Ngoko, ngaphambi kokuba ufunde indlela yokunceda umntu ojongene nokugembula, makhe sibone ukuba luphi uhlobo lwesifo.
Iyintoni ukugembula?
Ukugembula, nangamanye amagama i-ludomania okanye ukulaliswa kwemidlalo - kukuthi, ngaphezu kwayo yonke, isifo sengqondo esichaza isifiso esinamandla somntu wonke ukugembula. Ukugembula sele kube yingxaki yentlalo yoluntu yanamhlanje. Esi sifo sichaphazela kuphela umgijaka ngokwakhe, kodwa wonke umntu onokwenza nantoni na lo mntu. Ngokusoloko ukuxhomekeka okunjalo kubangela abantu ukuba bahlupheke baze bachithe iintsapho.
Iimpawu eziphambili zokugembula:
- Umntu uhlala ethetha kwaye ecinga ngomdlalo, ezama ngeyiphi na indlela yokuhamba kwaye adlale;
- ukudlala, umntu ulahlekelwa ngokupheleleyo ukulawula kwakhe kwaye akanakuyeka;
- Naliphi na umatshini wokutywala owenzela lo mntu kwaye akanako ukumelana nale silingo;
- abahlobo begromana - aba bantu banye baxhomekeke ngokupheleleyo kumngcakazo;
- umngcaka uyayeka ukuba nomdla kuyo yonke into ejikeleze kuye, kwaye kamva wazisa;
- emehlweni omdlali ulahleka yonke iminqweno yobomi obuqhelekileyo;
-Uma umntu ongeyidlala ixesha elide, uyaba nexhala kwaye anomsindo.
Emva kwexesha elithile, iimpawu zokugembula zanda, kwaye umntu ulahlekelwa ngokupheleleyo. Umdlalo uba ngumqondo wobomi kunye nendlela eyona ndlela yokufihla kwimihla ngemihla. I-Igroman iyakwazi ukugqithisa kwaye iqale ukuba imali kwiinjongo zabo zokudlala.
Izinto eziphambili ezibangela ukutshaya umdlalo:
1. IzeNtlalo: le nto ibandakanya iinjongo "zokulula kunye nokukhawuleza imali"
2. I-Genetic: ngokusekelwe ekuxhomekeke kwintsimi, ngamanye amagama, ukuxhamla kwiintlobo ezahlukeneyo zokuxhomekeka. Ngokomzekelo, umntu obhekene nokusela utywala kunzima kakhulu ukuba ngumngcaka ngaphezu komntu ongeliyo. Oku konke kuvela kumntu kwiijeni zakhe.
3. Ngokomoya: oku kubandakanya ukuqonda ukuba imali yinto yonke. Umntu ukholelwa ukuba imali kuphela inokumnceda ukuba aphucule ubomi bakhe. Ukongezelela, ngokubulela kulo mdlalo wokuzonwabisa, umdlali uzalisekile kwaye uyakha injongo yakhe yokuphila.
4. Iengqondo: umntu odlala kwinqanaba elincinci licinga ukuba ngokuphumelela umdlalo, uba "ngukumkani" wobomi bakhe.
Iyintoni ingozi kumntu ojongene nokugembula?
Ukugqithisa ukugembula kuchaphazela kakhulu imeko yengqondo yomntu, okukhokelela ekucindezelekeni rhoqo, ukungazinzi ngokomzwelo, kwanokuba kunokukhokelela kwisiphumo esibuhlungu (ukuzibulala).
Izigaba eziphambili zesifo .
Isigaba sokuqala. Kule nqanaba, umntu unomnqweno kwaye unqwenela umdlalo, kodwa umdlali akakwazi ukushiya umdlalo ngokwawo. Ngokuhamba kwexesha, ukunyuka kwamaxabiso okugqithisa amazinga kunye nexesha lokuvakashela iiholo zokudlala.
Isigaba sesibini. Umntu sele sele wenza umgudu omkhulu wokushiya umdlalo. Kule nqanaba, umngcakazo ufumana umzabalazo wangaphakathi phakathi kokuthanda kwakhe umdlalo kunye nokuqonda ukuba akuyimfuneko ukwenza oku. I-Igroman iqala ukutyelela amakamelo omdlalo ngokuphindaphindiweyo kwaye ngenxa yokuvuya kunye nokuzithemba kwakhe ukunqoba akunakuyeka umdlalo nhlobo. Kwinqanaba lesibini, i-gamer icinga iimpawu zomntu.
Isigaba sesithathu. Kule nqanaba, umntu ojongene nokulutha komdlalo ufuna ukuba bonke badlale. Kwaye ngoko xa uphendula umbuzo: "Ewe okanye cha? ", I-gamer iya kuthi, yeke, yeka ngowokuqala. Umntu unako ukuchitha imali eninzi yokuzonwabisa kwakhe. Nantoni na akwenzayo, ucinga ngendlela yokudlala. Kukwinqanaba lesithathu ukuba ukubheja ukugembula kuyafana konke konke okwenzekayo ngeenxa zonke. Umdlalo uba ngumqondo wobomi, uqala ukuboleka imali kwaye akukho nto inokumenza ayeke ukudlala.
Ungamnceda njani umntu owileyo kumdlalo wokulutha?
1. Ukubandezeleka kokungcakaza, okokuqala nokuphambili, kuyimfuneko ukuziqonda ukuba umdlalo awukho ngaphezu kokuzonwabisa ngokuqhelekileyo ngexesha lakho lokuzikhethela. Ngamanye amagama, umdlali kufuneka aqonde kwinqanaba lakhe elincinci lokuba ukugembula kuyinkcitho yexesha kunye nemali. Into ephambili kukuba umntu aqonde oku kwaye aphinde acinge ngezinto ezibalulekileyo zokuphila. Ukwenza oku, kufuneka uxoxe naye kwaye ucacise ukuba akayedwa, kwaye uya kunceda anqobe ukuxhomekeka.
2. Ukuze uzinqande ukufuna ukugembula, umgembula kufuneka athathe umsebenzi othile ngexesha lakhe lokukhulula. Ukungena kulo mntu ngumsebenzi okhethekileyo (umzekelo, imidlalo, ukuloba). Zama ukuqinisekisa ukuba i-gamer yachitha ixesha elininzi kunye nentsapho yakhe. Mema abahlobo kwindlu, eya kuphazamisa umdlali kwiingxaki zakhe kwaye uncede ubone ebomini into eyahlukileyo, ngaphandle kwemidlalo.
3. Zama ukuyeka yonke imithombo yemali yokugembula. Ayikho imali, akukho mdlalo.
4. Konke, ungenalo ukuxhasa ukugembula kuthetha ngemidlalo. Ukuba uyayihoxisa esi sihloko, ke umntu uya kuvala yena kwaye ukugula kwakhe kuya kuqala ukuqhubeka.
5. Ikhosi ekhethekileyo ye-psychotherapy inokukunceda ngempumelelo umntu ukuba anqobe umlutha womdlalo. Le ngenye yeendlela eziphambili zokumngcakaza. Ukuqhuba i-gamer ukuya kwiiseshoni ezizodwa kunye neengcali eziza kuba nokufumana kunye nokulahla into ebangela ukuba esi sifo. Ukongezelela, umgqirha uya kunceda umngcakaza ukuba abuye abuyele emphakathini nangokomoya.