Uyakucasulwa kwaye uphosa umlomo wakho ngesaphetha-i- anecdotes iqala malunga nalabo abathintekayo kunye nabo abaphatha i-vodka. Unomsindo, uzama ukuphendula ngokukhawuleza kwaye uqala ukudibanisa amagama - ukuhleka. Ngokuqinisekileyo uhlala phantsi kwaye udibanise umlenze, kodwa ngokwenene uzive ngathi unomdla ongathandekiyo, kwaye kutheni ufuna ukuhlangana kunye nenkampani kule meko.
Kodwa musa ukuphelelwa lithemba, nangona uzame konke okusemandleni, kwaye kubonakala kuwe ukuba, mhlawumbi, ngaba abantu abanjengawe babanjwe kwaye akukho nto ongayenza ngayo. Enyanisweni, akukho nto enokwenzeka kulo mbandela. Kodwa! Ngaphambi kokuba ulungele ukutshintsha yonke into, kufuneka wenze isigqibo esisodwa esibalulekileyo - ukuzikhethela ukuba ngaba uyifunayo ngokwenene.
Ukubaluleka kwesi sisombululo esiphezulu akupheli, kuba kuxhomekeke ngqo kuyo, nokuba ungatshintsha yonke into. Unokwenza isigqibo sokuba "Ewe, ndiya kuzama ukwenza into, kodwa ukuba kwenzeka into ethile, yonke into iya kuhlala ikhona nje." Nangona kunjalo, kulo mzekelo, unokwenza ngokukhuselekileyo ungenzi nto. le nto ayiyiyo inokukuvumela ukuba utshintshe. Ewe, ewe, kufuneka uguqule. Kungenxa yokuba isizathu sinjalo nawe. Kwaye ukuba unomnqweno wokutshintsha yonke into, ngoko kufuneka wenze isigqibo esinzulu sokwenza oku kwaye ubeke injongo ecacileyo.
Ngoko, ulungele ukutshintsha yonke into kwaye ungabi ngaphezu kwe-scapegoat kuwo onke amahlaya anokwenzeka. Ndiqaphele ukuba abaphulaphuli bakho bakuphulaphula iintetho zenu, bahleka kunye namahlaya enu, kwaye kungekhona nani, njl. Mkhulu! Ngoko ke siqale.
1. Musa ukusebenza kuluntu. Ukusebenzela uluntu kukuthetha oko ucinga ukuba abantu bangathanda ukukuva. Ngokukhawuleza kuvela ukuba abafuni ukuva oko akucingayo. Emva koko kuvela ukuba uya kuthetha into eya kuba, njengoko besithi, nakulo dolophu, okanye kwisixeko. Ezi nkcazo zikhokelela ekubeni uyifumene nesidenge, onokumhleka naye. Kodwa uyazi ukuba uthetha oku kungengenxa yokuba wacinga njalo, kodwa ngenxa yokuba wacinga ukuba kuya kufana nokuva abanye. Kuvela ukuba uzilimazile.
2. Zama ukubhala uluvo lwakho ngento yentetho. Usetyenziswe ukuba akukho mntu uphulaphule uluvo lwakho, ngoko ke ungayichitha amandla akho kwigama layo. Enyanisweni kunzima ukutsho nje ukuba owokuqala wayeza engqondweni ngaphandle kokucinga, kwaye kwaye ukhathala kukuba "akukho mntu uhlala ephulaphule." Nangona yonke inkampani yakho sele isele ijwayele kuwe, akuthethi ukuba abanakuyifumana. Ngoko ke, qalisa ngeqiniso ukuba uzama ukucinga malunga noko bathethayo, kungekhona ngento ethile. Zama ukulandela isihloko sesincoko kwaye ucinge ngendlela wena uphatha ngayo ingxoxo. Kule meko kuphela, ukuba neengcamango ezicacileyo, unokuyivakalisa. Ukuba ufuna ukuphumla, kwaye isihloko asiyithandeki kuwe, ngoko uyayiphonsa, ungaphakamisi. Emva koko awuyi kuthetha ukunyaniseka.
3. Musa ukuphikisana. Ingxabano ngumsebenzi ongenamdla . Ngokukodwa ukuba ngokwenene awukhathalele ngokwenene oko umchasi wakho uya kuzicingela ngempikiswano. Le nkunkuma engadingekile yamathambo kunye nexesha. Kodwa into eyingozi kuwe kukuba uya kuzuza udumo lomqhubi, ongekho mnandi ukuthetha naye. Kungcono ukuba uhlangane ngamnye ngombono wakhe kwaye ungavelanga imbambano. Kwaye ukuba umchasi wakho ufuna ukuqhubeka uphikisana, ungaba neentloni ukutshintsha isihloko sencoko ngokukhawuleza okanye utsho ngqo ukuba awufuni ukuphikisa. Unokwazi nje ukuvuma ukuba akuxhomekeke kuyo.
4. Musa ukucaphuka, ungaba nomsindo kwaye ungacali. Oku akuyi kukunika into enhle. Kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu, akukho nkcazo yoko kutheni ukwenza oku. Ukuba ufuna ukucaphuka okanye ukuthukuthela, zibuze yona umbuzo othi "Yintoni na?". Musa ukudibanisa nombuzo othi "Kutheni?", Ngenxa yokuba uzakufumana izizathu zokuzimela izigidi, kodwa awuyi kukwazi ukucinga ngenjongo oya kwenza ngayo. Ukuba wenza oku, ngokuhamba kwexesha awukwazi ukukhubeka. Ukuba umntu ufuna ngenjongo yokukhubekisa, ngoko-mthetho lwakho luya kuthetha ukuba ufezekise injongo yakhe. Ukuba awukhubeki, ke nguye olahlekileyo, kungekhona wena. Emva kwexeshana, akukho mntu unokukhubekisa.
5. Ungazami ukuthetha nantoni na, utsho nje. Thetha kuphela xa unokuthile okuthethayo. Thetha kuphela ukuze ungathethi, akumele wena kunye nabaqhagamshelana nabo.
6. Musa ukuzithethelela. Ukuzifungisa, awuvumeli nje ngokuzenzekelayo ukuthobeka kwetyala lakho, kodwa kunye nokuba uzama ukucela ukuxolelwa. Ngoko ukuba umntu ekumangalela ngento ethile, tshela ukuba "yonke into ayifani ncam," kwaye nangona kunjalo, ungangeni kwizizathu ezenza ukuba wenze njalo, ngaphandle kokuba, mhlawumbi, ngokukodwa malunga nalokhu ungaceli.
7. Yiba yendalo. Xa umntu eziphatha ngokungaqhelekanga, kubonakala ngokukhawuleza. Oku akumnandi, kuba abo bakuzungezile baqala ukuziva ukuba bayakhohliswa. Ngubani na oya kuthanda xa bemkhohlisa? Ewe, kwaye ngaba nawe uhlala ufanele uyenze? Kulula kakhulu kwaye kulungele ukuba wonke umntu aqonde ukuba ungubani. Kwaye oku kufuneka uqale uhlale ungubani; zendalo.
Landela le migaqo, jonga indlela isimo sengqondo esifanele ngayo sitshintshe ngokuthe ngcembe, kwaye ungaze siphule. Awufuni ukuchitha yonke into ngenxa yomzuzwana omnye wobuthathaka kwaye uqale kwakhona? Ukongeza, ukuqala kwakhona kwakhona kuya kuba nzima nakakhulu. Akunjalo kuphela kuba kuya kuba nzima kuwe ukuphinda yonke into ukusuka kwisinyathelo sokuqala, kodwa nangenxa yokuba ixesha elizayo kuya kuba nzima ukunyanzelisa wonke umntu ukuba atshintshe isimo sengqondo sakho. Emva koko, sele sele sele iqalile ukukuphatha ngendlela eyahlukileyo, kwaye uya kubabonisa ngokukhawuleza ukuba benze konke ngaphandle. Kwaye kwakhona ukuqala ukukuphatha ngokuhlukileyo, baya kufuneka bathathe ixesha elide bavumelane nani. Ngoko qinisa kwaye uzithobele wena nabanye, kwaye yonke into iya kuvela.
Konke kusezandleni zakho!