezi ziganeko ezibalulekileyo nakubani na isibini.

Ngoko ke, ngokubanzi, akukho zikhokelo zendawo yonke kwizinto ezibangela iintlungu ebubudlelwaneni phakathi kwendoda nomfazi. Ngalinye ixesha le nto ingaba yintlangano yeziganeko ezenza nayiphi na ingxaki ebuhlotsheni bomntu kwaye zifuna uhlalutyo oluhlukeneyo.