Ukungaqinisekisi
Wonke umntu angenza into engalunganga kwaye enze iimpazamo. Kwaye wakho umthandi akafani. Ngoko ke, ukuba ubona ukuba wenze into engalunganga, musa ukulilungisa emehlweni akho nangenxa yabanye. Khumbula ukuba unelungelo lokubonisa uluvo lwakho. Kakade ke, akuthethi ukuba nakweyiphi na imeko kunesidingo ukuba uqhube isityholo somntu kwaye "umbone". Kodwa nawe awukwazi ukujonga amehlo akhe onke amaphulo akhe. Ngokukodwa xa kukuxhalabisa ngqo, ukuzithemba kwakho kunye nesidima. Ukuba loo nto i-vassosorbil, ungaze uloyike ukuyichaza. Umntu onothando oqhelekileyo uya kuhlala ecinga ngezenzo zakhe. Kodwa xa eqala ukuthukuthela, akugwebe kuzo zonke izono zehlabathi kwaye akwenze unetyala, cinga ngendlela umntu akuthandayo ngayo. Inyaniso kukuba umntu onothando akanakuze avumele ukuhlazisa nokuhlambalaza umntu omthandayo, makungabikho mfazi othandekayo. Ngoko, endaweni yokufumanisa ukuthukuthela komsindo, ngokuzithoba nangokumxelela ngokuzithemba ukuba wenza kakubi kwaye ngandlela-thile kufuneka asombulule imeko, ekubeni ukuphuhliswa kweziganeko kukulungele ngokupheleleyo.
Musa ukuzihlambalaza
Ukuba ibhinqa livumela indoda ukuba imbize, yenzeke ngakumbi, yabuyela kunina, kwaye ngokukhawuleza ilahlekelwa isithunzi emehlweni akhe. Kakade ke, kukho imeko xa senza kakubi ngokupheleleyo, kwaye loo nto inokuthi enhliziyweni yakhe: "Ewe, uyisidenge." Kodwa oku kufanele kwenzeke kakhulu kangangoko ngexesha elinjalo, kufuneka uqonde ukuba unobunene kakhulu naporachili. Ukuba loo mntu uyazivumela ukuba athethe ngendlela ekhohlakeleyo ngokuqhekeza ngokukhawuleza, kufuneka ukhawule ngokukhawuleza. Mxelele ukuba awuyi kuphulaphula izinto ezinjalo kwaye ukuba akayeki, ngoko uya kufuneka ufumane inxenye. Ndifanelekile ukuziqinisekisa ukuba ezi zizwi nje. Amazwi anjalo ahlungu kakhulu kwaye acaphuke. Abahlaziyekanga wena kuphela, kodwa kunye nomntu ngokwakhe, njengomntu oqhelekileyo ucinga njengento engaphantsi kwesidima sakhe ukucaphukisa abesifazana. Ngoko ke xa kwenzeka ukuba indoda yakho ibhekile, kufuneka umise ngokukhawuleza imigaqo yakho kwaye unqande olo hlobo. Ngaphandle koko, uya kukuphatha njengombala kwaye acinge ukuba ungumuntu ophantsi kunako.
Imvakalelo
Abasetyhini abaninzi basoloko bebeka ityala kubo kuzo zonke iingxaki ezinokuvela phakathi kwabo kunye nentsha. Emva kweso siphoso, bayifumana loo mntu izaba, kwaye baqala "ukuqhubela ekhoneni" baze baziqinisekise bona bawona mbi kakhulu kwaye babeka ityala kuyo yonke into. Ngenxa yolu hlobo lwenkolelo, abafazi bayaqhubeka bexolisa kubantu kwaye baziva benetyala. Oku kuziphatha ngokukhawuleza kukutshabalalisa isidima sakho kwisistim. Ngoko ke, ukuba kukho nayiphi na i-scandals kunye neengxabano, zama ukujonga imeko ngokufanelekileyo. Ukuba uyamthanda kwaye uyamxabisa umntu, ngoko akukho nto enokuyenza ukuba umlimaze ngamabomu rhoqo. Okona ubuncinci, bobabini nizogxeka ingxaki, kwaye mhlawumbi ukuba umntu wakho wamkelwa ngephutha. Ngoko ke, ukuba uziva kwaye uyayazi ukuba uyasola, qhubeka umile ngokwakho. Umntu wakho kufuneka azi ukuba intanda yakhe inombono wakhe kunye nentlonipho yakhe. Ngako oko, akayi kuqhubela phambili umthwalo wecala kunye no-grovel phambi kwakhe. Khumbula ukuba izigwebo zakho rhoqo kwizono zabantu abaqhelekileyo ziyakucasula kwaye zenze udekise, kwaye abo bathanda ukusebenzisa abanye - iimvakalelo zabo kunye nomnqweno wokutshatyalaliswa ngokupheleleyo ubuncinci bakho kwaye wenze ngokwenene inceku yakho. Ngoko ke, ukuba awufuni ukulahlekelwa yinto yokuzixabisa, soloko uyazi ukukhusela izimvo zakho kwaye ungahambi ukuya kuxolelana de kube loo mntu eyazi iimpazamo zakhe.
II Complexes
Ngokuqhelekileyo abafazi baqala ukulahlekelwa yintlonelo phambi kwabantu ngenxa yeengxaki zabo. Ngokukodwa, ukuba intombazana icinga ukuba umntwana wakhe uhlakaniphile kwaye ulungile, kwaye umfazi omncinci kwaye uhlala esithiwa abafanelekanga kwi-muzhchin. Ukuze umntu ahloniphe wena, ungaze uziphathe ngendlela efanayo. Nangona ekuqaleni uya kukukhohlisa, ngoko ekugqibeleni uya kuqala ukunyanzelwa. Inyani kukuba amadoda athande abafazi abazithemba. Khumbula into enye: ukuba ungum swami, ngoko ubona kuwe bobabini ubuhle, nobubele, nangaphezulu. Ukunyelisa, uyazithoba kwaye uhlazisa. Wonke umntu ufuna ukuba nezona zinto zilungileyo kunabo. Kwaye ukuba awuziboni njengaloo nto, ngoko kutheni umfana wakho kufuneka akhathazeke kangaka? Khumbula oku njalo, kwaye nangayiphi na imeko, ungaqali suku ngalunye uthetha malunga nendlela abanombulelo ngayo ukuba uyazithoba ekukhethweni. Unombulelo ngothando, unonophelo, ububele, kodwa akukho ndlela yokuba uyazisola ngesiphoso kwaye wanyamezela ngokubhekiselele, kodwa kuvela njengoko utshoyo.
Utshintsho kunye nokwahlukana
Kwaye, ekugqibeleni, kukufanele ukukhumbule malunga nesiganeko esibi kakhulu, kodwa siyinyani ngokwenene ebomini besibini: ukunyaniseka nokuhlukana. Ukuba umntu wakho utshintshile okanye wenza isigqibo sokuba ahlule nawe, kufuneka wenze konke okusemandleni akho ukugcina isithunzi sakho, kungakhathaliseki ukuba kunzima kangakanani. Ngoko ke, nangona kunjalo, zama ukuyibuyisela kwaye ungathembisi ukuba uya kuxolela yonke into, ukuba yinto kuphela. Ngoko uyazithatha. Ngokungazange ungayithandi, ukuba umntu wayeka ukunithanda, akufanele ufune ukumgcina kwaye umbuyise nganoma iyiphi indlela. Ngaphandle koko, iinzame ezinjalo ziguqulwa zibe yinto yokunyanzelisa, ukuncenga nokuhlaziswa. Khumbula ukuba ulwandle lwama-sms kunye neefowuni zobusuku obubusuku bobusuku ngokuvuma kothando awusoze uphumelele iimvakalelo zabantu. Ngoko uvele umkholise ukuba uyisidalwa esingenanto esingayilungisa kwaye siphonswe, kodwa siya kusasa. Ukuba, emva kokuhlaziswa kwakho, umfana uya kubuya, uya kukuphatha njengokuba uyingcaka yakhe ekupheleni kweentsuku. Ngoko ke, ukuba ufuna ukuhlala uzijonga phambi kokuba umfana - ukuyikhulula ngentloko yakho ephakamileyo xa ungazama ukuyifumana. Nangona oko kukubuhlungu, nokuba kunjani na ukuba uya kuba ngumfazi wokwenene, kungeyena ofunayo.