"Ngaba udibana nabani na?", "Uza kutshata nini na?", "Kutheni unganabantwana?", "Unokulinganisela ntoni ngoku?", "Umvuzo onjani umyeni wakho?" ... kufuneka sicinge ngezizathu zokuzibuza ngale mibuzo? Indlela yokusabela ngayo kwiimeko ezinjalo? Yintoni na ukuba uthethe bani kunye nokuba ungavumeli njani abanye ukuba baphathise ubuhlobo bakho nomyeni wakho? U-Witty uyaphendula imibuzo engacacile kunye neengcamango zengqondo yengqondo zichazwe ngezantsi.
Unokuba nehlazo, uqinisekise wonke umntu ukuba uyavuya, okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, ube nempembelelo ekuphenduleni yonke imibuzo, isiphumo siya kuba sesinye. Kude wena ngokwakho ungayeki ukuxhalaba ngale nto okanye ukuba, awuyi kukhulula ukuva ezi binzana uze ugule ukusuka kwicala.
Andihambi mhlophe
Kusuka kubantwana bodwa ingxaki "," andiyithandi, "" Ndihlala ndihlala 18 "...
Kutheni ufika nezizathu ezilungileyo? Kwaye kwenzeka ntoni xa uthetha inyaniso? Zama ukuphendula izi mibuzo. Ngaba uvela kwingxoxo ngomtshato wakho? Ngoko ndixelele ngokunyanisekileyo: isithandwa sam singandibizi ukuba nditshatile. Yintoni oyikisayo? Ngaba bakho abahlobo kunye nezihlobo zakho zidibanisa izigqibo malunga neqabane lakho? Ngaba uyazi isizathu sokuba engathandi ukutshata? Ukuba akunjalo, ke sekuyisikhathi sokusombulula ingxaki kwiqabane.
Ukuba ucinga ukuba ngokutshata, ukulahlekelwa isisindo, ukuzala umntwana okanye ukuguqula imisebenzi, uya kuba nolonwabo ngakumbi, ulahlekile. Kuze ufunde ukuqonda yonke imzuzu yobomi bakho, awukwazi ukuvuyela umtshato, umntwana ozelweyo, okanye ubukhulu obutsha bengubo. Ngaphambi kokuba ufunde ukumelana ne "pochemuchkam" engapheliyo, kufuneka uyeke ukugxila kwingxaki.
Iliso ngeliso, Makhe singene endleleni yamaqhawe
Ukuba izalamane kunye nabahlobo bakho bangaziqondi iinkcazelo zakho ukususela kwisithathu, lixesha lokubeka onke amachashaza phezu kwe "i". Ekuphenduleni imibuzo yabo, cela yakho. Ngoko, ukuva: "Uya kutshata nini na?", "Ngaba uceba ukuba nezingane?" Kwaye "Yintoni umvuzo womyeni wakho?" - uthi: "Kutheni ucela?", "Uthini na umehluko"? , ubeka ekupheleni kokufa umntu ongenakucacisa.
Ukongezelela, ukugcina umgaqo wezinto ezintathu "kungekhona", unokukhawuleza ukulahla iindawo ezinzima kunye "nabacebisi abanomdla". Ngoko, akakho:
Musa ukubonisa ukuba awuyithandi le nto okanye kwesi sihloko.
Ungesabi ukuphendula ngempendulo. Akukho mntu ucinga ngeemvakalelo zakho.
Musa ukudimazeka. Ewe, mhlawumbi abo bathandekayo nabangabathandi kakuhle. Wena ngokwakho ufuna ukutshata, ube nosana uze ubonakale ungcono. Ewe, ke unenjongo ofuna ukuyilwela.
Umyeni uncedo
Ngokuqhelekileyo, "abanqwenela kakuhle" bafana nokufumana ubudlelwane phakathi kwabatshatileyo. "Kutheni adibana nawe emva komsebenzi?", "Wathini na ukulungiselela usuku lwakhe lokuzalwa?", "Uza kuba nini na abantwana?" Imibuzo enomdla iyigidi, kwaye akufuneki uphendule yona yedwa. Ukuba awuyithandi into kunye nawe, njengabanye, cinga ukuba lixesha lokuba utshatile, unomntwana, ufuna ukuya eholidini kunye, okanye ukuba umyeni udibana nawe kwi-metro, ungathuli uze uhlalise. Kukulungele ukuqala ngengxoxo. Ekugqibeleni, iqabane lakho lingaboni kakuhle kwaye akunakuze lucinge ukuba awukhululekile ngokulandelelana kwezinto. Into ephambili ayikuqala ngeentlawulo. Amadoda afana ukuba athandwe, ayimfuneko kwaye ayimfuneko. Ngoko-ke mthande umntakwenu abe nomuzwa wokuthi ufuna ukutshata naye, ubelethe umntwana kuye (isimemezelo sihlabe ngezwi), njalo njalo kuluhlu. Chaza ukuba kutheni le nto okanye loo nto ibaluleke kakhulu kuwe, khuthaza isikhundla sakho kwaye uphulaphule iingxabano zakhe. Ngendlela, izazi zeengqondo zicebisa ukuthetha nabantu ngokukhawuleza, ukukhetha amagama angundoqo. Ngokuqinisekileyo, kunzima ukuzilawula ngexesha lendibano ebalulekileyo, kodwa kutheni ungazami? Khumbula: ekugqibeleni uhlala nalo mntu, kuba uyamthanda. Ngoko, simele sihlonele yena nangoluvo lwakhe. Kwaye abanye abantu bathi ntoni-yile ngxaki ...
Bahamba ngayo
U -Irina oneminyaka engama-32 ubudala uthi: " Abazali bam befuna ukuba ndibe nayo yonke into," njengabantu . - Ngoko ke, emva kweenyanga ezintandathu emva kokuba ndidibane noGgor, phantse yonke imihla yandibuza xa sitshata. Ngaphantsi kwengcinezelo yabo, sidlala umtshato. Nangona kunjalo, uMama noTata babengacingi ukuba bahlalise. Unesihloko esitsha: xa bafumana abazukulu. Ndandifuna abantwana, kodwa kwangexesha elide andingakwazi ukukhulelwa. Bobabini kunye no-Igor babedinga unyango. Andizange ndifune ukuxelela nabani na ngale nto, kodwa emva kweenyanga ezi-7 zesoyiko ngabanye, andinakuyima kwaye ndawa. Ngendlela ekhohlakeleyo yabonisa bonke abazali kwaye ndawayeka ukuba ndibuze ngabantwana. Baye bacaphuka, kodwa ke baziyeka, kwaye isihloko savalwa. Ngokukhawuleza ndayeka ukumisa, kwaye kungekudala sasinakho konke kunye no-Igor . "
Ingcali yengqondo kwengqondo: "Ngelishwa, kudla ngokwaneleyo ukuxazulula imeko enjalo ingquzulwano," kusho intsapho yengqondo kaMaria Kashina. - Nangona kunjalo, ungalimazi impilo yakho yengqondo ukuze ugweme ukuxabana nezihlobo. Ngamanye amaxesha ukuxubha okunjalo kunokuba luncedo kakhulu. Nangona u-Irina wayecaphukile, abazali bakhe bamshiya bodwa, naye wacoceka, uxinzelelo lwengqondo lwaluphelile, kwaye kwaba nzima ukuba aphile. Ngaphezu koko, ukukhulelwa okude kulindeleke kwenzeke ngoku ngexesha elifanelekileyo. Kuyadabukisa ukuba u-Ira ulindele ixesha elide. Esikhundleni sokuhleka, kwafuneka ukhulume ngokukhawuleza nabazali bakho uze ubaxelele ngeengxaki zakho, okanye, ukuba oko akuzange kuncede, bacele (nangona ifomu elingenanto) ukuba bangazibuza imibuzo enjalo ngaphambili. "
U -Katya oneminyaka engama-27 ubudala uthi: " Andizange ndifune ukutshata . - Kwangokunjalo, kodwa kum zonke ezi zitampu, iingubo kunye nee-limousine zihlala zifana ne-vulgarity. Ewe, abazali bam nabahlobo abaninzi bangandiqondi. "Unokuba njani loo nto? Ngoko, awuyithandi uDanya! "- umhlobo wam olungcono uIlona wandixelela njalo. "Kodwa into eyintloko kukuba mna kunye nomthandwa wam ukhululekile!" - Ndaphendula konke. Ngenxa yoko, ndahlala phantsi ndabhalela bonke abantu abanentsingiselo kumxholo othi "Kutheni ndifuna ukutshata". Emva kokuchazela indawo yam ngokucacileyo, ndawacela ukuba bangayibuza le mibuzo. Kwaye ndixelela abantu abatsha ukuba nditshatile . "
Iingcali zengqondo: "UKatyya wenza kakuhle. Emva kokuba ebhalile ileta, akazange achazele kuphela umntu wonke malunga nesimo sakhe sengqondo emtshatweni, kodwa naye wazicwangcisa iingcamango zakhe, - uMaria Kashina uyachaza. - Into ekufanele uyenze ukuthetha ubuxoki kubantu abangaqhelekanga nabangabalulekanga. Kutheni udlala ngemithetho yabo, ukuba uqinisekile ukuba wenza into eyiyo? "
"Kwaye kwenzeka, kodwa ndazinikela kwisayensi, " kusho uVadim, oneminyaka engama-32. - Kwaye kwakusoloko ndibonakala ngathi uLena wandiqonda. Nangona kunjalo, ngolunye usuku ndamfumana ngeinyembezi. Kwavela ukuba wayesanda kuthetha efonini kunye nonina kwaye ngekhulu lexesha wayelungelelaniswa ukuba inyaniso ndingenzi imali kwiintsapho. Kwaye kwakuyityhilelo. Andizange ndiyazi ukuba uLela wayephulaphule uhlazo olufanayo iminyaka emininzi. Ndandithukuthele kakhulu, ndaqala ukubheka umsebenzi ohlukeneyo wexeshana, ndafumana ngokoqobo yonke into kwaye, ngokuqinisekileyo, yayikhathele kakhulu. ULena ngokwakhe waqalisa ingxoxo nam. Wayeqinisekisile ukuba yena akayi kuhlaziswa yinto yokuba uzuza ngaphezu kwam. Kwaye izalamane zingathetha ubuxoki ukuze ziphephe ukuxabana kunye neentlekele. Ngoku unina ucinga ukuba ndisebenza njengomhlalutyi kwinkampani yaseNtshona, kwaye kwisebe ndikhokelela kuphela iintetho ezimbalwa. Andinakuchasene nokuxoka kokusindiswa! "
Iingcebiso zeengqondo "Andicingi ukuba ubuxoki buyindlela efanelekileyo yokuphuma kwimeko. Kwaye kuya kwenzeka ntoni xa kungekudala okanye inyaniso ivuleka? Ndicinga ukuba uVadim noLena basencoko enkulu nabazali babo. Into ephambili akuyiyo ukoyika iingxabano kunye nokuma ngokuzithemba ngokwakho. Ukuba umama kaLenin ubona ukuba intombi yakhe iyavuya ngokwenene le meko, uya kuzincama. "
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