Xa sibuhlungu xa sikhathazekile emnyango wethu, sesaba ukuyivula, kuba emva koko kuya kukhangela kunye nokuzithemba, nokuphelelwa lithemba, nokuphelelwa lithemba. Kodwa oku kungenako ukungabikho nto kwaye udonga lunenhlanhla. Ngokwamkela ngendlela enobubele, uya kuqonda ukuba intukuthelo ingajika njani ngamandla, ngoko intlungu ingahlakulela inceba nokuthobeka. Kwaye oku, kuya kubakho ukukhula ngokomoya. Akufanele uqhume umhambi ongamenywanga, laphula iingcebiso zabahlobo, ukuze ulahlekise le meko ngokukhawuleza. Qonda, ukuxinezeleka akuzange kwenzeke njengaye, iimeko zazise. Kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo, kukulahleka, into enhle ishiye ubomi bakho, kwaye akukho nto ibonakale endaweni yoko. Siqala ukuziva sizilahliwe kwaye singenamsebenzi ebomini. Sibona kuphela amacala amabi kwaye asiqapheli kakuhle. Kwaye nangona kunjalo awaziqondi ukuba yedwa kunye nokudandatheka esikudala, endaweni yokuhlala ngoku.
Ukuqala ukusebenza kunye nokudakumba, kuyimfuneko ukwamkela ukuba ukubandezeleka kunye nentlungu kubakho ebomini bethu. Kodwa bayahamba, kwaye ukudabuka kunokuhlala. Emva koko lixesha lokuzibuza: yintoni olahlekileyo ngexesha lokuziva uzele ubomi. Xa siqala ukuphulaphula thina, kulula ukuba siqonde ulwalamano lwethu nehlabathi.
Vumela uzive uhlungu. Zama ukuqonda ukuba yiyiphi inxalenye yomzimba, uqondisa apho ukuphefumula nokuphefumlelwa. Zibambe zonke iimeko kunye nemifanekiso efika engqondweni yakho, uze ubuyele kwinyani. Ngokuqinisekileyo, kuya kufuna amandla kunye nesibindi, kuba ukujonga emehlweni okudabuka akulula. Ufanele uzive njengomntu ongaphandle ongaboniyo loo mvalelo, akayi kulungelelanisa, kodwa nje ukhona nabo. Ungaziveki unetyala, vumela ukuba ukhale, utshise, kodwa ngokucophelela nangokuthobeka. Akukho mntu uya kukuxhasa umphefumlo wakho owonakele njengathi. Ukusuka kwesi sikhundla kuwe, yonke into iya kutshintsha ngokukhawuleza. Ngezinto eziye zahamba, unokuthula kwaye uthethe. Njengoko kukhankanywe ngasentla, ukuxinezeleka ngamnye kuthwala umyalezo ngokwawo. Yaye amava afanelekileyo ukuba sifunde ukuxhaswa kunye nokuzimela. Ukuvusa ingqondo kuya kuzisa ukuqonda ukuba awuyixhoba leli hlabathi.
Ukujamelana nokudakumba akulula. Ikakhulu kakhulu, ekhaya. Ewe, ukuxinezeleka ngakwesinye icala kukusabela ngokuqhelekileyo kwisiganeko esingathandekiyo ebomini bakho. Kodwa ngakwelinye icala - yindlela yokwenza i-melancholy, ongayivumeli ukuba ihambe. Ngokomzekelo, waqhekeka nomthandi wakho. Ujongene nentukuthelo, ukuzithemba, ukuzodwa. Kwaye, kungekhona kuphela kwiziseko zangempela, kodwa nakwii-self-conjectures. Yaye yile nto eyenza i-spleen ihambe nathi emlenzeni. Ewe, kunzima ukucima ingcinga yakho, kodwa kufuneka wenze oku ukuba awufuni ukuhamba ebomini kunye nokufakela "Andiyidingi mntu". Ukuxinezeleka kunye neemeko ezinxulumene nazo ziyodwa isigaba esifanele sidluliselwe ngentliziyo evulekileyo. Khawubulele ubomi ngenxa yezinto ezilungileyo ebomini bakho. Fumana iinjongo, ujonge kubo, kwaye ungahlali uphila. Makhe sinike iingcebiso ezisebenzayo kwiingqondo zengqondo indlela yokujamelana nokudakumba ekhaya:
• Yintoni enokuyenza ngaphandle kobunzima obuninzi, ukuyeka ukugqoka iimpahla zobumnyama. Ukuba awunayo izinto eziqaqambileyo, ungaba uvila ukuba uye kuthenga. Inceda ngokwenene. Kwiyeza elithile kukho lonke ishishini elibizwa ngokuba ngonyango lombala. Musa ukukholelwa ukuba imibala eqaqambileyo iyavuya, ngoko ubukele abahlobo bakho, yiziphi izinto ezikhethayo ngokuxhomekeka kwimoya yakho. Ukuba uyakholelwa, yikhokela ngokukhuselekileyo "umyalelo" ekhaya. Hamba iikhawulini ezikhanyayo, yenza amanqaku amaninzi kumbindi, jongela iphosta eqinisekisile ubomi eludongeni.
• Vumela ubomi bakho bukhanyise, hamba ngezitrato kwiintsuku ezelanga, jonga umlilo. Akukho ndawo yomlilo, unokukhanyisa ikhandlela.
• Hamba ujikeleze isixeko. Unokwenza ukudansa okanye ukuqhuba. Njengokuba kungenakufisa ukushiya indlu, kodwa, umzekelo, ukudansa kuwe kuya kunceda ngexa elithile ukushiya iingcamango ezingenanto. Emva koko, uya kucinga kuphela ngokuhamba kunye nomculo.
• Biza abo abangazange bavelele ixesha elide. Kulungile nokho, yenza iliso. Xoxa nabahlobo, abantu abasondeleyo - akukho nto enye ayinakunceda ukujamelana neemvakalelo ezimbi.
• Cinga ngesidlo esithile oye wafuna ukukwenza-mhlawumbi ukudweba, okanye ukukhanda, okanye ukuqhuba izifundo.
Ezi zinto ezilula, ezibonakalayo, ziza kuzisa into entle, engazange ifike ngaphambili ukuze ithathe indawo yokudandatheka. Khawukhumbule ukuba izenzo zakho kunye nezigqibo ziyakukuvuyisa.