Zingaphi ixesha elide silithetha ukungahambi kwethu ngento yokuba ubuvila buzelwe phambi kwethu. Kwaye kungakanani na oku kuchaza iziganeko kunye neengcinga malunga nobuvila, ukuze ufumane ukulungiswa okupheleleyo. Kodwa ke, ukungahambi komntu akunakulungelelaniswa nokuvalwa kwemigca kunye namazwi. Kubalulekile ukulwa nale mpawu eyingozi phezu kwakho ngobuvila.
Ndingaziphoqa ukuba ndilahle ukusila. Kukho iintlobo ezininzi zobuvila:
ngengqondo;
yenyama;
mvakalelo;
yokudala;
ne pathological;
ukungafani phakathi kokufunayo kunye nokwenene.
Kukho neendlela ezininzi zokulwa lo buvila:
ngqiqweni;
yenyama;
mvakalelo;
buhlobo;
yengqondo;
okwethutyana.
Ezi ndlela zemizabalazo zingasetyenziselwa zombini kunye kunye nohlobo ngalunye ngokwahlukileyo. Ngokuncediswa kwindlela enengqiqo, unokukwazi ukulwa nobuvila obubonakalayo: ukuphelisa umsebenzi ongasimfuneko ngokomzekelo, kufuneka unamathele ezininzi iimvulophu kunye neencwadi, ubanike umbutho wenkampani yesithathu, oku kuya kwenza kube lula kuwe ukuba uziqwalasele. Kule meko, unokudibanisa iindlela ezininzi ezahlukeneyo - ububele kunye nemvakalelo: kwakhona, buyela kwiimvulophu, mema abahlobo bakho, baya kukunceda ngokuzonwabisa. Uza kwenza umsebenzi okhawuleza kwaye ufumane umonakalo omkhulu.
Indlela enengqiqo ukucinga ngemisebenzi kunye nokudibanisa kwabo okunengqiqo. Cwangcisa ngokufanelekileyo ukuzonwabisa okanye umsebenzi wakho. Okokuqala, kuyimfuneko ukubeka imisebenzi encinci kuqala kwaye ngokukhawuleza uye kwimeko enkulu. Ukwenza oku okanye oko, unokwabela umvuzo wakho, ukuvuselela umnqweno wokusebenza.
Indlela enengqiqo isindisa ixesha kunye nemigudu, ngaphandle kokuvumela ubuvila buqhube kwiimeko zakho. Ufezekileyo, kwaye ubuvila buya kubaleka ngokoqobo kuwe.
Indlela yokulwa nobuvila bomzimba kuquka ukusebenzisana nomzimba. Ngokuqhelekileyo sikhohlwa ukuba umzimba wethu udinga ukuphumla. Xa ukhathaza umzimba wakho nengqondo ngomsebenzi, ixesha elincinane oshiye ukudlala imidlalo. Ngoko siphumeza umzimba wethu kwaye siqala ukuvila. Ukunciphisa uxinzelelo lweentlungu kufuneka ufunde ukuphumla. Yenza imisebenzi ethile eqhelekileyo ngexesha usebenza, ukhulula uxinzelelo. Ngaba i-gymnastics yokuphefumula.
Indlela yokujongana nobuvila inengqondo . Olu lukhokelo lweemvakalelo zakho ngendlela efanelekileyo. Ngoxa uncedwa yimvakalelo unokulwa nobudenge. Ukwenza oku, kufuneka uqonde oko kukukhuthaza oku okanye loo msebenzi, kwaye yiyiphi imvakalelo ekunika yona.
Indlela enobubele yokujongana nobuvila. Oku kukusetyenziswa koluntu kwiminqweno yabo, kodwa kwimeko enye, ukuba uncedile okanye uza kubanceda kwikamva. Ngale ndlela ungayinqoba uvila lwengqondo, ngoncedo lweengcebiso kubahlobo. Yaye ngobuvila bomzimba, unokukwazi ukuhlangabezana nokunceda ngabahlobo, umzekelo, uye echibini.
Indlela yengqondo yokunqoba ubuvila. Kufuneka wenze uluhlu lwezindlela zengqondo ezikuvumela ukuba wenze ngokufanelekileyo, pha kamisa yakho kunye nabo bakufutshane nawe. Ukwamukelwa kwengqondo kuya kusebenza ngakumbi xa uzibonga ngenxa yesenzo ngasinye. Ubuvila ngokuqhelekileyo kuza xa unesifo esixinezelekileyo.
Enye indlela yokunqoba ubuvila ngethuba. Qala kusasa ngebhizinisi elingathandekiyo kuwe, umzekelo, yenza ifowuni ongenakuyenza inkani. Uze undikholelwe, uya kuziva ukuba uzive ungcono emphefumlweni wakho. Ngenxa yokuba awuyi kulinda ixesha elide xa wenze le fowuni.
Ubuvila kunye nokunyaniseka okhethekileyo kumntu, ngokuthe ngcembe uyamnqabela isiphumo esiyimpumelelo ebomini. Khumbula inyaniso engenakuguquguquka: "Musa ukulibazisa ngomso, yintoni enokuyenza namhlanje!".